kipper

I was sitting here reading through others posts and I got to thinking about why we stay. Not just with alcoholics but why anyone stays with someone that they deep down know they shouldn't be with. So they thought is "why is the need to feel needed and appreciated so strong" and "why do I need the physical companionship of another human being to feel good"????????

I do think this is just plain old human nature. The touch of another human is very theraputic. This need is so strong for me that I keep wanting to see my A even though we are broken up just so I can get a hug from him. I am doing good without him but I am not at the stage yet where I can go ZERO contact. So chatting every few days and a hug once a week is what I need.

I do wonder when the day will come that I can get by without even this contact. I do believe to fully heal I do need to end contact all together, I just don't feel ready.

I guess I am rambling on...I just needed to put these thoughts down.

denny57

I sound like a broken record, I know - but I used the same excuses, different words perhaps, as the addict did to continue his drinking. Yes, wanting human touch and companionship is human. But why a human who is not good for me? When I figured that out, no contact became much easier.

mazey

I really miss the "thanks" clik! What good responses.....
We are no contact cuz I know it would only pull me back...not that I don't think about contact once in awhile

lilac

(((Kipper))) You are human, that is why. It is easier said than done.

IrshIzNotSmilin

It is very hard. Everyone heals in their own time. Hang In.