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Ssssssoooooooooo........

Talked with S.O.........said he's been drinking so he doesn't use Heroin.

Hates A.A..........not going for meds.........even though he's having trouble getting out of bed because he is so depressed. Crying alot on the phone.
But says he's not going to get help...doesn't believe in A.A counselling or medication. Says he's not worth it and doesn't feel worthy of a life.

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I am sorry to hear about your friend. Can you get him help against his will?
He is in a dangerous place right now.
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What do you think your should do (if anything) for his problem Ngaire?
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Patty,

I don't think there is much I can do except let go and let god. Let him fall.

But is you can think of something let me know.

Live,

I feel like crap about it.

My first client this morning at work is a girl 36 years old who was born prematurely and didn't get enough oxygen to her brain. She is a person who can't do anything about her life is permanently crippled for as long as she lives. But these active alcoholics and addicts do have tools but won't use them. Too busy on their pity pots. That's what I told him among a few other choice things. I told him I work with people who have REAL problems here and REALLY can't do anything about them.

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Originally Posted by ngaire

I don't think there is much I can do except let go and let god. Let him fall.

But is you can think of something let me know.

Ngaire

That's exactly what I was thinking Ngaire.
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I'm oscillating between total acceptance back to total anger, to total sadness.

And that's a rough frame of mind to be in while I'm out caregiving as my job. My client before lunch her husband is an alcoholic and he leaves while I'm there with her to go and get beer. I felt like slapping him.

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I just had this urge to call his sponsor but that would be a bad co-dependent move on my part.

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How's about calling your sponsor?
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and that is about the best advice you can get....
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Been on the phone eeryday with my sponsor, I'll be calling when she gets home from work.

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Ngaire,

We all have those days.

said he's been drinking so he doesn't use Heroin
Sounds so insane doesnt it...remind yourself of that if you feel like enabling.
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Originally Posted by ngaire
I'm oscillating between total acceptance back to total anger, to total sadness.

Not a nice place to be....kinda sums up my day today,too.

Sorry you are having a rough time,but I think you are right about the Let go,let God.....hugs and prayers going out to you.
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And that's a rough frame of mind to be in while I'm out caregiving as my job. My client before lunch her husband is an alcoholic and he leaves while I'm there with her to go and get beer. I felt like slapping him.

haha or would your prefer the old stand-by?:

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Elizabeth,

He has to justify it somehow ahaahahhaha......... ugh!

It's a totally insane disease,illogical,selfish,self-centered,self-pitying.

Unreal.

I'm off to my A.A meeting.

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It's a totally insane disease,illogical,selfish,self-centered,self-pitying.

Yes it is ((Ngaire)) and unfortunately, there's nothing that you nor I can do about it. Take care of you sweetie.
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The meeting was so good tonight.the topic was "how we've stayed sober"

Listening to other alcoholics talk about the disease it was so enlightening in a lot of ways. A lot of good stuff was shared.

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My client before lunch her husband is an alcoholic and he leaves while I'm there with her to go and get beer. I felt like slapping him.
I have seen this type of stuff working with hospice patients it really breaks my heart.

I feel for your S/O too being a recoving addict/alcoholic I have been in that place of not feeling worthy of living. Keeping you and him on my prayer list.
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Thankyou Spelendra.

My biggest fear is the Heroin. But again I'm powerless over it all.

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