PurpleReign

Hey gang,
In order to move from Step 4 to Step 5, I would like to have a sponsor.

What advice do you have on picking a sponsor?

Thanks,
PR

mikiglen

for me, i always wanted to find someone that i felt like i could relate to, whose story was somewhat similar to mine. someone who i felt a "kinship" with, someone with qualities i wanted, who had that serenity and contentment about them. someone who spoke wisely and didn't judge. and, of course, had a lot of years of sobriety and wisdom under their belt, with not too many sponsees.
that's just what i look for, anyway. hope it helps

nogard

yep what misti says plus for me, i want what they have.

kevin

1_day@_a_time

would this suggest you did steps 1,2 & 3 w/o a sponsor?

it would seem by your question that may be the case.

lostmdboy

For me it was someone I could trust, and also a person w/ expierence w/ both drinking and "sobering". It took me a while I sat and listened, and watched. Eventually you will find the right person.

barb dwyer

I needed someone who wouldn't 'buy into' my ... uh ... stuff.

Someone who'd tell it like it is, and leave it there. I didn't need a mama, I needed someone who really knew the Program, and could hand out the info I needed.

Turned out to be one of the three most 'feared' women in the group!
LOL !

And she's perfect for me.

best wishes!

GlassPrisoner

I'm also wondering this.

The steps are meant to be taken with a sponsor. I once thought I'd so them myself. You can guess how that ended.......

nogard

I picked on a sponsor once and ....

PurpleReign

Thanks for the insight all. I went through the steps with a member of AA but he was not my sponsor. When I find a sponsor, I have no issues revisiting steps. I really wanted to know what qualities, sobreity time, personality type etc. that some of you provided in picking a sponsor.

Blessings,
PR

CarolD

I strongly suggest you get to a meeting
and look for
"Questions and Answers on Sponsorship"

It's usually on the free literature rack.

Think of a sponsor as a mentor for Step work.
Obviously ... you need one who has finished his own.

Also..check out

http://alcohol411.info/AA%20Sponsor.htm

Forward we go PR Good for you!

CarolD

BTW...Step 5 can be done with others
not only a sponsor.
When 5 was written there were no sponsors n AA.


My dear AA friend
... Father Bill S.
was leaving for a 7 year stint in Kenya.
I did mine with Bill
as did several others in our home group.

PurpleReign

"Super" Carol once again delivers...
Great information Carol, thank you so much!

Blessings,
PR