WantsOut

This from the ex:

"You know, I made a decision to love you early in our relationship. You loved me before I loved you. I decided to love you." Followed by a long, somewhat hard, meaningful look.

So that means, what? I'm now obligated to love you forever no matter what the hell you do to yourself and me? I'm lucky that you decided to bestow your precious love on unworthy me?

There's something really creepy about that, isn't there?

TryingisDying

Hmmmmm....trying to lay down the guilt trip maybe....

prodigal

JMO, but I think he's trying to make you think his love is motivated by a higher, purer purpose than your's. After all you just fell in love, which could be a case of hormonal overdrive while he made a rational, conscious decision to love you. He's playing the I'm-somehow-superior-to-you game that A's often play. This is a prime example of their insanity. I'm sure he thinks he is much better than us mere peons ....

WantsOut

Prod, I think you're right because that fits right in there with how I "don't believe in unconditional love" and he does. What an emotionally charged little phrase there, ey? "Unconditonal love" - it's aimed right in your Disney Bone.

prodigal

This is the blah, blah, blah nonsense they spew at you. There IS such a thing as unconditional love, but as fallible human beings I don't think we're capable of such a thing. God, our higher power, loves us unconditionally. Sounds as if your ex has a God complex. After all he IS the center of the universe, isn't he?

Pick-a-name

Sounds like nonsense........what does it even mean? I think is a brain is not firing right. Sounds like something a kid would come up with as a last attempt to get the last word in.

Sorry it get's under your skin (at least it can mine). My AH will make some "out-there" remark and I will ponder it and think and think about it (as if it was some great philosohical insight),and worry and fret,etc and once I asked him what he meant by that and not only did he not have a clue what it meant, he swore he never said anything like that. I think it is the alcohol working on the brain, it twists their way of "seeing" things,etc.

WantsOut

Sometimes I am mesmerized by the quacking. If you look at them too long it almost seems like they're really talking!

Mr. Christian

No,
Love for a person is one thing. Loving what they do is another.
He might truly love you, that wont change no matter what path you both take.

embraced2000

wo.....that's amazing....my xh said something so similiar to me one time...well, several times.

he said i fell in love with him first and he "learned" to love me after we married. creep. and dumbarse me. i'm so glad i know better now.

what he learned to love was being taken care of. he is a career alcoholic who thinks he is too intelligent to settle for such low paying jobs, and thinks also that he is so damn beautiful that he is a true catch. he uses his looks to prostitute himself into relationships that he is really not involved in....just a way to live. i feel like he prostituted himself to me in our marriage. and i paid for his services.....all his garbage, his bills, his abuse, and the occassional crumb he tossed my way.

it's becoming embarrassing for me to know i let myself live like that.

anyway.....slap a big orange bill on that over grown crapping duck and you got yourself a quacker from hell.