free2be

Yesterday, the realtor came to the house with a market analysis. She also, came with the price of rentals. I'd be paying just as much in rent that I pay for mortgage. Without the tax benfits. I would not have enough left over to put down on another coop or condo. My daughter came to me crying last night. She doesn't want to move. I think for her the realization is starting to hit. AH and I have seperated in the past and then reconciled. I think she was hoping for this to happen again. I have no desire to reconcile with him. It's truly over.
We have not had any contact at all since he left about 8 weeks ago. Once I did call him yelling, but that was it. I know he is in a bad place emotionally right now. very depressed. I have spoken with friends and they feel he is resonable and it's worth a shot to try and keep the kids here. I told my daughter last night to tell her dad how she felt, but she said no and she won't. I think she's afraid to upset him, she has anxiety over their relationship, and I respect that. I do feel he needs to know the facts. How she's feeling, the cost of renting and the possibility of where his kids might have to live. Although he is sick, he does love and want the best for his kids. I am just so scared that he may be so angry with me out of spite he'll say no. I also am scared of being sucked back into his world. Becomming upset, having my feelings hurt. I just don't know what to do.

parentrecovers

hello free, i try to trust my gut. if it doesn't feel right, i try to error on the side of caution.

i know it's not easy, i fail at it sometimes.

blessings to you and your daughter, i'm sorry the choices are so difficult.

k

denny57

Hi free - I went back to try and find the answer in your other posts, so sorry if I'm asking you to repeat yourself - why can't you stay in the house?

I understand that you're afraid he "can say no," but the law doesn't work that way.

free2be

hey denny, financial reasons. savings slowly depleted over the past few years, there is none left. we are behind on mortgage, last payed them in december. he left in january and thats the last of his income I've seen. he did take the bills, I am not sure if he is paying or if he has even contacted the mortgage company yet. so at the present we are headed to foreclosure. We live in a community property state. If he wants 1/2 the house wouldn't I have to but him out? I really do not know the law. i just know my attorney has said that we ought to sell. I do know that this is his paln as well.

Mr. Christian

Hi,
I do not feel that living in an unhealthy relationship is good for anyone just to keep a house.
The house is just a THING. People and how they live and are treated are more important.

With every break down of a relationship, there comes financial break downs as well.
This will pass.

Zoey

Yes, you woud need to buy his half, unless he would want to give it to you.
If you cannot pay the mortgage now, how can you buy a house? sorry none of my business.
Do ypu have a divorce attorney or did you just check on house?

Perhaps he will just stay away??