amazonjudy

DEAR FRIENDS,
I HAVE DONE A RECENT 9TH STEP WITH OUT EVEN REALIZING IT, MY FRIEND MARA HAS BEEN INVOLVED WITH A MAN I INTRODUCED HER TO 2 YEARS AGO AND HE HAS BEEN ABUSEING HER MENTALLY SINCE THEY GOT TO GETHER, WE HAD A FIGHT OVER OTHER THINGS I DID TO HER, AND STOPPED TALKING,2 DAYS AGO I SAW HER WALKING IN THE STREETS AND STOPPED TO SE IF ASHE NEEDED A RIDE SHE BLEW ME OFF AND I LEFT, THINKING SHES STILL MAD, ABOUT 4 HOURS LATER SHE CALLED AND SAID SHE NEEDS MY HELP AND ADVICE, AND WE BEGAN TO TALK ABOUT OLD STUFF AND NEW SHE HATED TO TELL ME THAT JOHN HER MAN HAS USED HER FOR MONEY AND IS NOW TRYING TO CONTROL HER LIFE HE CALLS HER NAMES AND A EVERTHING HE COULD TO BREAK HER DOWN
SHE HAS NO SELF WORTH, AND I AM PROUD TO SAY
I SAID I WAS SORRY FOR WHAT I SAID TO HER 2 YEARS AGO, AND SHE FORGAVE ME, WHEN SHE MET ME I WAS IN THAT SAME BOAT AND DIE FROM A MAN WHO HAD TO STAND ON MY HEAD TO FEEL GOOD TO, ANYWAY WHAT I WANT TO KNOW IS IM TO NEW TO RECOVERY TO HELP SOMONE ELSE OR SHOULD I STAY OUT OF IT SHE IS MY FRIEND AND IN A BAD SPOT IM NOT TELLING HER WHAT TO DO IM MEARLY SUGGESTING HOW SHE CAN GAIN CONTROL OF HER LIFE AGAIN, I TOLD HER NO MATTER WHAT SHE DECIDED I WOILD BE THERE FOR HER, AS SHE WAS FOR ME, BUT I DONT WANT TO HURT HER FEELINGS BY TELLING HER SHE NEEDS TO NOT WALK BUT RUN AWAY FROM THIS MAN, BECAUSE HES A DRUNK AND A ADDICT OF 30 YEARS AND IT HAS NOT STOPED AFTER THE FIRST 3 MARRIAGES WERE OVER HE WILL ALWAYS BE THE SAME UNLESS HE SEKS HELP OF AA AND NA AND A COUNCLER TO HELP HIM WORK THROUGH HIS OWN PROBLEM FIRST, LET ME KNOW WHAT YOU ALL THINK AMAZONJUDY

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jeee

Why dontcha ask her to come to a meeting, let her think she's helping you.
I find it works best when I ask God for guidance, asking Him to work through me and surrender my sick friends to God.

Pernell Johnson

Hello Judy, I think jeee's suggestion is the best. But you could be just a good listener and only give suggestions if asked. Otherwise just listen, sometimes people are able to state the problem and come to the solution on their own if they have someone else listening. If at all possible, ask her if she will accompany to a meeting. You are both in my prayers.


Just for Today----I am Sober

amazonjudy

thanks pernell,
i did just that and she and i are best friends again and yes she sent him a paking so all is well with my new friend, she is happy again and getting her self worth back more and more everyday;
just for today i am sober

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