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Hello everyone. I am new to the forum, and would like to introduce myself.
I first want to say, that I wish you all very well, and lots of luck and strength.
I also want to admit, that while I am not an alcoholic, my children's father is. Subsequently, I am not sure, what that makes me. Perhaps you folk, can help, provide me with support, or point me in a better direction, as to where I can receive that support. I came here, because I am looking for feedback, on how to deal with my situation, in correlation with helping my children's father.
I understand, that perhaps, at first glance, I may be out of place, but I merely beckon your suggestions, as I do not know where to being this journey.
I am a total supporter of sobriety, as I do know first hand what alcohol does.
This past August 2006, my childrens' father attempted to kill himself, by intentional alcohol poisoning. He remained under suicede watch for several days, and in the hospital for almost a month. I am scared and lost. We have two beautiful children together, and share a friendship that begun when we were in high school. WHile we are no longer romatically linked, I was the one who found him, unconscience.
Several relapses later, the same pattern plays out, although excluding the suicide attempts. I am afraid for our kids, as he is a loving father.
Please, can anyone help, or point me in the right direction.
L
I first want to say, that I wish you all very well, and lots of luck and strength.
I also want to admit, that while I am not an alcoholic, my children's father is. Subsequently, I am not sure, what that makes me. Perhaps you folk, can help, provide me with support, or point me in a better direction, as to where I can receive that support. I came here, because I am looking for feedback, on how to deal with my situation, in correlation with helping my children's father.
I understand, that perhaps, at first glance, I may be out of place, but I merely beckon your suggestions, as I do not know where to being this journey.
I am a total supporter of sobriety, as I do know first hand what alcohol does.
This past August 2006, my childrens' father attempted to kill himself, by intentional alcohol poisoning. He remained under suicede watch for several days, and in the hospital for almost a month. I am scared and lost. We have two beautiful children together, and share a friendship that begun when we were in high school. WHile we are no longer romatically linked, I was the one who found him, unconscience.
Several relapses later, the same pattern plays out, although excluding the suicide attempts. I am afraid for our kids, as he is a loving father.
Please, can anyone help, or point me in the right direction.
L
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Hi L,
There is a forum here on SR for friends and family of alcoholics. I would post a link to it but hopefully someone else can - I'm not that smart yet!
In the meantime, welcome. I'm very glad that you found us. I hope that you get some much-needed support. My best to you.
Rowan
There is a forum here on SR for friends and family of alcoholics. I would post a link to it but hopefully someone else can - I'm not that smart yet!
In the meantime, welcome. I'm very glad that you found us. I hope that you get some much-needed support. My best to you.
Rowan
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Thank you Rowan I appreciate that! More than you realize. It has been a very bad day. I just want to add that I so respect and admire, all those here who have bravely chosen the path to recovery. I understand, that this is a forum family, and I hope that the specificity of my situation, is not off putting.; as I would like to offer support if allowed.
I think I will search the website some more. I thought this a good place to start though. Thank you for the welcome!
L
I think I will search the website some more. I thought this a good place to start though. Thank you for the welcome!
L
Hope3
Join Date: Nov 2006
Location: Upstate, NY
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Hi LRoad, My name is Hope3, and I am a recovering alcoholic.
Is he willing to be assesed for possible inpatient treatment?
If he is willing, I would suggest a full evaluation, for other conditions
as well. Just a thought. Here's a link for the friends and family forum,
you'll find lots of people in similar situations as you, good luck, hope3
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ly-alcoholics/
Is he willing to be assesed for possible inpatient treatment?
If he is willing, I would suggest a full evaluation, for other conditions
as well. Just a thought. Here's a link for the friends and family forum,
you'll find lots of people in similar situations as you, good luck, hope3
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ly-alcoholics/
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Hi Hope! Thank you for welcoming me. COngratulations on your rehabilitation.
Lots of strength to you.
When he was in the hospital, the psychiatrist, recommended a dual in patient treatment, for both depression and addiction. His family, unfortunately, are very old school, and while they are well meaning, they were in part the reason, as to why he didn't choose to enroll in any program. His parents are very simple people, not at all information seekers, they treat his issues, as just a phase.
I was the only one who encouraged the idea. He decided against it. Still, the binges continued in patterns.
He is also a cutter, and self mutilator. Interesting, that this only surfaced during his most extreme binges.
Thank you for the link
L
Lots of strength to you.
When he was in the hospital, the psychiatrist, recommended a dual in patient treatment, for both depression and addiction. His family, unfortunately, are very old school, and while they are well meaning, they were in part the reason, as to why he didn't choose to enroll in any program. His parents are very simple people, not at all information seekers, they treat his issues, as just a phase.
I was the only one who encouraged the idea. He decided against it. Still, the binges continued in patterns.
He is also a cutter, and self mutilator. Interesting, that this only surfaced during his most extreme binges.
Thank you for the link
L
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Join Date: Mar 2007
Location: Southern California
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Lroad....
I was in the psych hospital for dual diagnosis and it was a very
good experience. I hope he gets this kind of treatment.
His parents are not the ones hurting themselves..he is.
And it is hurting you and your children. I would seriously
look into an intervention for his own sake.
Whatever happens, these boards will be a tremendous
support for you.
Welcome to SR!
Love,
Sherry
I was in the psych hospital for dual diagnosis and it was a very
good experience. I hope he gets this kind of treatment.
His parents are not the ones hurting themselves..he is.
And it is hurting you and your children. I would seriously
look into an intervention for his own sake.
Whatever happens, these boards will be a tremendous
support for you.
Welcome to SR!
Love,
Sherry
Hope3
Join Date: Nov 2006
Location: Upstate, NY
Posts: 2,155
Originally Posted by LRoad 
Hi Hope! Thank you for welcoming me. COngratulations on your rehabilitation.
Lots of strength to you.
When he was in the hospital, the psychiatrist, recommended a dual in patient treatment, for both depression and addiction. His family, unfortunately, are very old school, and while they are well meaning, they were in part the reason, as to why he didn't choose to enroll in any program. His parents are very simple people, not at all information seekers, they treat his issues, as just a phase.
I was the only one who encouraged the idea. He decided against it. Still, the binges continued in patterns.
He is also a cutter, and self mutilator. Interesting, that this only surfaced during his most extreme binges.
Thank you for the link
L
Lots of strength to you.
When he was in the hospital, the psychiatrist, recommended a dual in patient treatment, for both depression and addiction. His family, unfortunately, are very old school, and while they are well meaning, they were in part the reason, as to why he didn't choose to enroll in any program. His parents are very simple people, not at all information seekers, they treat his issues, as just a phase.
I was the only one who encouraged the idea. He decided against it. Still, the binges continued in patterns.
He is also a cutter, and self mutilator. Interesting, that this only surfaced during his most extreme binges.
Thank you for the link
L
a very treatable condition. In my opinion, the best thing you can do for him,
is to revisit the dual treatment. In fact, i would get a group of friends that he would listen to, and in a loving way present the information to him, that would possibly convince him to enter treatment.
I wish you well, hope3
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LRoad,
I have a lot of respect for people who are dealing with alcoholics in their families. I know I put my family through hell when I was drinking. A couple of questions...
You clearly want him to get better, but does HE want to get better/live normally/stop drinking?
Have you tried going to alanon?
Depending upon their ages, have your kids tried going to Alanon or alateen?
Have you seen an alcohol/addiction therapist? (not for yourself but one with whom you can discuss a possible intervention for your kids' dad)
Very best of luck. Please keep let us know how you are doing.
I have a lot of respect for people who are dealing with alcoholics in their families. I know I put my family through hell when I was drinking. A couple of questions...
You clearly want him to get better, but does HE want to get better/live normally/stop drinking?
Have you tried going to alanon?
Depending upon their ages, have your kids tried going to Alanon or alateen?
Have you seen an alcohol/addiction therapist? (not for yourself but one with whom you can discuss a possible intervention for your kids' dad)
Very best of luck. Please keep let us know how you are doing.
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Welcome to SR...
You will love it here...Keep posting, we are here for you...
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You will love it here...Keep posting, we are here for you...
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