itiswhatitis...

sorry about the songs - i hope no one thinks someone died - i don't think sister died but she is awol again - my ex bil just called to tell me she didn't return a phone call all weekend - prior to that, she was calling him everyday, to see what he needed - to apologize - to be human i guess - but there was no miracle - not today anyway...

she had a week of lucidity - a week where she was starting to see the light - she was missing her kids - she knew she needed help - she was really contacting rehab centers - she didn't have bf around (he was in jail) and she probably didn't have any money - actually she told my mom that she didn't bail bf out of jail because the $45,000 check they still have isn't in her name - she couldn't cash it - well now he's back and i guess he cashed the check - crap - i wish he was still in jail...

i know it doesn't really matter but i think if someone had gone to her house - while she was lucid and bf was in jail - and just gave her a hug and told her she didn't need to live like this, she could get help and see her kids - it might have made a difference...

thank god i didn't tell the kids mom was getting better - 4 yr old did ask if we could please just drive by mom's house - i wish it wasn't so hard - this sucks...

love,
s

BigSis

Sometimes, it is those brief breaks in the addiction that are remembered... when she has the next opportunity, she will remember what it is she REALLY wants.

HP has your sister, the beautiful, loving girl beneath the addiction. Her path is already determined. I am sorry her time is not today... I hope it can be soon.

((hugs))

Ann

My prayers go out for your sister too. Having had a taste of sobriety, she may reach out again sooner than you think.

Just as I could never figure out when my son would relapse, I could never predict when he would reach out for recovery again either. It's all out of our hands.

Hugs

bookmiser

((((Itiswhatitis))))

I'm so sorry it's not her time yet, either.
I pray for another lucid moment, and she gets farther toward recovery
next time. Until then, keep praying sweetie.
I'm so sad for the children being raised by relatives of addicts.
Not because they're not getting taking care of. Just the opposite.
These young innocents are loved sooooo much....by aunts/uncles,
grandparents, and other relatives, but all they really want is mom/dad,
to "get well", so they can come and get them and take them home with them.
At least that's what my 5 yo great nephew says about his mom and dad.
Mom's on the street, and dad's in jail for drug charges.
My sister (55) is raising him alone. I can't believe how hard it is. He's been diagnosed adhd already in his young life, and is in counseling and on meds.
It's all really too sad.
Keep the faith about your sister, and God bless you for caring for her kids.
Prayers to all,

teke

i'm sorry that maybe your sister is not quite ready, but it does sound like she maybe getting close. i pray that she finds her way soon and i'm also praying for you and the rest of your family, may you all find peace in the mist of this storm.

joesentme

I agree with the others. She does seem to be in a flux.

Each time they “Go Out”, could be the time, that makes them “sick and tired” enough, to bring them to their knees, and truly want to recover. I pray for your sister to reach that point, this time. I am so sorry you are all going through this.
God Bless,
JSM

hope213

it is hard eapecilly when kids are involved.they just can't understand why mama isn't there.i am sorry for them,you & your sister.prayers for your family.

SaTiT

I had to sit in my own stool for me to figure it out.
Too much confusion with in myself. If others gets invloved
it just adds more confusions.

I had to let my gf sit in her own stool for her to figure it out.