findinganewme

friend set me up on a blind date ..... which is fine ..... no pressure really.

it's just that we're meeting at a bar/restaurant!

Pray that I have the strength to order a STRAIGHT Iced Tea ..... rather than my favorite ..... ya know!

Thanks all!
Maria

FunWhenDrunk

You can do it!

historyteach

Yes, you CAN do it!
Have fun. And as a side benefit, you'll remember if you had a good time or not!
Shalom!

KarenOskie

I'm praying for you! Maybe you could just casually mention to him that you don't drink? Then it would be hard to order alcohol, since you'd have to explain yourself. I hope he's wonderful and you have a great time.

AndrewBeen

Probably not best to meet in a bar. tough to do in the nyc dating scene, I know. we need all the help we can get, and environmental cues are strong.

Time4Me11

Hi Maria

Fellow NYer here! I hope you will have a wonderful time. Hey, if you feel uncomfortable...even one moment before you step into that bar/restaurant...you can meet him out front and suggest a nice walk, grab something along the way, eat at a park. Hopefully the weather would be nice...considering our Spring so far! And, its not such a bad thing not to be tied to a sit down dinner on a blind date!

In any case, stay strong and hope you have a lovely time.

findinganewme

Well guys, I *survived* it ..... both .... abstaining (the drinking) (LMAO!) .... and the date!

Blind dates are so darn uncomfortable to begin with and dummy *ME* said OK to meeting him at a bar. BUT ...... I settled for diet coke (claiming I can't drive and drink home ..... he bought it!).

As to whether there will be a second date? WHO KNOWS! I'm not emotionally secure just yet ..... and to be honest quite frightened of relationships since my last one ended so badly. I know I've got to get beyond that, but I was such a TRUSTING person before (too trusting), that now it's an awful feeling to hold back on trusting people. IT JUST AIN'T ME!

Time4Me .... a nice walk or eating the park would have been great .... but this was an evening *date*.

BUT I DID IT .... !!!

Thank you all for your support and encouragement!!!

Maria

AndrewBeen

Way to go! Major milestone, I think.

2tough2die

I think so too!

Actually two milestones. Surviving a blind date being the second

- Greg

findinganewme

Thanks for the kind words everyone!

I must admit ..... it's a daily struggle .... even harder than before because I had never been on MY OWN .... but in some ways, it's a great feeling!

Yes, surviving the *blind* date was a second ..... since we all know how such dates can go .... with my luck, I thought for sure he'd actually be BLIND (lmao!)

For those of you that are more experienced in recovery than I, how does one survive the loneliness without reaching for the substances that we *think* will make us feel better.

I won't buy or keep in the house ..... but it is VERY easy to get in the car and go get it when the TEMPTATION arises .... and it has .... but I HAVEN'T given in.

When does living alone finally get easier?

Thanks for your input!

Maria

Music

"DRIVE AND DRINK HOME???" Are you sure it was diet coke?? lol
If you need prayers to go on a blind date and not drink, you maybe shouldn't have gone at all. Sounds risky to me. My prayers would have been for you to think about going some more.

Do you think you might be as lucky the next time?

findinganewme

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With which? Abstaining from alcohol or the blind date? Either way, both ARE certainly risky.

BUT, this is my FIRST attempt at living alone ...... and it does get lonely! YA KNOW?!?!?!?!!?

M

Music

Don't know how long you've been sober, but if you have to ask for prayers to order iced tea, maybe it's too early to go to bars. Remember?? "Fit spiritual condition??"

Didn't think about a blind date being risky, but now that you mention it....

I was getting a kick out of your "drive and drink home." Sure someone didn't make that iced tea a little to strong??? LOL

findinganewme

No silly ..... you didn't read my post WELL ENOUGH (HEE HEE DEVILISH SMIRK!) ...... I told my *so called date* that I'd meet him at a bar but that I wouldn't drink before I feared driving and drinking (alcohol)!

Had I mentioned LI Iced Teas are my favorite or are you a mind reader (lol)

As for driving and drinking ..... if you knew my track record (without alcohol) ..... it's still risky for me to drive and drink (even a Diet Coke!) LMAO!

Trust me ..... the temptation was great! It also helps TOLERATE the situation that wasn't HORRIBLE, but still a bit uncomfortable.

But let's not speak of our addictions or I just might be tempted ...... and it'll be ALLLLLLLLLL YOUR FAULT! Hee hee!

You're a nut!

Caramell

findinganewme,

You did it not because of our pray. you did it because you wanted to did it.
Why do you need to be 'prayed' for something which YOU CAN DO???
Just order watter or juice - relax, enjoy the food - that is all! It is so simple and nice.

Only the best!