"excuse not to drink"
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Join Date: Jul 2005
Location: Gold Coast Australia
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"excuse not to drink"
Ive been on the drink most off my life. From my work to my sporting activities to socials with friends it has always involved drinking. Peaple will think strangely of me if I just stop drinking. What is the one believable, White lie..... what I can use to all that l know and will meet in the future so I may never have to be pick up a beer, and can grab a coke instead without any strange looks
or negativity?
Thanks
or negativity? Thanks
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Join Date: Oct 2002
Location: Zion, Illinois
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Hi hol,
Like the others. Tell the truth. I just say, "I've had enough! Don't drink any more!" Nuf said. If you choose to elaborate, that's your business but you don't "owe" anyone an explanation.
Like the others. Tell the truth. I just say, "I've had enough! Don't drink any more!" Nuf said. If you choose to elaborate, that's your business but you don't "owe" anyone an explanation.
Kelsey's Momma
Join Date: Jan 2005
Location: Houston, TX
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I had similar thoughts to you, and still do on occassion when I'm in a setting w/people drinking. I used to think that they were going to "single" me out or give me a hard time if i wasn't drinking alcohol w/them. My experience has been that it's quite the opposite and they really don't give a care about what I am or am not drinking.
Like others have posted, just be honest and say you're not drinking.
j
Like others have posted, just be honest and say you're not drinking.
j
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Hi....I understand what you mean....my husband quit drinking aswell. (sober 2 yrs.) Recently we had a couple over for a bbQ and they brought beer and coolers.We handled it by saying no thanks.....oh you don't drink they replied , leaving us feeling like a couple of prudes...No.....it was an awkward moment..and we didn't want to go into a long speil as to why.....I mean thats no ones bussiness, Other times I've heard my husband say ( Ive retired from the drinking) that worked well, Or you know I have one hell of an alcer.....I mean we really don't owe anyone an explanation....just grab a coke and ice and carry on....laugh and mingle.....
Forward we go...side by side-Rest In Peace
Join Date: Jun 2002
Location: Serene In Dixie
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Well....
When I drank...all my friends were also drinkers.
In AA sobriety..I have acquired new non drinking friends.
BTW...many of those bar room buddies died from untreated alcoholism in their 40's and 50's. I am soon 70!
No thanks.... Blessings
In AA sobriety..I have acquired new non drinking friends.
BTW...many of those bar room buddies died from untreated alcoholism in their 40's and 50's. I am soon 70!
No thanks.... Blessings
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Join Date: Jun 2005
Location: Charlotte,NC
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I can't help you much here because I was pretty good on excuses to justify my drinking.
An excuse for morning drinking. " I've been up all night, so it's like 8 o'clock at night for me".
Drinking heavily on a golf course. " I play better when I'm loosened up a little. A few drinks takes off the edge".
I had one for every occasion. When and if you quit drinking, people will look strange at you at first if you flat out say "I'm an alcoholic". It may hurt you professionally if people know you are one. There is a stigma whether we like it or not about being alcoholics. People think we are unstable, weak, and can go into the gutter at a moments notice. It's kind of true though if you think about it IMO.
My advice is to just say I'm not drinking today and that's what you tell yourself every morning as well if you want to quit.
An excuse for morning drinking. " I've been up all night, so it's like 8 o'clock at night for me".
Drinking heavily on a golf course. " I play better when I'm loosened up a little. A few drinks takes off the edge".
I had one for every occasion. When and if you quit drinking, people will look strange at you at first if you flat out say "I'm an alcoholic". It may hurt you professionally if people know you are one. There is a stigma whether we like it or not about being alcoholics. People think we are unstable, weak, and can go into the gutter at a moments notice. It's kind of true though if you think about it IMO.
My advice is to just say I'm not drinking today and that's what you tell yourself every morning as well if you want to quit.
Grateful recovering alcoholic
Join Date: Nov 2004
Location: Blissfield, MI
Posts: 814
No thanks.
Not today.
I'm choosing not to drink today.
By the way, if you want to stay sober - I'd suggest that you find non-drinking friends and activities for a while until you get some sober time...
Eventually if you go to the barber shop, you're going to get a hair cut....
Jen
Not today.
I'm choosing not to drink today.
By the way, if you want to stay sober - I'd suggest that you find non-drinking friends and activities for a while until you get some sober time...
Eventually if you go to the barber shop, you're going to get a hair cut....
Jen
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Join Date: Oct 2005
Location: Newark, NJ
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I agree with what the others have said, what I tell my friends and acquaintences is just: "Naw thanks, I'll just have a diet coke." And its cool and no one has said a thing or looked askance and even if they did screw 'em. Id much rather have them wonder why I'm not drinking, than have them pity me for being a souse.
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Join Date: Jul 2005
Location: Gold Coast Australia
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Thanks for for all your help on that. Have just got back into Kiteboarding as its coming into our summer. Am going with "Im trying to get fit again for kiteboarding" may sound lame but this will work for me, which is kinda true. My fitness is all of it, if I dont stop, my life will be shortened and...... I know this. Thanks again.:sh
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