Can I get a "WOOT WOOT"!?!?!?!
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Can I get a "WOOT WOOT"!?!?!?!
I did it! It took a long time to get my affairs in order but I did it - I finally did it!
My AH - ahem - SOON TO BE EX AH - is no longer with me and my son. It took a long time from the abuse of last time for me to gain my courage to leave - scratch that - throw the drunk, stinky, m.f. out on his sorry stumbling behind!
How 'bout a WOOT WOOT!
Oh, it was ugly. It was so, so ugly and thankfully to my lawyer, my therapist, my sponsor and my will power, he will not be coming around me or my son for a long time. I do not envy a soul who is battling the scenario of "maybe he will change... maybe one more shot... this time could be different". It is so hard to finally acknowledge what is really important in life - my son who is so young and innocent or a man, whom I do love, that is an alcoholic and has just not hit his own bottom.
I have lurked since I posted oh so long ago about the abuse, ashamed I was still with him. But, now, let this lost rockin' momma be free! My son can now build memories of his Mom not dealing with drunkin' crap.
It is not an easy road at all to go on. It is scary, terrifying, unfamilar, and just down right craptastic, but it can be done. I guess, my whole point of this (besides giving myself some long awaited kudo's - LET ME HEAR IT WOOT WOOT!) is to say to all those who are just realizing that this problem is not for you....
... there is an out. You can do this. Reflect, inquire, and pray ... you can do it. I thought I was SO stuck. I am so glad I proved my thought wrong.
You can do it.
ForgottenWife (maybe I should invest in a new name now)
P.S. My 6 1/2 month old crawled tonight for the 1st time - right to me - smiling the whole way.
My AH - ahem - SOON TO BE EX AH - is no longer with me and my son. It took a long time from the abuse of last time for me to gain my courage to leave - scratch that - throw the drunk, stinky, m.f. out on his sorry stumbling behind!
How 'bout a WOOT WOOT!
Oh, it was ugly. It was so, so ugly and thankfully to my lawyer, my therapist, my sponsor and my will power, he will not be coming around me or my son for a long time. I do not envy a soul who is battling the scenario of "maybe he will change... maybe one more shot... this time could be different". It is so hard to finally acknowledge what is really important in life - my son who is so young and innocent or a man, whom I do love, that is an alcoholic and has just not hit his own bottom.
I have lurked since I posted oh so long ago about the abuse, ashamed I was still with him. But, now, let this lost rockin' momma be free! My son can now build memories of his Mom not dealing with drunkin' crap.
It is not an easy road at all to go on. It is scary, terrifying, unfamilar, and just down right craptastic, but it can be done. I guess, my whole point of this (besides giving myself some long awaited kudo's - LET ME HEAR IT WOOT WOOT!) is to say to all those who are just realizing that this problem is not for you....
... there is an out. You can do this. Reflect, inquire, and pray ... you can do it. I thought I was SO stuck. I am so glad I proved my thought wrong.
You can do it.
ForgottenWife (maybe I should invest in a new name now)
P.S. My 6 1/2 month old crawled tonight for the 1st time - right to me - smiling the whole way.
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Here's a woot woot from me. Good for you, forgotten. I remember your story well and am so glad you removed yourself from a dangerous situation. I know it isn't easy.
There is nothing shameful in having to do what needs to be done. Glad you are back posting now.
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There is nothing shameful in having to do what needs to be done. Glad you are back posting now.
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Join Date: Jul 2004
Location: Boston, MA
Posts: 561
Yay! Woot 
Can I also say that you have made my whole day by introducing me to the word "craptastic". Be assured that it will blossom in my family and be spread across the central belt of Scotland.
Yay!
Jane
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Can I also say that you have made my whole day by introducing me to the word "craptastic". Be assured that it will blossom in my family and be spread across the central belt of Scotland.
Yay!
Jane
xxx
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Join Date: Aug 2002
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Here's a WOOOOT WOOOOOT from me!!
I remember one of my defining moments... my sweet little 5 yr old son gave me a look that I knew well and spoke to me in a condescending tone. I have no idea what he said, but I will never forget HOW he said it. I remember sliding down to the floor in the kitchen and sobbing.
At that moment I realized that my sons were learning how to treat their wives by watching how their father treated me. That was the day I started taking care of myself, working on my issues and realizing that I was worthy of love, dignity, respect.
I am no longer married to their father, and it was a blessing for all. It had its ugly and craptastic moments (great new word!) but it worked out.
(Me? I apparently wasn't done with some important life lessons and stepped right up to marry another A, but that's a story for another day.)
Congrats again FW. You've given your son a great gift.
Hugs
Cat
I remember one of my defining moments... my sweet little 5 yr old son gave me a look that I knew well and spoke to me in a condescending tone. I have no idea what he said, but I will never forget HOW he said it. I remember sliding down to the floor in the kitchen and sobbing.
At that moment I realized that my sons were learning how to treat their wives by watching how their father treated me. That was the day I started taking care of myself, working on my issues and realizing that I was worthy of love, dignity, respect.
I am no longer married to their father, and it was a blessing for all. It had its ugly and craptastic moments (great new word!) but it worked out.
(Me? I apparently wasn't done with some important life lessons and stepped right up to marry another A, but that's a story for another day.)
Congrats again FW. You've given your son a great gift.
Hugs
Cat
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