Inconsiderate Neighbours I suffer from GAD amongst other mental health problems. My neighbours are triggering my stress which is causing dramatic rises in my BP. It is currently 9.30pm and they are angle grinding in the garden, last night they didn't stop till 10.40. I live in a small semi, they have been at it since 8.30 this morning. They have turned their back garden into a party place. Two bbq's, firepits and disco lights. I am a lady living a quite life on my own. I feel vulnerable, bullied and totally disrespected. I have lived here 25 years as they have, I don't own my house but nor do they own theirs. Everything changed when the daughter got married. They have not shown any consideration at all and even stopped me having a new fence fitted at my own expense - reasons unknown. My Dr had to prescribe me diazepam last week, only 8 tablets as she knows I am highly susceptible to become addicted. I am truly at the end of my tether. :( :( |
That sounds absolutely horrendous! I hope you get some advice from other members as i am in the UK. |
We installed a small a/c window unit to drown out our neighbors because their driveway run up the side of our house and separates the 2 houses. You can also try earplugs or a fan next to your bed too. Say your Serenity prayer often and place your neighbors in your Higher Powers hands. I hope these few suggestions might be of some help to you so you can experience more days of serenity and peace. :) |
Kaily, I think "Higher Powers" would include the Council's noise-abatement laws or whatever they're called in your area. I understand how difficult it is for you but I think action needs to be taken. Protect your health and that of your pets. Hoping for a quick restoration of peace to your pretty garden sanctuary. :hug: |
Thanks for the replies. The parties haven't properly started yet, they are still preparing the garden, although they did have one last weekend. It looks now like a tacky pub garden. Five of them living nextdoor, and just me here with no support, I am scared to complain. They know that and are taking advantage. https://i.postimg.cc/fLQCwqrv/IMG-20...053740-967.jpg This thread is going to be my log, outlet and hopefully support. By goodness I need it. |
Kaily, contact your Council. The Noise Act 1996 states that your local council must investigate any noise that is deemed to be a ‘nuisance’. If your neighbour’s noise is deemed a nuisance, then the Council can issue an Abatement Notice which can involve that the noise must stop completely or is only permitted during certain hours of the day. If your neighbour fails to comply, they can be fined up to £5,000. I would attach that photo too as it shows they have turned it in to party central. I would also get someone to put a fence up regardless of them agreeing or not. There will also be local forums you can campaign on. I'm sorry you are having to go through this Kaily but be proactive and patient. You can also call the police out if it is bad late at night. |
Kaily, I am sorry too that you’re having these thoughtless neighbours to contend with. I’m not a confrontational person either and like a quiet life but I would sorely be tempted to report them. If you have a decibel app it can measure and save their noise along with photos. You shouldn’t have to feel under threat in your own home. You can do this love, with the help of others too. Take care, sending love to you and Alfie and Daisy :hug: xx |
(((Kaily))) How awful! I wonder if you can somehow report them anonymously.....or look for somewhere else to live...what a pain in the ass! :mad: |
It seems that if you've been pretty good neighbors for 25 years, then you should be able to discuss this with the parents/long-time residents and also the property owners. The owners would want to know about those structures, it's a liability issue. Send the owners those images. Find out the laws and let them know what they are. The young new husband might just be clueless. Young people often are. I know you said he is thug-like, but what are your choices? Move, complain loudly, or live with it. What the heck is that black floor-like thing? It looks dangerous, are they burying bodies? I don't know that I would be afraid to report them, but it could definitely go either way. I think the hours are important and the illegal structures. Can you enlist the support of those other neighbors in the back lot? |
I am so sorry that you are going through this, Kaily. You have a beautiful garden (a true reflection of your inner beauty). Your neighbors are pushing the limits of residential living; what is that platform thing - dry imposing and odd looking. It seems that your Council needs to get involved. It would seem that your landlord is pushing the limits, too, by allowing this to continue. I like the idea above of a window air-conditioner; they really do drown out a lot of noise. |
It looks like a dance floor |
Sorry to read that your neighbours are causing ongoing problems. Your garden is lovely and it should be a place you want to be in and a place of sanctuary. Instead the behaviour of the neighbours is causing you anxiety. They have made a complete mess of their garden. The decking looks hideous. If the neighbours continue to be a nuisance then please reapproach the tenancy support officer (or whatever title they have). They have to take you seriously and have to listen to you and shouldn't be dismissive of what you are saying as happened last week. I remember you posting that you are the neighbours only next door neighbour. But there are other properties in the immediate vicinity and sound does travel. If the neighbours continue to be antisocial then other people living close by may also get fed up of noise. Hopefully other people will report them too. Take care Kaily and do speak to your tenancy support officer again. |
Thanks everyone. I am at the moment still focusing on trying to put a new fence up. The landlord is yet to give me permission as the neighbours blocked it. The true boundary fence (chain link) is behind my wonky fence. That needs to be removed to enable a straight fence line to be achieved. I have emailed the tenancy officer twice this week. From what I can see a big party is planned for tonight. They are not even polite or respectful enough to let me know. I must look up the covid rules on large gatherings. https://i.postimg.cc/3rg3vc6y/IMG-20...050939-117.jpg https://i.postimg.cc/gjD9BfFN/IMG-20...051045-330.jpg |
It's just so weird that they would cover that lovely lawn with that black thing. What does the landlord say about all this stuff on his/her property. Send them all the pictures! I hope you find a way to be somewhat at peace with it tonight. Maybe buy yourself some noise-cancelling headphones, mine are great hooked up to the TV :) I use a ROKU to access internet TV, and the ROKU has a plug-in for my headphones right on its remote. Very handy. |
They have started already.Noise not too bad but lots of smoke from fire pit and bbq's. Idiots put balloons everywhere which keep popping because of all the fire. Daisy is terrified and Alfie just wants to bark at them. Gonna be a long day, hardly anyone there yet. Yeah seems strange they are allowed to build all that but I can't put a new fence up. That is what infuriates me the most. Oh, loud music now. Shut in my bedroom trying to keep my patience and my BP down. This used to be a lovely street to live in. :( |
:hug: Sounds like a good day for a road trip with the dogs. Maybe they'd give you a picnic basket to take along...it's the least they could do. |
Yes I was thinking that but it is very hot, plus it will still be going on when I get home. You can imagine what is going through my mind - to blot it all out, chemically. I must not drink. They are turning me into a bitter and twisted old curtain twitcher. |
Yeah, well you can see that you've let your fear run you over, right? I get it, I mean PTSD makes that amygdala really jumpy and then all the systems in the body are on high alert. It's not good for me to allow that to take over, so I am forced to find other solutions. That doesn't include food or booze. Jus' sayin. Serenity to accept the things... |
Does serenity include putting the garden hose turned on at full belt over the garden fence. I could say I thought there was a fire. :lol: |
Our neighborhood is pretty quiet with older retired folks, but over time, some folks have move out and new moved in. It never stays the same. There is an elementary school down our street where carpool lines up right in front of our home 2 times a day when schools in session. There is also a nice Catholic Church located in the opposite direction. Our street and neighborhood is a cut thru to 2 main streets and so folks use it when going and coming from their jobs. Soooo, there is thru way traffic and lots of stop signs to keep the traffic at a slower pace. I know that it is Summertime and many folks are either having more BBQ's going on. Family stopping by for visits. Kids swimming in their grandparents pools and just all around outdoor activities and noise. Also grass cutting, tree trimming, motorcycles, boom boom music from passing cars or in neighbors backyard. All kinds of noises we experienced as children when we were young. Of course, did it bother us. No, because as children we were having fun and didnt think about the neighbors and such. I wonder what all the parents did back in the day when we couldnt wait to pop firecracker for the holidays. Or when dad fires up the bbq pit and we picnic outside on our wooden picnic table and all the fixins. :) Back then, we rode our bikes up and down the streets, played hide and go seek, marco polo, cowboys and indians. Water ballon fights, skating, basketball, etc. Running from one yard to another. Neighborhood kids all the time. Now that im older, wiser, sober, i have had to rethink things in todays time. I dont always agree with stuff and realize i have little to no control over what other folks do. It hasnt been all fun in sobriety living next to others and I thank God that I am sober to make some changes in my life to avoid copping huge resentments towards them. We have had several different neighbors to live in the rent house next to us. Everyone has been different. Some stories about them are funny now and I am always reminded that what is living there now could be worse. Alot worse. We are still thinking about putting something on our windows to council out the noises. We have researched different options to where it doesnt cost too much like using these plexi glass sheets you can have cut to fit over your windows. In fact, my husband did a few windows yrs ago to his bathroom window to keep the cool wind or draft from seeping in during the Winter. It is sealed with adhiesive silicone seal. That was a cheap way to do it, but it works. However, you have to decide to keep the window closed at all times because once sealed it is sealed. Of course you can easily cut the seal and take the sheet off anytime. There is always a solution to any problem that doesnt require killing ourselves with alcohol or drugs. A more healthier way. Keep searching out new ways to add more peace to your home and life while the world continues to do it's thing. :) |
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