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Old 12-15-2021, 04:40 PM
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Sober at Xmas

Or the holiday season, if you like.
I don't really find it tough at this time of year, I think.
But I do know it is generally regarded as a trigger time for our types.
Alcohol is everywhere, parties abound (although less so, due to Covid).
The adverts are about drinking, the songs are about drinking and let's be honest, when we used to drink, Christmas was mainly about drinking.

Now though, I love Christmas. I fell in love with it when my daughter was little. I cannot imagine spending it in a haze but I'm very aware that I could easily do just that if I don't remain vigilant.
I think it's worth considering how easily we could mess up at this time of year if we don't mind ourselves. And if we need someone to bounce off, we can mind each other here, as best we can.
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Old 12-15-2021, 05:00 PM
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This is my 15th Xmas sober. I can't believe I did it any other way.

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Old 12-15-2021, 05:13 PM
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Drinking and being drunk during the holidays gave me a happy, warm n fuzzy feelingÖ

I quit because it no longer gave me that feeling. Being sober for the holidays is now depressing. Iíve lost that feeling of joy (being buzzed and drunk), but itís so worth the healing that im headed towards.

I know in this sobriety Iíll eventually get back to the natural happiness I once felt for the holidays.
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Old 12-16-2021, 03:01 PM
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I'm not particularly into Christmas and thanks to COVID I've avoided any Christmas gatherings. I would have just gone as an excuse to drink, then left to go home and drink more at some point. I will go to my brother's house for Christmas lunch. It will be just me, him, my 19yo nephew and my mum. I don't get on with my mum. I'll stay for about two hours and then leave. In the past I'd go home and drink. Now I'm happy to know I'll be sober. I miss nothing about drinking. NOTHING.
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Old 12-16-2021, 03:26 PM
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This is my 15th Xmas sober. I can't believe I did it any other way.

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Way to go, Dee.
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Old 12-16-2021, 03:28 PM
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Originally Posted by Patcha View Post
I'm not particularly into Christmas and thanks to COVID I've avoided any Christmas gatherings. I would have just gone as an excuse to drink, then left to go home and drink more at some point. I will go to my brother's house for Christmas lunch. It will be just me, him, my 19yo nephew and my mum. I don't get on with my mum. I'll stay for about two hours and then leave. In the past I'd go home and drink. Now I'm happy to know I'll be sober. I miss nothing about drinking. NOTHING.
I loved drinking at Christmas.
Loved everybody being drunk and huggy.
Now I love just being around my loved ones and can still get that nice feeling without being buzzed.
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Old 12-16-2021, 03:31 PM
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I agree Reckless, this is a time of year when it would be easy to slip. I love Christmas and I used to love drinking at Christmas, an excuse to drink even more because all those weird drinks that you only ever drink at Christmas can be drunk too. Let's stay sober, get through December.
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Old 12-16-2021, 09:35 PM
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There is nothing that alcohol can't ruin. I love my sobriety so much and would never throw it away. I did that once before - never again!
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Old 12-17-2021, 01:09 PM
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Originally Posted by dustyfox View Post
all those weird drinks that you only ever drink at Christmas can be drunk too.
Ha! Exactly.
Like airport drinks.
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Old 12-17-2021, 03:52 PM
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oh god I don't miss airport drinking.
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Old 12-17-2021, 04:00 PM
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oh god I don't miss airport drinking.
Couple of brandies at 7am. Nothing to see here, folks!
Jesus, the madness.
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Old 12-17-2021, 04:11 PM
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Many mini bottles of Baileys in airports, why, who knows. - and then back at home weird sherry that is meant to last all Christmas but doesn't. Now it's ginger and lemon all the way - or if I am feeling really wild, Tumeric and orange. It's life on the edge!
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Old 12-18-2021, 05:49 AM
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I use to get urges to drink after visiting my mom. I became aware that that thought was crossing my mind about this Christmas....if you can get through the family thing you can get a bottle on the way home.

It's only a fleeting thought, easily put aside, but it made me review my plan for Christmas. I am having my son drive us home as he would not be prone to stop at a liquer store for me.

I'm not in terror about Christmas, even though I really screwed something up and the concequences may come after some people read the gift I gave to all of them. It was not my intention to start up tornados with my gift......I didn't realize it could be a problem till after the deal was done.

But I've come to understand that I will be able to accept and respond approprietely to any tornados that pop up. I just need to be open and willing to accept. I need to listen and respond with care.

Anyhow - drinking would make all of this worse and sober anything is possible
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Old 12-18-2021, 12:29 PM
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Originally Posted by dustyfox View Post
Many mini bottles of Baileys in airports, why, who knows. - and then back at home weird sherry that is meant to last all Christmas but doesn't. Now it's ginger and lemon all the way - or if I am feeling really wild, Tumeric and orange. It's life on the edge!
Tumeric and orange? Why, you are Rock n' Roll personified!!!
If I'm feeling outrageous, I'll have a pink lemonade.
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I use to get urges to drink after visiting my mom. I became aware that that thought was crossing my mind about this Christmas....if you can get through the family thing you can get a bottle on the way home.

It's only a fleeting thought, easily put aside, but it made me review my plan for Christmas. I am having my son drive us home as he would not be prone to stop at a liquer store for me.

I'm not in terror about Christmas, even though I really screwed something up and the concequences may come after some people read the gift I gave to all of them. It was not my intention to start up tornados with my gift......I didn't realize it could be a problem till after the deal was done.

But I've come to understand that I will be able to accept and respond approprietely to any tornados that pop up. I just need to be open and willing to accept. I need to listen and respond with care.

Anyhow - drinking would make all of this worse and sober anything is possible
Imagine waking up after drinking and how horrible it would feel.
Ugh.
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Old 12-18-2021, 10:04 PM
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Imagine waking up after drinking and how horrible it would feel.
Ugh.
I have to remind myself of this!
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Old 12-29-2021, 10:06 AM
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Sober and restricting my movements due to being a close contact of a covid case!
I think this poxy virus has touched every home in Dublin in the last week.
Hope y'all are doing ok and keeping safe.
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Old 12-31-2021, 07:23 PM
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Thanks Dee.
Happy new year.
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Old 12-31-2021, 11:17 PM
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This is my fifth sober Christmas and New Years.
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