dave

Hi i'm very puzzled i hope someone can help me on this i have been sober for 2 yrs and i jest met a lady about 3 days ago and we hit it off great i told her i was an alcoholic and that i have been sober for 2yrs and she said she was happy that i told her and she asked questions and i then told her that i'm sober today that i can't promise forever jest today one day at a time.Anyway she has had a few alcoholics who i guess that hurt her.So to make things short said she could'nt see a future with me if it got to that state.Anyway we said goodbye to each other and its really hit me hard.

historyteach

(((Dave)))
It's too bad that she seems to be judging you based on others in her past. But, the truth is, we all come with baggage. Some have larger luggage than others,
Maybe give it a day or two and ask her for a cup of coffee?
Or perhaps it's best that you just let it be. Move on and find another who can deal with YOU and not the shadows of the past.
Whatever you decide, I wish you well...

Shalom!

dragon76

Better 2 know now than at divorce court. hang in there

CarolD

Hi Dave...

Being honest and up front was the way
for you to go.
That is your recovery shining! Hugs!

tubesk

ouch!
responses can be hard to deal with regardless of the reason or the "will be good in the long-run"...

dave

Thanks everybody a hard thing to deal with but i guess it happens

Rusty Zipper

dave dave, maybe your actions might sway her thoughts on that... maybe not...

dont take it to heart... just some of the consiquences from our past, bite'n us in the (_|_)

forge ahead dave!!!

all god wishes... xxoo, zip

barb dwyer

hi Dave -

I've been thinking about your post all night. I don't have anything wise or brilliant to say about it ... other than yes, it is better to know now rather than miles down the road.
But then, there's that ... 'other' feeling, isn't there? That lonely feeling.
Oh yea. I know that one, too.
Hoo boy do I.
We buck up, we work the steps, we go to more meetings if we must, we get on here at SR and read and post ... that's all I know right now.

This too shall pass. Sounds so lame, but it's all I have for you.

You did what you were supposed - you told her the truth. That's the part you could change. The result - was something you couldn't. You stayed within your own program ... and somehow, we have to make that be enough. It's next to impossible to see anything like this as a blessing, when it feels so bad at the same time.
I don't know that part yet.

But - thank you for sharing. I'm sure there's others lurking who know exactly what you feel right now.

I know I do.
****{hug}}}
barb

dave

Thanks everybody its helped...