thejunkyswife

I just blogged about this, but I wanted to remember to share it with you guys. At my last meeting, we were talking about boundaries, and one woman brought up the metaphor of a "bucket of ****." She said that whenever her husband started complaining about the messes he'd made from his using or asking her to do something to fix his problems (pay a dealer, lie to family members, pay some debt), she's started telling him that the situation is his "bucket of ****," and that he's going to have to carry it himself. I thought it was a brilliant metaphor, and so useful to help those of us who struggle with boundaries to think about them more effectively. If you didn't help make it, it's his bucket of **** to carry. If you don't want to be associated with it or get its stink on your hands, it's probably his bucket of ****. If you want him to keep it away from you so it doesn't get splashed up on your nice clothes, it's his bucket of ****.

Metaphors help me. I'm a writer...but I thought this was a good one!

GiveLove

JW,
I love this, and I love your blog. It's so very real, and funny, and sad, and cool.
GL

hope213

it is theirs for them to carry.we do know that.it is theirs to carry, not ours not matter what you call it.

margo

I will probably be able to use that one today.