At my wits end
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At my wits end
Hi
My dad is an alcoholic but a very successful one. He does extremely well with his business, has a nice house, networks with important people so of course he doesn't think he has a problem. " How can I be an alcoholic when all these important people respect me?" he says.
He doesn't drink in the morning and rarely drinks at home but he works in the hospitality industry so drinking at work is expected. He can put away several bottles of wine plus harder alcohol a night and then comes home in a rage.
He is never physically abusive but mentally he sometimes leave me shaking. Everything is our fault. No one outside of the family thinks he is an alcoholic, except his employees who can't say anything.
He keeps saying how he is destroyed by his own family. None of his arguments make any sense and he repeats himself constantly. Mom just stays quiet and lets him let it out but the things he says about her to me while she is sitting right next to me is infuriating.
He is friends with tons of doctors who don't see anything wrong with him because he is always in social mode around them. He asks if drinking wine is ok and they say of course because they assume he means one or two glasses.
I can't take it when he is screaming and blaming and trying to get me to side with him against my mom.
Any advice?
C
My dad is an alcoholic but a very successful one. He does extremely well with his business, has a nice house, networks with important people so of course he doesn't think he has a problem. " How can I be an alcoholic when all these important people respect me?" he says.
He doesn't drink in the morning and rarely drinks at home but he works in the hospitality industry so drinking at work is expected. He can put away several bottles of wine plus harder alcohol a night and then comes home in a rage.
He is never physically abusive but mentally he sometimes leave me shaking. Everything is our fault. No one outside of the family thinks he is an alcoholic, except his employees who can't say anything.
He keeps saying how he is destroyed by his own family. None of his arguments make any sense and he repeats himself constantly. Mom just stays quiet and lets him let it out but the things he says about her to me while she is sitting right next to me is infuriating.
He is friends with tons of doctors who don't see anything wrong with him because he is always in social mode around them. He asks if drinking wine is ok and they say of course because they assume he means one or two glasses.
I can't take it when he is screaming and blaming and trying to get me to side with him against my mom.
Any advice?
C
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Hi Elusian,
Welcome!
You need to focus on takin care of yourself. You might like to check out our Friends and Families forums on this board, where you'll find lots of support.
I'm not sure of your age, but if you are a teenager, these sites might help:
http://www.12stepforums.net/teens.html
http://www.activeboard.com/forum.spark?forumID=42762
http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom4.html
http://www.activeboard.com/forum.spa...opicID=1454408
Welcome!
You need to focus on takin care of yourself. You might like to check out our Friends and Families forums on this board, where you'll find lots of support.
I'm not sure of your age, but if you are a teenager, these sites might help:
http://www.12stepforums.net/teens.html
http://www.activeboard.com/forum.spark?forumID=42762
http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom4.html
http://www.activeboard.com/forum.spa...opicID=1454408
let it grow!
Join Date: Oct 2006
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welcome, elusian. nice to meet you, and keep posting! i have a daughter in early recovery from alcohol and cocaine addiction. i go to alanon and some private counseling - both really help me. please take good care of yourself and remember this about your father's disease - you didn't cause it, you can't cure, and you cannot control it.
see you over on the friends and family forums. blessings, k
see you over on the friends and family forums. blessings, k
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