The Eve.
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The Eve.
The Eve.
I ended up going out by myself on New Year’s Eve. I had dinner and went to a retro lounge down here where people know me.
I saw a lot of people coming in, good moods but a lot of drunken moods.
Mostly couples which didn’t help how I was feeling.
I stayed awhile but looked around and thought that I was just not into this game. This was where I met “T” by the way.
I did not feel it. I don’t know if it is just getting over the place, the scene or just looking at stuff differently.
I was home before the t clock gave up 2006.
I’m fed up with the dating world as far as the bar crowd.
I’ve even tried the online thing. In fact “T” is on ***** and that might explain some things.
You see I’ve found 90% of the people on online dating sites are just as messed up relationship wise.
Now last night I got a call from a girl I saw a few times before I had met “T”.
My timing must have a problem with these girls because she was jut getting out of a live in relationship at the time.
We had some fun together then she vanished.
We she called me up after 5 months and told me about how her life was much better now, that she got her act together and made some changes. She asked how I’ve been and I thought, heck you don’t need to know what happened after I saw you!
Well long story short she would like to see me.
It was nice to have someone call up looking to find me.
I’m at the point of really wanting to chase anymore.
I mean if I call a couple time and you don’t get back to me, the hell with you, “T” or otherwise.
I should not have to beg for attention and a little self -respect is in order.
I think I will steer clear of the local place also.
I almost feel like telling “T” that I’m over the whole game she has had me playing, but I guess that’s not needed.
Im pretty much over taking crap from people.
I feel that way about work also which I must deal with today.
I run a route for a company. It’s a very small route with a customer base that has a low amount of $$.
So point being it does not take in the same $$ amount as the larger better routes.
Now they are holding all drivers to a $$ amount that they want us to bring in everyday.
The better routes can do this, without effort while the drivers with lesser routes must struggle.
I’m not to sure that’s right. Unfair advantage for some while others can not achieve the $ goal.
Then we face getting written up if we do not bring in the amount.
Yeah I don’t like the looks of this.
I do believe there is a problem here.
This is not a union shop. But after being a teamster shop steward for 13 years I have learned a little about labor laws and unfair practice.
So I think I wont deal with this much longer.
Ok , it’s time for work!
Have a good day.
Mr. Christian
I ended up going out by myself on New Year’s Eve. I had dinner and went to a retro lounge down here where people know me.
I saw a lot of people coming in, good moods but a lot of drunken moods.
Mostly couples which didn’t help how I was feeling.
I stayed awhile but looked around and thought that I was just not into this game. This was where I met “T” by the way.
I did not feel it. I don’t know if it is just getting over the place, the scene or just looking at stuff differently.
I was home before the t clock gave up 2006.
I’m fed up with the dating world as far as the bar crowd.
I’ve even tried the online thing. In fact “T” is on ***** and that might explain some things.
You see I’ve found 90% of the people on online dating sites are just as messed up relationship wise.
Now last night I got a call from a girl I saw a few times before I had met “T”.
My timing must have a problem with these girls because she was jut getting out of a live in relationship at the time.
We had some fun together then she vanished.
We she called me up after 5 months and told me about how her life was much better now, that she got her act together and made some changes. She asked how I’ve been and I thought, heck you don’t need to know what happened after I saw you!
Well long story short she would like to see me.
It was nice to have someone call up looking to find me.
I’m at the point of really wanting to chase anymore.
I mean if I call a couple time and you don’t get back to me, the hell with you, “T” or otherwise.
I should not have to beg for attention and a little self -respect is in order.
I think I will steer clear of the local place also.
I almost feel like telling “T” that I’m over the whole game she has had me playing, but I guess that’s not needed.
Im pretty much over taking crap from people.
I feel that way about work also which I must deal with today.
I run a route for a company. It’s a very small route with a customer base that has a low amount of $$.
So point being it does not take in the same $$ amount as the larger better routes.
Now they are holding all drivers to a $$ amount that they want us to bring in everyday.
The better routes can do this, without effort while the drivers with lesser routes must struggle.
I’m not to sure that’s right. Unfair advantage for some while others can not achieve the $ goal.
Then we face getting written up if we do not bring in the amount.
Yeah I don’t like the looks of this.
I do believe there is a problem here.
This is not a union shop. But after being a teamster shop steward for 13 years I have learned a little about labor laws and unfair practice.
So I think I wont deal with this much longer.
Ok , it’s time for work!
Have a good day.
Mr. Christian
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Mr. C,
I found the WORST place to meet people was a bar. tHEY SAY THE BEST PLACE TO MEET PEOPLE IS TO CONCENTRATE ON DOING THINGS YOU LIKE TO DO AND THAT IS WHERE YOU'LL MEET SOMEONE.
Cat
I found the WORST place to meet people was a bar. tHEY SAY THE BEST PLACE TO MEET PEOPLE IS TO CONCENTRATE ON DOING THINGS YOU LIKE TO DO AND THAT IS WHERE YOU'LL MEET SOMEONE.
Cat
Originally Posted by Mr. Christian 
The Eve.
I ended up going out by myself on New Year’s Eve. I had dinner and went to a retro lounge down here where people know me.
I saw a lot of people coming in, good moods but a lot of drunken moods.
Mostly couples which didn’t help how I was feeling.
I stayed awhile but looked around and thought that I was just not into this game. This was where I met “T” by the way.
I did not feel it. I don’t know if it is just getting over the place, the scene or just looking at stuff differently.
I was home before the t clock gave up 2006.
I’m fed up with the dating world as far as the bar crowd.
I’ve even tried the online thing. In fact “T” is on ***** and that might explain some things.
You see I’ve found 90% of the people on online dating sites are just as messed up relationship wise.
Now last night I got a call from a girl I saw a few times before I had met “T”.
My timing must have a problem with these girls because she was jut getting out of a live in relationship at the time.
We had some fun together then she vanished.
We she called me up after 5 months and told me about how her life was much better now, that she got her act together and made some changes. She asked how I’ve been and I thought, heck you don’t need to know what happened after I saw you!
Well long story short she would like to see me.
It was nice to have someone call up looking to find me.
I’m at the point of really wanting to chase anymore.
I mean if I call a couple time and you don’t get back to me, the hell with you, “T” or otherwise.
I should not have to beg for attention and a little self -respect is in order.
I think I will steer clear of the local place also.
I almost feel like telling “T” that I’m over the whole game she has had me playing, but I guess that’s not needed.
Im pretty much over taking crap from people.
I feel that way about work also which I must deal with today.
I run a route for a company. It’s a very small route with a customer base that has a low amount of $$.
So point being it does not take in the same $$ amount as the larger better routes.
Now they are holding all drivers to a $$ amount that they want us to bring in everyday.
The better routes can do this, without effort while the drivers with lesser routes must struggle.
I’m not to sure that’s right. Unfair advantage for some while others can not achieve the $ goal.
Then we face getting written up if we do not bring in the amount.
Yeah I don’t like the looks of this.
I do believe there is a problem here.
This is not a union shop. But after being a teamster shop steward for 13 years I have learned a little about labor laws and unfair practice.
So I think I wont deal with this much longer.
Ok , it’s time for work!
Have a good day.
Mr. Christian
I ended up going out by myself on New Year’s Eve. I had dinner and went to a retro lounge down here where people know me.
I saw a lot of people coming in, good moods but a lot of drunken moods.
Mostly couples which didn’t help how I was feeling.
I stayed awhile but looked around and thought that I was just not into this game. This was where I met “T” by the way.
I did not feel it. I don’t know if it is just getting over the place, the scene or just looking at stuff differently.
I was home before the t clock gave up 2006.
I’m fed up with the dating world as far as the bar crowd.
I’ve even tried the online thing. In fact “T” is on ***** and that might explain some things.
You see I’ve found 90% of the people on online dating sites are just as messed up relationship wise.
Now last night I got a call from a girl I saw a few times before I had met “T”.
My timing must have a problem with these girls because she was jut getting out of a live in relationship at the time.
We had some fun together then she vanished.
We she called me up after 5 months and told me about how her life was much better now, that she got her act together and made some changes. She asked how I’ve been and I thought, heck you don’t need to know what happened after I saw you!
Well long story short she would like to see me.
It was nice to have someone call up looking to find me.
I’m at the point of really wanting to chase anymore.
I mean if I call a couple time and you don’t get back to me, the hell with you, “T” or otherwise.
I should not have to beg for attention and a little self -respect is in order.
I think I will steer clear of the local place also.
I almost feel like telling “T” that I’m over the whole game she has had me playing, but I guess that’s not needed.
Im pretty much over taking crap from people.
I feel that way about work also which I must deal with today.
I run a route for a company. It’s a very small route with a customer base that has a low amount of $$.
So point being it does not take in the same $$ amount as the larger better routes.
Now they are holding all drivers to a $$ amount that they want us to bring in everyday.
The better routes can do this, without effort while the drivers with lesser routes must struggle.
I’m not to sure that’s right. Unfair advantage for some while others can not achieve the $ goal.
Then we face getting written up if we do not bring in the amount.
Yeah I don’t like the looks of this.
I do believe there is a problem here.
This is not a union shop. But after being a teamster shop steward for 13 years I have learned a little about labor laws and unfair practice.
So I think I wont deal with this much longer.
Ok , it’s time for work!
Have a good day.
Mr. Christian
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You know what I have found is true for me.
When I stop searching for something, desperately needing it......and get on with the business of living my life and enjoying it...
That is the time when it all comes together. When Im not looking for a relationship and can take it or leave it.... God usually puts an amazing person in my life.
Mr. C .... No reason to tell T anything, if you were really over it that thought would not have crossed your mind. Maybe just take some time to work on living your life, doing what you like to do and letting it happen when it does. I have dated last year wanting a relationship... They did not pan out but that is ok, today I know that the right guy is going to find me and when/if that happens great, if not .... life is good anyway.
When I stop searching for something, desperately needing it......and get on with the business of living my life and enjoying it...
That is the time when it all comes together. When Im not looking for a relationship and can take it or leave it.... God usually puts an amazing person in my life.
Mr. C .... No reason to tell T anything, if you were really over it that thought would not have crossed your mind. Maybe just take some time to work on living your life, doing what you like to do and letting it happen when it does. I have dated last year wanting a relationship... They did not pan out but that is ok, today I know that the right guy is going to find me and when/if that happens great, if not .... life is good anyway.
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I agree that looking for someone in a bar generally leads to disaster. After all, they ARE in a bar. Not everyone in a bar is an A, but if there are a group of "regulars" the chances are better-than-average that their idea of a "great" social evening is drinking - and usually too much.
I went the online route. Jeesh! I went out on casual dates, usually met for lunch or at a mall. I met a few guys who were downright creepy, and a few who seemed quite nice. However, you are right about the online scene. A lot of people misrepresent themselves.
It's true that when you aren't looking for someone or just aren't interested in finding THE relationship, someone will usually come into your life. Funny how that happens ....
I went the online route. Jeesh! I went out on casual dates, usually met for lunch or at a mall. I met a few guys who were downright creepy, and a few who seemed quite nice. However, you are right about the online scene. A lot of people misrepresent themselves.
It's true that when you aren't looking for someone or just aren't interested in finding THE relationship, someone will usually come into your life. Funny how that happens ....
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I tried online dating once. Posted an ad (without a photo) saying that I was looking for long-term companionship but not marriage and that I enjoyed gardening, books, shopping for antiques, cooking, spending time with my daughter, and volunteering at the local animal shelter.
I thought some creeps would probably respond but hopefully some real gentlemen, too. What I wasn't expecting was the inordinately large number of men who e-mailed me photos of their private parts attached to their responses. That was the end of the line for all of them and the photos were promptly trashed. Well, all except for one that was quite spectacular and ungodly enormous and probably way too much to handle.
I look at that photo from time to time and think to myself "if only that appendage were attached to an intelligent, warm, caring, and kind gentleman instead of some slob who disrespects women. I mean, a girl can dream, can't she?
I thought some creeps would probably respond but hopefully some real gentlemen, too. What I wasn't expecting was the inordinately large number of men who e-mailed me photos of their private parts attached to their responses. That was the end of the line for all of them and the photos were promptly trashed. Well, all except for one that was quite spectacular and ungodly enormous and probably way too much to handle.
I look at that photo from time to time and think to myself "if only that appendage were attached to an intelligent, warm, caring, and kind gentleman instead of some slob who disrespects women. I mean, a girl can dream, can't she?
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OMG, FD - you're killing me!!!! Hey, lots of the facial photos were taken 10 years ago or are probably not even the real pics of the online guy. Maybe his "weapon" was downloaded from a porn site and he isn't the real owner of IT! Still, to think that there is something out there like that .... yikes!!!
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Lord have mercy!! May I respectfuly ask that we keep this discussion G-rated? Pretty please with sugar on top? and no I'm not singling out any one person, it's a polite request for _everybody_
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I was wondering about online dating sites questionaires....is there a section like: How much do you drink?
Do you drink every day?
Do you drink until you pass out frequently?
I mean really, this would be handy information to know upfront. Is there a place to add your own questions? Or to say that you detest anyone that consumes large quantities of alcohol or drugs? These are serious questions that I would have, before starting any new relationship. (not that I'm looking) I was just curious how these online sites worked.
Do you drink every day?
Do you drink until you pass out frequently?
I mean really, this would be handy information to know upfront. Is there a place to add your own questions? Or to say that you detest anyone that consumes large quantities of alcohol or drugs? These are serious questions that I would have, before starting any new relationship. (not that I'm looking) I was just curious how these online sites worked.
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Well, I guess I need to get back on some of this.
GOOD LORD FD YOU SAVED IT???
Sorry I had to say it.
Any way I have found some of the so called ladies in the sites just as bad.
I could never get guys doing that stuff really
Am I over this girl? Hell no, you just don’t shut off emotions.
Anyone who all of the sudden says “I’m over it” is just lying to himself and everyone else.
Mike I’m sorry, I guess every time I post something happens.
I just wish it were easier all the way around.
GOOD LORD FD YOU SAVED IT???
Sorry I had to say it.
Any way I have found some of the so called ladies in the sites just as bad.
I could never get guys doing that stuff really
Am I over this girl? Hell no, you just don’t shut off emotions.
Anyone who all of the sudden says “I’m over it” is just lying to himself and everyone else.
Mike I’m sorry, I guess every time I post something happens.
I just wish it were easier all the way around.
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Originally Posted by Mr. Christian
I did not feel it. I don’t know if it is just getting over the place, the scene or just looking at stuff differently.
I was home before the t clock gave up 2006.
I’m fed up with the dating world as far as the bar crowd.
I’ve even tried the online thing. In fact “T” is on ***** and that might explain some things.
You see I’ve found 90% of the people on online dating sites are just as messed up relationship wise.
Mr. Christian
I was home before the t clock gave up 2006.
I’m fed up with the dating world as far as the bar crowd.
I’ve even tried the online thing. In fact “T” is on ***** and that might explain some things.
You see I’ve found 90% of the people on online dating sites are just as messed up relationship wise.
Mr. Christian
Bar crowds && online crowds are a strange place to meet people. They usually end up having issue upon issue that they can hide threw thier alcohol or computer screen. I have figured this out aswell.
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Mr. C., I'm sorry you're going through this, but the holiday season is pretty tough on a lot of folks, emotionally-speaking. You are correct that just as many women as men can be misleading on the dating sites.
As far as the question of drinking goes: yes, some sites DO ask you how frequently you drink. LOL - Almost every single guy who emailed me had answered the question thusly: "I drink socially." Yeah, and their idea of "social" was my idea of watch out - trouble ahead! I met one charming-sounding English gentleman at a very nice restaurant/pub and he was a rip-roaring drunk. I excused myself, went to the ladies' room, and kept walking right out the door and to my car to make a quick getaway.
As far as the question of drinking goes: yes, some sites DO ask you how frequently you drink. LOL - Almost every single guy who emailed me had answered the question thusly: "I drink socially." Yeah, and their idea of "social" was my idea of watch out - trouble ahead! I met one charming-sounding English gentleman at a very nice restaurant/pub and he was a rip-roaring drunk. I excused myself, went to the ladies' room, and kept walking right out the door and to my car to make a quick getaway.
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Originally Posted by Girl
Bar crowds && online crowds are a strange place to meet people.
Mr. C, you may be right that you can't shut off emotions for someone, but continuing to do things like you are doing will help you get past those feelings even faster.
Oh, and FD, you had me literally laughing out loud...
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mr c.....how nice someone from the past thought to call you up. even if it doesnt' go anywhere, a date or two, here and there????
fdm....was that his tonsils???? geeezzzz, he needs to have them removed.
fdm....was that his tonsils???? geeezzzz, he needs to have them removed.
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You people are a scarin me.
Boy. Dating used to be fun. Of course for me that was 35 years ago. Makes me glad Ive decided not to dump Elvis.
I figure his faults are grandfathered in. Id be a whole lot pickier with pickin a new one.
FD You really kept the picture?
MrC Listen to Cat. Go to places where you can meet people with similar interests. Join some clubs. Volunteer.
Boy. Dating used to be fun. Of course for me that was 35 years ago. Makes me glad Ive decided not to dump Elvis.
I figure his faults are grandfathered in. Id be a whole lot pickier with pickin a new one.
FD You really kept the picture?
MrC Listen to Cat. Go to places where you can meet people with similar interests. Join some clubs. Volunteer.
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Originally Posted by Cecilia
MrC Listen to Cat. Go to places where you can meet people with similar interests. Join some clubs. Volunteer.
What are your interests, hobbies, etc.? Do you like bowling? Join a bowling league. Do you like the outdoors? Join a hiking club. Do you like to travel? Hook up with group tours. Etc., etc.
But, keep in mind that you are joining these things with the purpose of following your interests first and foremost. If you join 'just to meet a woman', you might just be setting yourself up for disappointment. The point is, like others have said, to pursue your interests. Make yourself happy by doing things that 'you' like to do. If you go into it that way, even if you 'don't' meet anyone, you'll still be doing things that you like.
And perhaps it's 'not' the right time for you to meet anyone anyway. Like you said, you're still 'not over T'. It wouldn't be fair to meet someone new if you still have feelings for her. I for one wouldn't want to start seeing a man who still had romantic feelings for another woman. Relationships are tough enough without that particular baggage being an issue. Trust me...I've been there. Just my 2 cents!
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