outonalimb

Next week, I am going to meet with my attorney and sign all of my estate documents...My will...the trust I set up for my son should something ever happen to me...papers that designate guardians for my son that can watch over him and step in if my exah (his dad) is unable to care for him properly.

I used to lie awake at night and worry about what would happen to my son if something were to happen to me. I had dreams about my exah getting everything and snorting my son's future up his nose. But now, I think I'll be able to rest a bit easier.

It does stink to look mortality in the face and 'plan' for your demise...but I'm so proud that I did this. I really am. I feel like I'm taking responsibility for my life (and the 'end of my life') and that feels really good...(even if it is kind of morbid!!!)

Love...
Your morbid buddy...

dollydo

Yes, it is reality at it's finest, and, so necessary. You have done the right thing.

Ann

I hope you left me your bunny slippers

There, it's not morbid now.

Okay, seriously, that was a good thing you did, mostly for your son. Well done.

Hugs

sobercuse

Good for you....that reminds me that I should do the same. I can't imagine if my AS got a hold of the cars, the house and our retirement savings.....what a waste it would be.

patchoulli

not morbid at all...I did the same thing...

Pattilipp

I totally agree with the others, you did the right thing. Good for you!!

Elana

Nothing morbid at all about this. It is part of life.

Better than letting the State decide what to do with it.. and they will Always decide badly!

Wascally Wabbit

Its a darn good idea too. Good job.

marle

Out, Last year my husband and I made out our will so that our daughter gets nothing. I made sure I told her just in case she ever got the idea that she would be better off with us dead. Now that is morbid, but with an addict you never know. The will will change should she ever find a solid recovery, but for now I feel better knowing that she has no reason to want to bump us off It really is a good thing that you did, providing for your son. Hopefully you will live a long life, see him grow up and give you lots of grandchildren. Hugs, Marle

Mavis

Must feel like a ton has lifted off of your shoulders. Good for you!..

cmc

OOAL,
It's really more about life, when we take care of these matters.
You are a good momma.
hugs,
cmc

Jen

Limb ~ I did the same thing about two weeks ago. It's such a feeling of relief and not worrying about the "unknown" anymore, I guess.

After all we've made it through..............we deserve to be happy and move on with our lives!!

Congrats to you!! (Morbid or not!!)


Jen

greeteachday

Good for you my not morbid buddy! It's something I always thought about doing...worried about when the kids were little and never did. I'm glad you are facing it head on and dealing with it...so much better for both of you! Hugs!

helpus

It is a very responsable thing to do. I did that years ago when my ex husband died. I was a single parent, so my bff was the girls gaurdian, & in charge of their finances ect. She had power of attorney, she used to laugh & say you'd better do such & such or I will pull the damn plug if your ass gets in the hospital. She's great.

teke

glad to hear that you are taking car of you, and moving forward, thanks for sharing that.

Hangin' In

It's called being responsible, Out. Good for you. I always feel better when I do what I need to do or what I'm supposed to do.

Hugs,
Hangin' In

mooselips

Me, and Mr. Moose did this a few years ago. Didn't go the trust route, because it cost zillions of dollars to do that.
Plus, we're trying real hard to spend it while we're here on Earth.

Not morbid to me, at all.

Hugs, and a toast to a long, extended, healthy, wonderful, life!

BigSis

....oh thank goodness.

I saw that thread title and my mind went.... c'mon, you KNOW where it went.

Eye yi yi.



So glad you are doing this. Mr. Big and I did it when the kids were about 6 and 8, I think. Had to set up a proposed guardianship, too...that was the hardest. At the time, we picked one brother from Mr.'s side and Sister in law from my side. They were supposed to co-parent. That would've been a mess.... sheesh!

I remember it made me feel sort of "grown up" to finish those wills. Today, it might make me feel old. Just a different perspective.

marteen

We had a thread about this a long time ago and a couple crashes ago. Mr. M and I had to redo our will, too. We could not, in good conscience, leave money to our AD - her getting her hands on any of that would not be good for her health. And I agree with Moose, the trust thing was way too expensive and complicated.

It was not something we wanted to do but we had no choice. At our attorney's advice, we also both wrote a letter to be attached with our will explaining why we did what we did, and telling our AD that we love her but unfortunately the drugs would not allow us to trust her with money.

We also did not want our SD to deal with all this without OUR written wishes and desires. She cannot be responsible for what we want or don't want after we are gone. She has enough to worry about.

It's not morbid, it's just one of those things in life we can't avoid, like taxes! (now, THAT'S morbid!!)

outonalimb

Its a good idea to do this no matter what the circumstances...but its especially important to do it when addiction is in the picture.

I'd have to come back and haunt my exah if I saw him frittering our son's college fund away! Now THAT would be scary!!!!!