duet_4-8

Hi everyone,
I just wanted to give everyone an update. Things are going well for me; not so well for EXAH.

Even with the loss of our business, the loss of his home, his wife and kids he does not appear to be any closer to seeking recovery. He is still playing the victim role and blaming me for all of his woes. He runs from person to person singing the blues and completely denying that he had any part in what has happened to him. He honestly seems to believe that there is some vast conspiracy against him and I am the one who organized it and keeps it going.

The lies just keep multiplying; just when I think he could not do anything to surprise me, he does. His latest game is telling everyone that I am 'moody' because I am 'taking something for my nerves' (which BTW I am not). I guess that is the only thing he can come up with to rationalize why I will have absolutely no contact with him.

Whatever......

There are several at our church who reached out to him and tried to help, but after six weeks of quacking, they have decided that there is nothing they can do either. One by one, he is losing those people, too.

Gee, I tried to tell them.......

My 19 year old was pretty much done with him already, but my oldest son had been holding on to the idea that he could 'help'. EXAH has been calling him obsessively and showing up at his store (the one that used to be ours but we lost and my son bought) looking like he lost his last friend and quacking for hours.

Oldest son finally has finally had enough, too. We went together to a meeting yesterday and it was quite an 'ah ha' moment for him. He, like me, has always felt different and alone in this.

I am thankful today for my wonderful children, for all the new friends both at SR and in 'real life' and a 'future so bright I have to wear shades'.

Love yas!

((((HUGS))))

teke

sounds like things are going pretty darn good for you and the kids, i pray that ah finds his way and for the looks of it, it may not be that long in coming. still praying for ya.

marle

Duet, It is all about taking care of ourselves and it seems that you are doing just that. Sounds like your oldest is ready too. Hugs, Marle

daisylady

Duet-

Glad to hear that things are looking up for you. Sorry to hear that your EXAH has not found his way to recovery. I pray that he will get there soon.

Also, thank you for being a great example of what it means to take care of ourselves. you are an inspiration.

Hugs and Prayers,
Tiffany

rayofsunshine

Thanks for the update. I was wondering how things were going for you.
Sending prayers for you and for AH that one day he will finally get it and want recovery. Glad you and the kids are doing ok.
(((HUGS)))

hope213

(((jen))) tey play whoever will play with them.maybe your son will wake up soon too.i get so tired of there games.

dollydo

Appreciate the update, you sound good, and, I am happy for you.

tropikgal2

SOunds like you are being strong and on the right path. I hope things continue to go better for you and that one day your EXAH will see a light of some sort.
((HUGS))

itiswhatitis...

it's nice to see good things really do happen to good people - i just wish getting there was easier sometimes...

love,
s

Promise

Thank you for posting this. Your example is giving me so much strength.

outonalimb

(((((jen)))))

you sound absolutely, positively GREAT!!
You're recovery is an inspiration.
Keep going...
Keep doing what you're doing...'cuz it appears to be working...really, really well!!

Thanks for the inspiring update.
Hugs...

Sunflower

Great post! Glad to hear you are all doing well...