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Join Date: Aug 2006
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Hello
This is my first post, and I just wanted to say hi to everyone.
My history with drinking goes back a long time, but now I've decided to seek help since my family life is suffering, and I almost got (another) DUI over the weekend. I don't want to live my life around booze anymore.
My history with drinking goes back a long time, but now I've decided to seek help since my family life is suffering, and I almost got (another) DUI over the weekend. I don't want to live my life around booze anymore.
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Hi, Suzin,
Thank you for your response! Yes, my history goes back for a long time, but I've been good at denying everything. So far, I've smashed up two cars (one back in 1991, and one in 2003, in which I woke up in the hospital with an IV in my arm). Both of those I weaseled out of and didn't get a DUI, but back in 1998 I ran a stop sign while drunk and got a DUI.
It feels good for me to write all of this down, and I feel good knowing that I'm not alone.
Thank you for your response! Yes, my history goes back for a long time, but I've been good at denying everything. So far, I've smashed up two cars (one back in 1991, and one in 2003, in which I woke up in the hospital with an IV in my arm). Both of those I weaseled out of and didn't get a DUI, but back in 1998 I ran a stop sign while drunk and got a DUI.
It feels good for me to write all of this down, and I feel good knowing that I'm not alone.
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Join Date: Dec 2005
Location: Baton Rouge, La.
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Welcome to SR TomZ. My name is Sharon and Im an Alcoholic.
SR is a good place to recieve help, guidance and suggestions from many caring recovering members.
There's lots of good sobriety in here...many newcomers like urself and many of those to follow or just walk beside with.
No one here is better than anyone here....we all have our own reasons for wanting recovery and there is a solution available for us if we have the desire and willingness to reach out for it.
I stayed around long enough myself to hear the words of recovery. I saw for myself how this program works each time i sat in a meeting thru out the yrs.
I saw and heard what I wanted to badly. And that was to learn how to stay sober one day at a time.
There are many suggestions you will hear in recovery. For me as i was new in recovery....I followed those suggestions as my life depended on them. I didnt want to drink again and so when an "old-timer" shared what it was like for him when he was drinking, what happened to him and how it is now that he is sober...that was what i wanted more than anything. He had what i wanted....
Freedom from the drink. Freedom from being miserable....
Suggestions of 90 meetings in 90 days is a good start....if u attend those meetings as suggested and find out at the end u heard nothing, then they will gladly refund ur misery...i heard that many many times.....so when someone came in and decided they had this program by the horns and went back out to do some control drinking, then returned to tell us that it hasnt changed out there....then i knew i didnt want to go find out myself.....they did for me or u will hear... BUT FOR THE GRACE OF UR HIGHER POWER THERE GOES I.....
They offer these "CHIPS" at each meetings....beginning with the very first one....THE DESIRE CHIP. If you have the DESIRE to stop drinking, then pick u up one...hold on to it tightly and everytime u feel like u want to drink....place it between ur teeth till the urge passes.
Next find u someone to talk to...like a temporary sponsor.....just someone u can get a phone number from and call if u think u want to drink.
These r a few suggestions to begin with as u begin ur journey learning to stay sober one day at a time.
Anyway...others will be along shortly to share with u their own ESH with u.
Keep coming back.
SR is a good place to recieve help, guidance and suggestions from many caring recovering members.
There's lots of good sobriety in here...many newcomers like urself and many of those to follow or just walk beside with.
No one here is better than anyone here....we all have our own reasons for wanting recovery and there is a solution available for us if we have the desire and willingness to reach out for it.
I stayed around long enough myself to hear the words of recovery. I saw for myself how this program works each time i sat in a meeting thru out the yrs.
I saw and heard what I wanted to badly. And that was to learn how to stay sober one day at a time.
There are many suggestions you will hear in recovery. For me as i was new in recovery....I followed those suggestions as my life depended on them. I didnt want to drink again and so when an "old-timer" shared what it was like for him when he was drinking, what happened to him and how it is now that he is sober...that was what i wanted more than anything. He had what i wanted....
Freedom from the drink. Freedom from being miserable....
Suggestions of 90 meetings in 90 days is a good start....if u attend those meetings as suggested and find out at the end u heard nothing, then they will gladly refund ur misery...i heard that many many times.....so when someone came in and decided they had this program by the horns and went back out to do some control drinking, then returned to tell us that it hasnt changed out there....then i knew i didnt want to go find out myself.....they did for me or u will hear... BUT FOR THE GRACE OF UR HIGHER POWER THERE GOES I.....
They offer these "CHIPS" at each meetings....beginning with the very first one....THE DESIRE CHIP. If you have the DESIRE to stop drinking, then pick u up one...hold on to it tightly and everytime u feel like u want to drink....place it between ur teeth till the urge passes.
Next find u someone to talk to...like a temporary sponsor.....just someone u can get a phone number from and call if u think u want to drink.
These r a few suggestions to begin with as u begin ur journey learning to stay sober one day at a time.
Anyway...others will be along shortly to share with u their own ESH with u.
Keep coming back.
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Join Date: Aug 2006
Location: glouster ohio
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Hi, I've been clean and sober since Nov.5, 2005, the day I left my husband. It has been tough. I love and miss him everyday, but there was nothing I could do to save him, the only person I could save was myself.
Forward we go...side by side-Rest In Peace
Join Date: Jun 2002
Location: Serene In Dixie
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..Welcome Tom!For understanding alcoholism...I recommend...
"Under The influence"
and it's sequel
"Beyond The Influence"
they are carried by Amazon
Blackouts are explained in "Under" page 119.
I guess you have had them by now.
I strongly suggest you seek medical advice before
you quit abruptly. Alcohol withdrawal is a serious
undertaking and dangerous to try alone.
Keep posting..we do understand.
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Join Date: Aug 2006
Location: Massachusetts
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Thanks for the responses, everyone..
The Great Kazoo is the outlook I truly have on life. Life should be fun along with its challenges, but I know that life is not meant to be weighed down by something that becomes unmanageable: in my case it is alcohol.
Here are some questions that I've been asking myself (only recently, sadly enough):
1. How many more times does my wife have to say that I scare her when I drink ?
2. How many more times will I drive drunk?
3. How many times will I embarrass myself in front of my friends (and past neighbors)?
4. How many more times will I wake up hungover?
I'm so sick of living like this and I want the answer for all of these questions to be: zero.
So here is my start and I'm grateful that I have everyone's support.
The Great Kazoo is the outlook I truly have on life. Life should be fun along with its challenges, but I know that life is not meant to be weighed down by something that becomes unmanageable: in my case it is alcohol.
Here are some questions that I've been asking myself (only recently, sadly enough):
1. How many more times does my wife have to say that I scare her when I drink ?
2. How many more times will I drive drunk?
3. How many times will I embarrass myself in front of my friends (and past neighbors)?
4. How many more times will I wake up hungover?
I'm so sick of living like this and I want the answer for all of these questions to be: zero.
So here is my start and I'm grateful that I have everyone's support.
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Join Date: Aug 2006
Location: B-Town, Idaho
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Hey tomz, welcome, I'm a new comer here too just joined few days ago. I'm greatful to see you came here. When I read your post first thing I thought to my self, he made the first step, reaching out and asking for help. =]
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Originally Posted by scootinbabe
Hi Tom! Way to go on your decision! You will not regret it. Keep coming back!
Well, it's Monday morning and I'm not hungover.. maybe I can get more
done at work today. Ready to seize the day!
Scootinbabe: that's a nice looking scooter in your avatar.. I have two Vespas myself!
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Join Date: Sep 2006
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Questions to drinkers
Hi all. I am really sorry you are struggling with this problem. I am not but am married to an alcoholic who I love very much. He's been working his program hard for the past few years and has done pretty well. Started drinking again this summer. I let the first time go assuming he'd get back on the road on his own. That didn't work. I caught him again and had him leave for about a week. He came back, did well for a week and then drank (vodka) 2 days in a row. My kids witnessed this. He's a really good man and I want to save my family BEFORE it gets realy ugly. Do any of you have any suggestions on what my best course of action is to get him to take it VERY seriously? Do you think that keeping him out of the house for an extended period of time might be MY best course of action? Do I offer sympathy or give him some good old-fashioned tough love? I wish I understood the nature of the beast I'm dealing with but honestly don't. Any insight is a help. Please be honest as I want what's best for him in the long run.
You can all do this. Pray!!! Your family and friends love you and life can be amazing without the drink! THANK YOU!
You can all do this. Pray!!! Your family and friends love you and life can be amazing without the drink! THANK YOU!
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