MsPINKAcres

Ok my fellow recovery friends - really needing some encouragement -
I have really been overwhelmed lately, I know the This Too Shall Pass and Let Go & Let God and First Things First & One Day At a Time - Ok I know, I know, but somedays those walls are just closing in on us or in my case falling in on us

Let me explain - As some of you may know, we (my AH & I) are living in a older mobile home that was damaged by Hurricane Rita last Sept. We originally thought we were going to be able to repair the home, but the more we tried, the more damage we found. We have been working with SBA-Disaster Asst. since January on the Disaster Asst. Loan to purchase a new mobile home. I never thought it would get approved, my AH may be in recovery, but several of the defects of character (financial issues) are still present. But my HP has been awesome in working out wonderful details and taking care of things. We ordered the new house and things were going great. Then the old house started falling apart - literally - the a/c broke, windows broke, gas meter broke, mold in parts of the house, floor falling thru -Totally the Money Pit (Like the old Tom Hanks/Shelly Long Movie) Very stressful - Then my AH crossed one of my boundaries on this house issue and discounted my feelings - we have a few heated discussions and have hopefully resolved this matter - I am hoping this issue hasn't messed up the loan, but it may have - so the new house is on the mobile home lot, but I don't want to look at in case we don't get it-cause then I would really have a resentment.

It is our wedding anniversary Monday (14th) and we have had plans for over 2 months to go visit friends for the weekend - It will be a great weekend - relaxation, no stress, and I really, really want to go - Our plan is to go, enjoy ourselves and then next week try to tackle the house issues - so can I keep my big mouth? Can I keep that obsessive, compulsive, crazy "Ritaville" brain from going off all weekend? Can I remind myself to just table the issues and let God handle them?
Any suggestions to help me with this would be greatly appreciated?

Thanks,
Rita

cwohio

maybe write out all the "stuff" that you think might come tumbling out if you don't get it out and then rip it up or burn it? duct tape?

seriously - i hope you are able to go and enjoy the time and let it go for at least your weekend!

megamysterioso

Good luck Rita and please try to refrain from stressing, worrying and ranting on your anniversary weekend. You deserve to take a break and just enjoy the moment. The ranting will not change what will be the final outcome and it is out of your control. Most likely it would only put a damper on your fabulous weekend. Have fun!!

denny57

I think you can do. How about the rubber band on the wrist thing - get one of those stretchy bracelets that are all the rage now.

Zoey

After you follow Christy's advice on the list to burn, then write down every big and little thing you love about him, memorize that one and think constantly on that, it will show. You will both feel it, I hope.

You can make it thu. If you had to choose between him and a home, which would win??

MsPINKAcres

Duct tape - Does that come in colors? - pink would match most of my outfits? Stretchy bracelets - that would mean I could go shopping for one - that would work for me - Things I love about him - yeah after 14 years there are several things I love about him . . . Like the fact that we decided if we do get the new home our master bedroom is going to be decorated all in recovery themed art work (Camels, Serenity Prayer throws, Crosses, etc).

Thanks for the ideas and encouragement - like always - writing it out - getting it out on paper is sometimes the best therapy - I can do this - just gotta get myself in the right frame of mind - thanks for helping me get there,

Wishing all of you a blessed and recovery filled weekend,
Rita