26 months
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26 months
Thats how long it took for me to let go of my marriage after leaving my exah. 26 months!!
I mean completely let go emotionally, spiritually, financially...
That seems like a long time. I'm a very stubborn person by nature and so I fought letting go for a very very long time. And although those were the most painful months of my life to date (and hopefully ever), I learned so many lessons about life. So many lessons!! I honestly never thought I could say this, but in some very strange way, I feel grateful for the experience. I do.
This place and all of you are more wonderful than words can say. I am so proud to walk beside so many of you. Every day, you share compassion and strength...I really feel humbled by so many of your posts and replies. What a blessing this place has been in my life. I really love you all!!
For those of you who struggle with addiction in your marriage or significant relationship, all I can say is keep going...things can and do get better. I don't know why it took me as long as it did...and there were alot of times I didn't think I'd ever get here...But when you get there, its a such a beautiful place to be.
I know I'm going to to stumble alot...I know there are going to be bumps in the road...but I feel such incredible peace. I wish I could bottle it up and save it for a rainy day.
Anyway, I'm rambling...but my heart was overflowing with gratitude this morning and I just wanted to share some with you.
Love you guys!! I really do !!
I mean completely let go emotionally, spiritually, financially...
That seems like a long time. I'm a very stubborn person by nature and so I fought letting go for a very very long time. And although those were the most painful months of my life to date (and hopefully ever), I learned so many lessons about life. So many lessons!! I honestly never thought I could say this, but in some very strange way, I feel grateful for the experience. I do.
This place and all of you are more wonderful than words can say. I am so proud to walk beside so many of you. Every day, you share compassion and strength...I really feel humbled by so many of your posts and replies. What a blessing this place has been in my life. I really love you all!!
For those of you who struggle with addiction in your marriage or significant relationship, all I can say is keep going...things can and do get better. I don't know why it took me as long as it did...and there were alot of times I didn't think I'd ever get here...But when you get there, its a such a beautiful place to be.
I know I'm going to to stumble alot...I know there are going to be bumps in the road...but I feel such incredible peace. I wish I could bottle it up and save it for a rainy day.
Anyway, I'm rambling...but my heart was overflowing with gratitude this morning and I just wanted to share some with you.
Love you guys!! I really do !!
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Gosh Out, you sound great!!
You didn't ramble at all; you were talking from your heart.
I don't think 26 mos is that long; if you tried to rush it it probably wouldn't have worked. All in our own time - whatever it takes. I am glad you are at peace now.
I recently finally let go of my 20 yr old daughter; was the hardest thing to do in my life. I do feel so much better now; still love her dearly and pray for her; but I am not responsible for her happness.
It does feel good, almost a release from the blame game.
I am so happy for you that you have found this place in your life.
Good for you!!
Terri
You didn't ramble at all; you were talking from your heart.
I don't think 26 mos is that long; if you tried to rush it it probably wouldn't have worked. All in our own time - whatever it takes. I am glad you are at peace now.
I recently finally let go of my 20 yr old daughter; was the hardest thing to do in my life. I do feel so much better now; still love her dearly and pray for her; but I am not responsible for her happness.
It does feel good, almost a release from the blame game.
I am so happy for you that you have found this place in your life.
Good for you!!
Terri
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Join Date: Dec 2005
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thank you and i feel the same way about you guys. though i'm still kind of hanging on to my marriage in one way, i thank god for all of you who helped me to learn that i still didn't have to live such a miserable existance. i love you too.
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Location: twilight zone,usa
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thank you for sharing.it does get better & better when coming out of a bad marriage.my daughter was divioces july will be 2 yrs ago & she is having a hard time finding "her place".i keep telling her the first couple of yrs. is the hardest,don't rush anything.she was married 22yrs.just take time to find you & have fun, now is YOUR time.hugs,hope
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Your new avatar always makes me think of your recovery...Beautiful light shining through the clouds. The experience you share here and the lives you have impacted in such a positive way are just incredible. You always touch my heart and I'm so happy for the peace you have found!
Aren't there just some days where you want to burst with gratitude? I feel it well up inside me and it's this joyous feeling. I sometimes think one day when I am feeling that way, i may end up hugging everyone I encounter...and then they'll take me away 
Hugs and prayers
but my heart was overflowing with gratitude this morning and I just wanted to share some with you.
Hugs and prayers
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