I got my moment...
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I got my moment...
Hi All - So friday, my SO who started recovery a few weeks back, had his wine party! He wanted to take a break for 2 weeks so on the 2 week mark last week, he sent me the general invite. I am so proud of myself, I didn't respond or go to the party! I don't know much about the party, except that he did tell a friend of mine who went that he wants to call me.
I can't even explain how upset and hurt I was a few weeks back when he told me not to contact him for sometime. I had been by his side for 5 years through this and just when he started recovery, he wanted me out! At that point, I had no idea if I would ever hear from him again. The only thing I wanted was a time when he wants to contact me and I don't respond! Well, I have to say that time has come! He texted me yesterday, asking how I was and that he missed me. I didn't respond yesterday, buckled today - just wrote back, am very well!
Still a long road, I miss him - would want nothing more but to speak to him. Tomorrow is my birthday so very strange not to have him part of my life - but as you have all said, I need to continue focusing on me and fully detach and let him deal with his recovery!
I can't even explain how upset and hurt I was a few weeks back when he told me not to contact him for sometime. I had been by his side for 5 years through this and just when he started recovery, he wanted me out! At that point, I had no idea if I would ever hear from him again. The only thing I wanted was a time when he wants to contact me and I don't respond! Well, I have to say that time has come! He texted me yesterday, asking how I was and that he missed me. I didn't respond yesterday, buckled today - just wrote back, am very well!
Still a long road, I miss him - would want nothing more but to speak to him. Tomorrow is my birthday so very strange not to have him part of my life - but as you have all said, I need to continue focusing on me and fully detach and let him deal with his recovery!
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He is in recovery and having a wine party!!!!!!
Wine parties nor keggers have been a part of my recovery, what the heck kind of recovery program is he working that advocates wine parties? Sounds like an alcoholics R us recovery program!
Wine parties nor keggers have been a part of my recovery, what the heck kind of recovery program is he working that advocates wine parties? Sounds like an alcoholics R us recovery program!
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rosie, awesome! and happy birthday! it must have been horrible for you to be with him so long, only for him to disappear on you, but you sound as if you've made some great progress these past two weeks and you've learned a lot about yourself, and sometimes that's what the test is for. keep it up!
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YAY Rosie,,your an inspiration!!!!
Stay the course girl, and begin NOW to celebrate your "rebirth" next week!!!
Still rollin on the floor laughin at that one Taz 
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Stay the course girl, and begin NOW to celebrate your "rebirth" next week!!!
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I know it hurts and feels very uncomfortable... but your right, its not about him.... its about keeping that focus on you.
If it is ment to happen it will, but how much more could it be if you both have some recovery under your belts.... This will get better ... that I can promise if you just keep growing and working your program.
Happy Birthday sweetie.
If it is ment to happen it will, but how much more could it be if you both have some recovery under your belts.... This will get better ... that I can promise if you just keep growing and working your program.
Happy Birthday sweetie.
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Originally Posted by rosie323 
The only thing I wanted was a time when he wants to contact me and I don't respond! Well, I have to say that time has come!
Can't wait until we both don't care whether or not they call.Happy Birthday!
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