bymyself

I'm sorry. I drank a little too much tonight. But I NEED to ask you your opinion about something. I went to the park tonight and after a few drinks. My husband came to pick me up and all he said was that " I'm nothing but a fat pig!! I'm now sitting on the couch trying to pass along/

Anna

By Myself,

That is verbal abuse and it is very powerful. Don't ever underestimate the hurt that words can cause. Have you thought about getting counselling and creating boundaries about what you find unacceptable from your husband?

nogard

(((bymyself))) your not by yourself and yes I have but its a lie its our addiction talking to us. Anna has great advice.

Kevin

CarolD

People who feel inferior
want to hurt others with words and actions.

Just because he is calling names
does not make them true.

and I bet he is not Brad Pitt either!!

Hugs

Aysha

That is just really wrong and uncalled for.
If that were me...well nevermind. Jail does not suit me right now.

I wish you would understand you are not alone and you dont have to got hrough it alone.
And that you are worth it.

I believe you know it too. Or you wouldnt keep coming back.
Words are only that. They do cut like a knife sometimes.
My grandfather was good at that.
But that is just an ignorant stupid thing to say.
We are here for you.

Dee74

People are good at handing out thoughtless cutting remarks...but we don't have to 'own' those remarks...



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bymyself

I almost feel as if I deserved everything he said to me. Because I know he has lost respect for me because of drinking. But it is really hurtful.. He was saying that I "disgust him", "I'm nothing but a fat pig", "What the hell happened to you" (pointing directly at my tummy). All this with my 16 year old daughter in her room. I'm sure she heard it. I know I have a problem but I shouldn't be spoken too that way.
Thanks for listening.

parentrecovers

i'm sorry, bymyself. no one deserves to be spoke to like that. k

Rowan

((((bymyself)))) I hope you keep posting.

ghostgirl

honey, you haven't done anything to be treated that way!! sounds like you'd be better off without him...


its better to be alone than to wish you were...

(((((((((((((()))))))))))

gg

Alive

All you need is self love!Can't nobody say you suck and be right.God does not make crap!And those moments when it all seems lost, had so many....what can i tell you other than all this journey is worth it!somehow i have to believe!

take care, they can't hold you down unless you let them...stay strong...

parentrecovers

i've posted this before, but i think it applies to do, bymyself:

my husband was talking to one of his alanon friends the other day who has an alcoholic dad who says hateful things. so here's what he does - whenever his dad says something to him like, "you're stupid" or "you're an idiot for not ...blah blah blah" - he pretends that his dad calls him a can of corn. i mean, if someone told you that you were a can of corn - you'd never believe THAT, would you?

Dee74

Theresa,
don't know you very well, but I know you don't deserve that crap...and your daughter certainly doesn't deserve to hear it...it's a power game...he pushes buttons and you feel bad....

it's just empty noise...It's hard I know...but please try and tune it out

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bymyself

Another thing I remember from my horrible night of drinking last night. He became so angry about me drinking that he slapped my glasses right off my face. I just remember that I was in total shock. Life has got to be better than this.

Theresa

Aysha

I am having a hard time with these abuse threads.
I cant say I have ever been abused. I was taught to stand up for myself.
My family is close and I hate it for anyone who were to abuse anyone of us.

I feel so bad you all let people do that to you.
I just want to go on an ass kickin fest for you.

You do not have to be treated that way.
Please know nobody can do anything to you that you dont let them.
We are all fighting an addiction and ourselves already.
Dont let people do you like that.
Isnt it enough that we are harming ourselves?
I hope you all find it in you to be strong and stand up and say enough.
You are in my prayers.

Dee74

I am so sorry. I know you have a daughter to think about besides yourself...don't know what to say except you have my thoughts and prayers.

I feel like joining in Chiy's ass kickin' extravaganza...

(((theresa)))
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NOMOMERLOTMAMMA

I too was verbally abused by my ex. And when you are down low, and beating up yourself enough for a thousand people, its the last thing that you need to hear from someone else! Abuse is abuse, verbal/mental abuse is just as bad as physical....

I don't know what else to say except that I got sober just a short 90 something days ago, and each and every day that I make it through those 24 hours, I feel better about ME. I am WORTH something. Its a great gift that you too can have honey..

Big hugs.

Karen

Change4life

Bymyself it sounds like you would be better off by yourself.

No one deserves to be spoken to in a hurtful way especially by someone that is supossed to love and support you.

I felt very bad when reading your post.

You asked for peoples opinions and mine is that there is never a point when you should give up.

There will be days when you feel like giving up, but you cant give into thayt negativity.

It willl only prolong your suffering.
i dont think your husband should be speaking to you like that at all, but i find it especially unacceptable to disrespect you in front of your daughter.

Please dont give up.

If your hubby cant find any kind words for you post here. There are plenty of us that dont want to see you hurting, and have many supporting kind words for you.

If your a fat pig then I am a can of corn!!!

I hope the rest of your night goes Ok

indigo

Learning to love ourselves is one of the most important things we can do........that man does not love himself, love isn't supposed to hurt and you should not be the one he directs his abuse at. Keeping you in my thoughts.

indie