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Old 03-19-2007, 11:05 AM
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any suggestions?

big day to be here soon- I am filing for divorce. My question is--i really can't stand to have his name anymore-although my kids will- and just as bad is i can't bear to use my maiden name either!!!!!

i'm thinking about just changing it to smith. whad'dya think?
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Old 03-19-2007, 11:06 AM
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I assume you can change you last name to anything you wish - for a fee. However, to revert to your maiden name is free. Why would you choose any name other than your maiden name? It would still be different from your children's last name.
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Old 03-19-2007, 11:17 AM
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I have no experience in this myself but what my mom did when she filed 28 years ago was take back her maiden name - married name so when it came to her personal business she used her maiden name & when it came to offical kid business she used her married name.

What is so wrong with your maiden name?
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Old 03-19-2007, 11:19 AM
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I may have not made that very clear
example

Jones-Smith
Jones was her maiden name
Smith was her married name
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Old 03-19-2007, 11:22 AM
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Hmmmm....Escape Artist Smith! Well, it's certainly different LOL!
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Old 03-19-2007, 11:26 AM
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Too plain. Change it to AlaKAZAM!!! (including the exclamation points and capitalization). Seriously ... do it! Please! Lol

Actually Smith sounds just fine. You'll be in lots of good company.
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Old 03-19-2007, 12:06 PM
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i like that idea WantsOut!

i can't stand my maiden name because as far as i am concerned, i do not want to have any association with that one either as i have just as much of a negative feeling about my alcoholic father as i do my AH. My mother is dead- so there is not much sentiment or pride in having it. i'd rather not have any association with it.

there are a couple local names that i like, but that may be too weird for those who allready have the name. so smith is very vanilla and i might enjoy it. heck nowadays when someone asks me my name i can hardly choke out the last one!
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Old 03-19-2007, 12:16 PM
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I'm in the same boat. I don't want to use my married name anymore!
I'm ok with going back to my maiden, though.
From the information I have gathered we can go back to our maiden name (or anyname, for that matter) at anytime...for a FEE. You have to apply for a name change through the gov't agency that handles that process.
But we can go back to our maiden name for FREE once the divorce is final.
So I am waiting for that, as I do not want to pay.

I think you should pick whatever name makes you feel good and proud!
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Old 03-19-2007, 12:30 PM
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When I went to court to get divorsed I filled papers to retain my MAIDEN name--for some reason it never wnet through--which screwed up all my tax returns that year,,,,so I ended up keeping the EX name--never had the time to go back and really didnt care...Now years later I am sorry I didnt persue this---I hate his name--now that my father is passed I realize the importance of a name----My AS and I are going to both change our names to my maiden name as my EX nor his family ever had any part in his life---why have their name--he is all mine---plus maybe a feeling of a new start for AS--to loosen the feelings of the connection with the sperm donor father-who was and is a loser....
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Old 03-19-2007, 01:21 PM
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You could do like Prince, and change it to a symbol. How about a peace sign?
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Old 03-19-2007, 01:53 PM
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The Artist Formerly Known as "Escape" ... something like that?
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Old 03-19-2007, 01:55 PM
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you guys crack me up!!!!!!thanks for the smile...
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Old 03-19-2007, 03:52 PM
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I know someone whose friend changed her name from something somewhat common and "nice" like "Susan Smith" to something, also common and nice, like "Claire Hanford" - no family significance or anything deep, she just didn't feel like a Susan Smith anymore. She had been married for 15+ years and had a profession and everything - people all just had to start calling her by her new name - still has the same job and the same husband, and about 7 years with her new name now.

Soooo... I guess that means if she can do it, you can too!
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Old 03-19-2007, 04:00 PM
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I've always kept my maiden name, thru 2 divorces, that is who I am...choose whatever name suits you, your personality...

This is me speaking, I never have understood why a woman takes her hubby's name....he doesn't change his....never got that.
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Old 03-19-2007, 04:06 PM
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Me neither dollydo - but this has been interesting - hope it helped you escape artist!
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