findmyself

Hi all, havent posted in a few days, I have been engrossed in "Codependant No More" feel like its a letter directly written to me. Anyway, AH went into detox on the 21st Dec. came home on the 24th. Lost his job of 29 years on the 28th.(not because of alcohol, they layed off entire plant) So... New Years Sucked....Here is my question..... My daughter and I went to Alanon meeting last Wednesday and my husband asked where it is that we went, I told him and he said there was an AA meeting in same building at same time. He wanted to know if we could all go togehther on Wednesday nights to our meetings. I know this sounds strange but should I let him go with us? Or is that still enableing him? Im torn between saying yes, and saying his sobriety is his own journey. I do not know what to do. Would love some ideas on this one.

FormerDoormat

I vote for letting him tag along. His interest in attending AA shows initiative on his part, so I don't think that's enabling him.

LizzyP

You've got my vote, too, for letting him go along. You were not the one to mention the AA meeting to him, he was the one who showed the initiative and mentioned it to you. If he's willing and wanting to go, then you've got a great big "yippeee!" from me.

Zoey

I agree with FD.

embraced2000

it was his request...that's great!!!!! what a wonderful way to spend a family night together. it is not enabling to let him go, imo.

now, i will tell you what is enabling....i kept a calender of my xh meetings and topics discussed....wow, that isn't enabling...that's controlling. a perfect recipe for disaster.

i know better now...that was before i was a member of al-anon.

enjoy your meetings!!!!

love to you
jeri

denny57

think of the great recovery discussions on the way and back. go for it.

Pick-a-name

That's the way I see it,too.

Best of luck to all of you!

lilac

Go for it !!!!

StandingStrong

I think it's a wonderful idea!