how codie am i???
full of hope
Thread Starter
Join Date: Feb 2007
Location: Oklahoma
Posts: 1,170
how codie am i???
Is this a codie thought...I was looking around the house tonight (since I'm moving out this weekend) and I thought, "Oh No! Ah will be out of groceries soon" and then I started making a list of things to buy for him so he'll be stocked up when I'm gone.
Seriously, is that crazy???
Seriously, is that crazy???
Let Go Let God
Join Date: Mar 2007
Location: jersey shore
Posts: 437
as long as you make it , dont worry about him ! it may be quite comical for you to sit back and watch him squirm trying to set a washing machine !
i rmbr feeling that way too . this last time ah was in rehab he called to tell me he needed 'stuff' .. cigarettes , couple pairs of shorts , and a guy there forgot his jacket , could i bring him one ? .. uh no , no and no .
he survived
i rmbr feeling that way too . this last time ah was in rehab he called to tell me he needed 'stuff' .. cigarettes , couple pairs of shorts , and a guy there forgot his jacket , could i bring him one ? .. uh no , no and no .
he survived
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Join Date: May 2004
Location: over yonder
Posts: 1,548
chero, I think you are normal, bet we all thought that.
We can live a long time without food. If he pays thewater bill he will have water, let him suffer.
Would hehave worried if you had food?? or anything else?
Stay strong
Caring, concerned hugs I wan't him well too, give him the chance.
We can live a long time without food. If he pays thewater bill he will have water, let him suffer.
Would hehave worried if you had food?? or anything else?
Stay strong
Caring, concerned hugs I wan't him well too, give him the chance.
My Cape Is at The Cleaners
Join Date: Nov 2004
Location: Metropolis
Posts: 1,117
The big thing here is you making it out there.
He must take care of himself.
Yes you are very codie...stopping will be VERY hard.
Keep busy.
Go to meetings.
Be of service.
You will get through this storm, it is a momentary thing.
He must take care of himself.
Yes you are very codie...stopping will be VERY hard.
Keep busy.
Go to meetings.
Be of service.
You will get through this storm, it is a momentary thing.
Wipe your paws elsewhere!
Join Date: Dec 2004
Posts: 3,672
I guess it's important for your emotional well being that you feel needed. Perhaps you could fulfill that need by taking care of people or things that truly can't take care of themselves--like devoting a few hours of your time each week to help disabled people, the elderly, or even homeless animals.
As for him, well, he's a grown man who's perfectly capable of taking care of himself. Don't you think it's time you gave him a chance to do so?
As for him, well, he's a grown man who's perfectly capable of taking care of himself. Don't you think it's time you gave him a chance to do so?
I'm no angel!
Join Date: May 2005
Location: tampa, fl
Posts: 6,728
He will do just fine without you, he knows where the store is, he has to buy his booze somewhere.
Time for you to let him grow up, he can wash his own diapers.
Let go Chero, make that to do list for you, not him.
Time for you to let him grow up, he can wash his own diapers.
Let go Chero, make that to do list for you, not him.
I Finally Love My Life!!!
Join Date: Sep 2006
Location: New England
Posts: 648
So normal Chero!
I went on a whirlwind 3 day vacation to vegas after I kicked my XABF out of the house...and came back with a T-shirt for him!
You are the star of your life story, not him
I went on a whirlwind 3 day vacation to vegas after I kicked my XABF out of the house...and came back with a T-shirt for him!
You are the star of your life story, not him
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Join Date: May 2007
Location: FREEDOM
Posts: 665
It's so hard to let go sweetie,,,working through it myself.
What helps me is focusing on embracing my future. But even that's hard. I've actually had to face the fact I'm having trouble with change. Not that I want to go back to the craziness of enabling, but its almost like a "limbo". If I stay in the place I am right now, nothing will change. I will continue my no "contact" rule, but be constantly worried/thinking about what my A is doing. Is he safe? Taking care of himself? He already has health issues.
What I'm focusing on right now, is getting past the scared and imagining what it will be like to be free. For me that means, a new location AND a new job. Just wondering when I'm going to get excited about that? That's how I know I'm still in the infancy of my recovery.
Keep coming here. It has helped me incredibly through all of this. To hear others who have expereinced it, gives me hope.
What helps me is focusing on embracing my future. But even that's hard. I've actually had to face the fact I'm having trouble with change. Not that I want to go back to the craziness of enabling, but its almost like a "limbo". If I stay in the place I am right now, nothing will change. I will continue my no "contact" rule, but be constantly worried/thinking about what my A is doing. Is he safe? Taking care of himself? He already has health issues.
What I'm focusing on right now, is getting past the scared and imagining what it will be like to be free. For me that means, a new location AND a new job. Just wondering when I'm going to get excited about that? That's how I know I'm still in the infancy of my recovery.
Keep coming here. It has helped me incredibly through all of this. To hear others who have expereinced it, gives me hope.
Acting not reacting
Join Date: Jun 2004
Location: My happy place
Posts: 1,788
I dont really like chores, Ive never been a chore girl. I hire whatever done I can get hired out then do what I'm left with.
I hire out lawn, house cleaning monthly, car washing etc.
Why would I do it myself when someone else is more than willing to do it for me?
I hire out lawn, house cleaning monthly, car washing etc.
Why would I do it myself when someone else is more than willing to do it for me?
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