Been Expecting It.
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Been Expecting It.
Hello SR Family,
I just felt like I needed to tell you all here that what I've been knowing was going to happen, has. As most of you know, my son is the addict/alcoholic in my life. I knew that it was just a matter of time before he was arrested and this time he will more than likely go to prison. Well he was arrested night before last and I found out about it last night by my daughter. She is so upset about it and she waited until after my grandson's ballgame to tell me about it, so that she could tell me calmly and privately, because she knew that I would fall to pieces. Well, to my surprise and hers, I think, I didn't. I am very blue about it and I think that I just really don't know what to feel or think. The bad part is that he was arrested for a different charge completely than I thought he would be. It's a serious one, too. My son has still not contacted any of our family, which is so unlike him. I really don't know what to think about it, except that maybe it's because of the particular charge that he was arrested for. I miss him so terribly. I haven't seen his beautiful face for almost 3 months now. Well, I guess that's enough whineing for now. I'm not very encouraging or supportive right now, I know. I'm sorry. I'm just so sad and blue. Thank you to anyone who might have endured reading my post.
((((((((((((((((((Empathy Hugs To All, for each of your pain)))))))))))))))))))))
I just felt like I needed to tell you all here that what I've been knowing was going to happen, has. As most of you know, my son is the addict/alcoholic in my life. I knew that it was just a matter of time before he was arrested and this time he will more than likely go to prison. Well he was arrested night before last and I found out about it last night by my daughter. She is so upset about it and she waited until after my grandson's ballgame to tell me about it, so that she could tell me calmly and privately, because she knew that I would fall to pieces. Well, to my surprise and hers, I think, I didn't. I am very blue about it and I think that I just really don't know what to feel or think. The bad part is that he was arrested for a different charge completely than I thought he would be. It's a serious one, too. My son has still not contacted any of our family, which is so unlike him. I really don't know what to think about it, except that maybe it's because of the particular charge that he was arrested for. I miss him so terribly. I haven't seen his beautiful face for almost 3 months now. Well, I guess that's enough whineing for now. I'm not very encouraging or supportive right now, I know. I'm sorry. I'm just so sad and blue. Thank you to anyone who might have endured reading my post.
((((((((((((((((((Empathy Hugs To All, for each of your pain)))))))))))))))))))))
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Join Date: Feb 2006
Location: FL
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(((NinaKay)))
I'm keeping you, your son and all the family in my thoughts and prayers. Hopefully this will be what your son needs to stop and make some changes.
Please take care of yourself. I hope you can get a chance to see him soon.
hugs,
cmc
I'm keeping you, your son and all the family in my thoughts and prayers. Hopefully this will be what your son needs to stop and make some changes.
Please take care of yourself. I hope you can get a chance to see him soon.
hugs,
cmc
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Join Date: Nov 2003
Location: Port Charlotte, Florida
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Nina Kay,
Sorry you're feeling so down. I know that feeling all too well when my son/s both went to jail.
But, here's the best part...you can get a good nights sleep knowing he's warm, fed, and not on the streets, and also, well...I believe that jail saved both of my son/s lives.
As you may have possibly already read, in a previous post, they were both released in March, and both are sober for today.
Jail gives them alot of time to think.
Nina, this may be a good thing, really.
Although I know how sad you are, maybe it's your son's H.P. leading him in the right direction.
Big hugs to you,
Sorry you're feeling so down. I know that feeling all too well when my son/s both went to jail.
But, here's the best part...you can get a good nights sleep knowing he's warm, fed, and not on the streets, and also, well...I believe that jail saved both of my son/s lives.
As you may have possibly already read, in a previous post, they were both released in March, and both are sober for today.
Jail gives them alot of time to think.
Nina, this may be a good thing, really.
Although I know how sad you are, maybe it's your son's H.P. leading him in the right direction.
Big hugs to you,
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Join Date: Oct 2004
Location: Hope Land
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Oh Nina,
I am sorry. I know that it is terribly shocking and disbelief. I went to pieces as well when my husband was arrested and charged...although I was expecting it to happen one day, but not prepared either for the charges he was up on...that was hard. I truely thought he would be picked up for some drug charges...driving charge, when the phone rang from the police station and they told me he was in custody and being charged with 5 counts of armed robbery...oh god is there such a feeling of being alive and feeling lifeless.
It does take a few days or so for your mind to process it, slowly but surely that shocking feeling isn't so powerful.
My thoughts are with you...
Rose
I am sorry. I know that it is terribly shocking and disbelief. I went to pieces as well when my husband was arrested and charged...although I was expecting it to happen one day, but not prepared either for the charges he was up on...that was hard. I truely thought he would be picked up for some drug charges...driving charge, when the phone rang from the police station and they told me he was in custody and being charged with 5 counts of armed robbery...oh god is there such a feeling of being alive and feeling lifeless.
It does take a few days or so for your mind to process it, slowly but surely that shocking feeling isn't so powerful.
My thoughts are with you...
Rose
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Join Date: Mar 2006
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Nina, i'm so sorry. I know it is so hard to miss your son. I rpay that he is where he needs to be and that this may be his wake up call. Praying for strength and peace for you as well. Hugs and prayers.
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Join Date: Oct 2005
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(((((((((((NinaKay)))))))))))))
Big hugs from one mom to another.
I'm so very sorry for what has happened.
You, and your son, are both in my thoughts and
prayers tonight.
With Love and Understanding,
Big hugs from one mom to another.
I'm so very sorry for what has happened.
You, and your son, are both in my thoughts and
prayers tonight.
With Love and Understanding,
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Join Date: Feb 2007
Location: Out on the Ocean Blue
Posts: 272
Nina Kay - It took me a while to say "my daughter is an addict" and then "Prepare for the worst HOPE for the BEST" - we are never prepared for the worst - such terrible news for you - so glad you have SR to support you - so many experiencing similar circumstances and can share your pain with you. Prayers and (((HUGS)))
To Life!
Join Date: Oct 2003
Location: Rhode Island
Posts: 9,293
((((Nina))))
Remember to be good to yourself right now.
Take a nice bubble bath; read a good book; go to a spa and get a message if you can. You deserve it.
Remember to let go and let G*D...
Shalom!
Remember to be good to yourself right now.
Take a nice bubble bath; read a good book; go to a spa and get a message if you can. You deserve it.
Remember to let go and let G*D...
Shalom!
Nature Girl
Join Date: Mar 2002
Location: By The Lake
Posts: 60,328
Special hugs and prayers for you and your son, NinaKay, I know this is a very shaky time for you.
This may also be what saves his life. Sometimes God has to put a big roadblock out before we actually detour.
Whatever happens, just know that we're walking with you and that we love you and care.
Hugs
This may also be what saves his life. Sometimes God has to put a big roadblock out before we actually detour.
Whatever happens, just know that we're walking with you and that we love you and care.
Hugs
grateful rca
Join Date: Dec 2005
Location: atlanta, ga.
Posts: 4,671
i'm so sorry nina,
my husband ended up in prison too, as bad as i thought it was, i had to realize that maybe it was gods way of saving his life and my sanity. maybe now your son may wake of to what has caused him so much trouble and want to get better. keeping you and yours in my prayers.
my husband ended up in prison too, as bad as i thought it was, i had to realize that maybe it was gods way of saving his life and my sanity. maybe now your son may wake of to what has caused him so much trouble and want to get better. keeping you and yours in my prayers.
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Join Date: Jan 2005
Location: ohio
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Nina.....prayers for you and your son. Please try to believe...there is a plan, being laid...at this time.
When my son was arrested...it was the answer to my prayers!
He was incarcerated, continuously, for 13 months...from the time of arrest(jail), and then 6 months in a therapeutic treatment center.
I now like to say...he got what he needed. He is doing great...and honestly...there are days when "drugs" do not enter my mind!
Teach said it all.
Let go and let God!
When my son was arrested...it was the answer to my prayers!
He was incarcerated, continuously, for 13 months...from the time of arrest(jail), and then 6 months in a therapeutic treatment center.
I now like to say...he got what he needed. He is doing great...and honestly...there are days when "drugs" do not enter my mind!
Teach said it all.
Let go and let God!
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