CatsTail

from the ex wondering why we haven't talked in 3 months.

I said are you clean,sober that's partly why we haven't. How soon we conveniently forget.

Ngaire

FormerDoormat

Isn't it amazing that they even HAVE to ask that question?

StandingStrong

Oh my, but your post brought back some memories. I remember so many times that AH would ask me "Why are we seperated again?" I never really was sure if I wanted to just laugh out loud when he'd ask that or just roll my eyes for eternity!!!

Does he still know why?
Not really.
He's got his own story - which isn't the truth.
Gotta blame something other than the truth or he'd have to look at himself.

I'm done explaining it - if he hasn't got it by now - he's not going too.

Just amazing, isn't it?

Cynay

OMG SS.... you just gave me a light bulb moment.

If he hasn't got it by now - he's not going too.

I really need to remember to stop explaining/talking things to death and trying to "make" people understand.... I need to say it once, sit back and watch and let it go...

Thanks for that reminder.

embraced2000

mine asked me that same question over and over again......i finally told him it was because of the way he tried to write his name on the wall when he was peeing....with his pee. next time i told him cause he never put a trash can liner back in the trash can. next time i told him cause he took up too much space in our bed. and so on.

they know WHY......they just want to argue bout it and shift everything all around.

luv to all
jeri

mazey

They just don't want to believe the alcohol could be a problem?

deax

LOL!! I love this approach! I think I'll try it. I'll tell him I broke up with him because he fell asleep when we went to see Pride & Prejudice that time.

Acushla

This is so amazing.

We're not separated (yet, but I think it's coming if I can figure out how to do it financially/logistically)...but I'm already experiencing this short term memory thing from him. I know he has decided that I am simply irrational and hysterical and overly emotional and he doesn't know why. He never connects my emotions to his drinking. For me, the connection is so clear any idiot could see it!

And I've decided drinking your life, heart, body, mind, family and marriage away is the absolute most irrational thing a person can do. So much for rationality!

The insanity with which we are dealing is...well, I can only shake my head. I guess it has to do with that frontal lobe damage I've been reading about, eh?

CatsTail

i FIND IT INTERESTING HOW i SAID "ARE YOU CLEAN,SOBER GETTING BETTER" THEN HE DOESN'T RESOND.

CatsTail

I get a very indignant e-mail telling me how he thought he could have an honest conversation with me but because of my condescending attitude he's changed his mind.

He has a nerve to talk about honesty seeing as he probably was drinking for most of the last year.

Ngaire

mallowcup

How heartbreaking that he doesn't realize his life with you is over.

mazey

Sad ngaire....you've done what you can. Typical that they want to talk on their terms/time.

CatsTail

Believe me any conversation won't be on his terms.

Ngaire