amandajane

This comes from a book called "The Angry Heart - Overcoming Borderline and Addictive Disorders" by Joseph Santoro Ph.d.

It relates to people who have addictive and borderline disorders as a direct result of their environment and experiences as a child.

This took me a bit of time to get an understanding of when I first got this book some three or so years ago. Now it makes perfect sense to me. I thought I'd share it to see how others here respond.

If anyone would like any further quotes etc from the book please do let me know and I'll find some that are relevant.

I've found the book very helpful (it's virtually in pieces now, lol) so would be more than happy to share some more :-)

fraankie

yep
that's a paradox

and
also
about a GOOD TEN YEARS OF THERAPY


best
fraankie

amandajane

Heh, dunno about ten years, four for me and I'm doing good :-) Depends on the person's willingness to be honest and face the facts!

Don W

Yes, that sounds familar. One time in, a V A Program, it was mentioned to me. Not the samee words but, close. We were told, " You might not be responsibe for your addiction but, now that you know, your are responsibe to take care of it." I'd like to hear more. Also, I might pick up the book. I've found that education about my addictive personalty is my best recovery tool.
Thanks again, many will benifit from your help.

amandajane

Thanks Don :-)

I'll post another thread with some self help skills from the book.

Morning Glory

I've always looked at it as a trash can. If someone comes and dumps their smelly trash in my trash can I'm not responsible for the trash being there. It does become my trash now though and I am now responsible for it because it's in my can.

amandajane

Hehe, that's a good analogy :-)

fraankie

i like the trash can analogy