Good morning
Good morning
Hi everyone,
Thanks so much to all for the words of encouragement. Joe, I've been reading your posts because it seems like you've taken a jumble of thoughts in my head and put them down in order. Lots of light bulbs.
I had a good night. Slept like a rock except for some vivid dreams. Loved the feeling of waking up in a warm cozy bed, no acidic hangover.. actually able to doze off again because I don't feel like crap. (Also no wierd or embarassing things in the bed with me.)
This morning I put $10 in my shopping-spree jar.
My husband is back in town today. He knows I drink.. don't really hide it except for a bit of the getting new drinks when he's out of the room. When I tap into "his stuff" I'm a bit sheepish, but he says nothing. He doesn't express concern about my drinking but says the "right things" when I express concern myself. In a dark corner of his soul, I think he likes the fact that I have a problem. He tends to use it to shut me down when we disagree and I am making valid points. Obviously there's some issues here. (Not in a million years would I blame him for my problems though. I'm proudly free-willed and independent. Just framing my local support.)
I wish I could drink like him though. He'll go days, weeks, then order a drink when we're out for dinner and only drink half. He'll have 1 beer when watching sports on tv. And once in a while he'll get totally blotto at a social function (where everyone else is hitting it hard) or on vacation.
Anyway, I did 1 day. I'm still not ready to say forever, and I don't think I ever will be. So let's just say, today I'll go for another.
Danger zones: Friday, dinner out? No, will cook dinner.
thx!
Thanks so much to all for the words of encouragement. Joe, I've been reading your posts because it seems like you've taken a jumble of thoughts in my head and put them down in order. Lots of light bulbs.
I had a good night. Slept like a rock except for some vivid dreams. Loved the feeling of waking up in a warm cozy bed, no acidic hangover.. actually able to doze off again because I don't feel like crap. (Also no wierd or embarassing things in the bed with me.)
This morning I put $10 in my shopping-spree jar.
My husband is back in town today. He knows I drink.. don't really hide it except for a bit of the getting new drinks when he's out of the room. When I tap into "his stuff" I'm a bit sheepish, but he says nothing. He doesn't express concern about my drinking but says the "right things" when I express concern myself. In a dark corner of his soul, I think he likes the fact that I have a problem. He tends to use it to shut me down when we disagree and I am making valid points. Obviously there's some issues here. (Not in a million years would I blame him for my problems though. I'm proudly free-willed and independent. Just framing my local support.)
I wish I could drink like him though. He'll go days, weeks, then order a drink when we're out for dinner and only drink half. He'll have 1 beer when watching sports on tv. And once in a while he'll get totally blotto at a social function (where everyone else is hitting it hard) or on vacation.
Anyway, I did 1 day. I'm still not ready to say forever, and I don't think I ever will be. So let's just say, today I'll go for another.
Danger zones: Friday, dinner out? No, will cook dinner.
thx!
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Good morning tenK!
I still am amazed some mornings, at the simple fact of waking up and actually feeling like I slept. A few months of sobriety now, but I'm still grateful for the small pleasures.
I think I'll go for another sober day too.
Here's the funny thing that hapened for me. I tried so many, many times to stop forever.
And I never made it. When it was pointed out to me that forever was too big a concept for my mind to handle, at first, I was almost insulted! But I kept listening to these people who told me they knew how to stay sober.
It still sounds like a jaded, old cliche, but it's the difference between staying sober or drinking for me. Just for today.
I intend to be sober today. And I will look for sobriety and do what I have to do to get it. That's a task my mind can handle.
Forever is too scary
I still am amazed some mornings, at the simple fact of waking up and actually feeling like I slept. A few months of sobriety now, but I'm still grateful for the small pleasures.
I think I'll go for another sober day too.
Here's the funny thing that hapened for me. I tried so many, many times to stop forever.
And I never made it. When it was pointed out to me that forever was too big a concept for my mind to handle, at first, I was almost insulted! But I kept listening to these people who told me they knew how to stay sober.
It still sounds like a jaded, old cliche, but it's the difference between staying sober or drinking for me. Just for today.
I intend to be sober today. And I will look for sobriety and do what I have to do to get it. That's a task my mind can handle.
Forever is too scary
Hi Ten,
The simple pleasures are something I only learned to appreciate after becoming sober and now I cherish them.
I totally agree with you that there are some issues there. Hopefully you can work out those things with your husband. My situation was similar. I never, ever blamed my husband or family, but I was married almost 25 years before I started drinking and I know my addiction didn't start in a vaccuum. I allowed myself to be treated with disrespect because my self-esteem was so low and I think I played the martyr role in my family.
Anyways, glad you're sober today and hope you keep checking in. Stay strong tonight!
Love, Anna
The simple pleasures are something I only learned to appreciate after becoming sober and now I cherish them.
I totally agree with you that there are some issues there. Hopefully you can work out those things with your husband. My situation was similar. I never, ever blamed my husband or family, but I was married almost 25 years before I started drinking and I know my addiction didn't start in a vaccuum. I allowed myself to be treated with disrespect because my self-esteem was so low and I think I played the martyr role in my family.
Anyways, glad you're sober today and hope you keep checking in. Stay strong tonight!
Love, Anna
Joe, I've been reading your posts because it seems like you've taken a jumble of thoughts in my head and put them down in order. Lots of light bulbs.
Best,
Joe
Hi Tenk and welcome!
I sure can relate to the "I wish I could drink like my husband", me too, but unfortunatly I can't. I'm envious of that fact but at least I know now, that I am powerless and I never have to drink again if I choose. So stick around you'll find a great deal of support here.
I sure can relate to the "I wish I could drink like my husband", me too, but unfortunatly I can't. I'm envious of that fact but at least I know now, that I am powerless and I never have to drink again if I choose. So stick around you'll find a great deal of support here.
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