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Join Date: Dec 2005
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relapsed
well, he relapsed.
after work, he called, had to meet his probatin officer. he was concerned about going there cause he has a pending case that he got after prison. after 4 hrs, when he didn't show up and didn't answer the phone, i thought that he had gone to jail, so i called a few jail to find out that he wasn't there and then i knew.
no need to call the cell anymore, so we all just went on with the day and night.
he called this morning with all the i'm sorrys, but i expected that.
all i can say is thats his stuff and as long as it don't continue to effect us then i'm ok. he brought money this pay period, but i did let him know that the next time he goes off binging with all the money, for him not to come back here. i explained to him that me and his mom is not helping him and that i would not live the way that i've lived in the past.
he say he understands but i know thats just for today while he's crashing.
he wants to tell me that he can't live without me, and i'm telling him that he can and that he can save all the talk, don't want to hear it.
it funny but i'm not upset, there must have been a reason, why i couldn't get all open emotionally to him. i didn't expect anything more than a relapse, just came a little later than i expected. i don't know how to explain my feelings, other than they are the same as usual. his junk, not mine. he's all depressed and that his depression, i don't have anything to be depressed about, i'm doing what i need to do so far to keep me sane.
after work, he called, had to meet his probatin officer. he was concerned about going there cause he has a pending case that he got after prison. after 4 hrs, when he didn't show up and didn't answer the phone, i thought that he had gone to jail, so i called a few jail to find out that he wasn't there and then i knew.
no need to call the cell anymore, so we all just went on with the day and night.
he called this morning with all the i'm sorrys, but i expected that.
all i can say is thats his stuff and as long as it don't continue to effect us then i'm ok. he brought money this pay period, but i did let him know that the next time he goes off binging with all the money, for him not to come back here. i explained to him that me and his mom is not helping him and that i would not live the way that i've lived in the past.
he say he understands but i know thats just for today while he's crashing.
he wants to tell me that he can't live without me, and i'm telling him that he can and that he can save all the talk, don't want to hear it.
it funny but i'm not upset, there must have been a reason, why i couldn't get all open emotionally to him. i didn't expect anything more than a relapse, just came a little later than i expected. i don't know how to explain my feelings, other than they are the same as usual. his junk, not mine. he's all depressed and that his depression, i don't have anything to be depressed about, i'm doing what i need to do so far to keep me sane.
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Join Date: May 2005
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Teke,
You have a healthy attitude towards the relapse. That is so good.
Your recovery really has progressed, you are in control of you.
I'm sorry he relapsed, but, I am glad you are so strong.
You have a healthy attitude towards the relapse. That is so good.
Your recovery really has progressed, you are in control of you.
I'm sorry he relapsed, but, I am glad you are so strong.
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Join Date: Dec 2006
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((((teke)))))
I know you're not feeling upset, but I still feel bad about this.
I guess none of us wants to see ANY of them relapse. It's such a terrible life.
Hugs and strength to you to continue doing what you need to do to maintain your sanity.
Love,
GiveLove
I know you're not feeling upset, but I still feel bad about this.
I guess none of us wants to see ANY of them relapse. It's such a terrible life.
Hugs and strength to you to continue doing what you need to do to maintain your sanity.
Love,
GiveLove
Marle
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(((((teke))))) you are so strong in your recovery.i am proud of you girlfriend... i am really sorry for his relapse though. i hope he goes right back to his program.continue to take care of you.hugs,
Hope3
Join Date: Nov 2006
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Sorry for your pain, but pats on the back for telling him what your boundaries are,
teke "he brought money this pay period, but i did let him know that the next time he goes off binging with all the money, for him not to come back here. i explained to him that me and his mom is not helping him and that i would not live the way that i've lived in the past."end teke.
Prayers and hugs, hope3
teke "he brought money this pay period, but i did let him know that the next time he goes off binging with all the money, for him not to come back here. i explained to him that me and his mom is not helping him and that i would not live the way that i've lived in the past."end teke.
Prayers and hugs, hope3
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I agree with Dolly. Your attitude towards his relapse is an inspiration to us all. I can see that you are in control of yourself. You are doing such a great job, not only with your life, but helping the people here at SR. You're a great person teke, hang in there. I'm going to say an extra prayer for you and your husband tonight.
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Teke you sound strong. I know how you feel and I feel your pain.
As you know he truly can function without you. My AH is managing, very much to my surprise, lost a bit of weight without the good home cooked meals, but he's still surviving and taking care of himself, and your AH will too.
We are all here for you if you need to talk
As you know he truly can function without you. My AH is managing, very much to my surprise, lost a bit of weight without the good home cooked meals, but he's still surviving and taking care of himself, and your AH will too.
We are all here for you if you need to talk
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