Need help with my wife and her alcohol.
Need help with my wife and her alcohol. 
Member
Join Date: May 2004
Location: England
Posts: 3,410
Hi Michael
Welcome to SR!
You've come to the right place for support with living with an alcoholic. Pop over to the Friends and Family board and do some reading and posting. That's where you'll find those of us who are caught up in this madness that's called alcoholism.
You're not alone.
Take care
Love
Minnie
xxx
Welcome to SR!
You've come to the right place for support with living with an alcoholic. Pop over to the Friends and Family board and do some reading and posting. That's where you'll find those of us who are caught up in this madness that's called alcoholism.
You're not alone.
Take care
Love
Minnie
xxx
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Join Date: Aug 2002
Location: Leaving Sparta
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Hi Michael.Welcome to the forums.
Have you thought about Alanon?It is a recovery programme for friends and family who are in relationships with alcoholics.They should be listed in the directory.We also have a forum here that deals specifically with this issue.You might want to check it out.
Alanon will not be able to fix your wife but it can help you to better understand this complex condition.
Have you thought about Alanon?It is a recovery programme for friends and family who are in relationships with alcoholics.They should be listed in the directory.We also have a forum here that deals specifically with this issue.You might want to check it out.
Alanon will not be able to fix your wife but it can help you to better understand this complex condition.
Member
Join Date: Sep 2004
Location: Ontario, Canada
Posts: 425
Hi Michael, unfortunately unless she acknowledges that she has an alcohol problem there is little you can do.
I know that makes you feel so helpless, but we have to all see our alcohol problem before we can seek the kind of help we need.
My exhusband told me for years that I had a drinking problem, but I would just get angry and defensive and yell at him. The more he complained about my drinking, the more I would avoid him. That is the nature of the beast unfortunately.
Sorry to hear that you are having to go through this, but as others have mentioned there are alanon meetings that would be helpful and also books on codependancy as well.
Take care and all the best to you
Diana
I know that makes you feel so helpless, but we have to all see our alcohol problem before we can seek the kind of help we need.
My exhusband told me for years that I had a drinking problem, but I would just get angry and defensive and yell at him. The more he complained about my drinking, the more I would avoid him. That is the nature of the beast unfortunately.
Sorry to hear that you are having to go through this, but as others have mentioned there are alanon meetings that would be helpful and also books on codependancy as well.
Take care and all the best to you
Diana
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Join Date: Nov 2004
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Dear michael, she won't stop until she wants to, and she won't let anyone in the world get in the way of her drinking...not even you. It's a sad fact...I know...I have been the one that others are concerned about...I would shut my ears, feel shame...but nothing could keep me from my greatest love..the bottle. You must take care of You now. All the best, Bird...get help and council
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Join Date: May 2003
Location: Northern CA
Posts: 1,432
Hi, Michael,
I'm sorry you're dealing with the stresses caused by her alcohol abuse. Perhaps if you'd tell us a little more about your situation we could give you more useful advice. How much is she drinking? Do you feel that your situation is unsafe? What steps, if any, has she taken to deal with her drinking? Does her doctor know how much she's drinking? Most important--how are you doing?
There are people on this forum who have dealt with drinking spouses, and people who have been the drinking spouse. You're not alone. Let us know what kind of info you'd find useful.
Take care,
Don S
I'm sorry you're dealing with the stresses caused by her alcohol abuse. Perhaps if you'd tell us a little more about your situation we could give you more useful advice. How much is she drinking? Do you feel that your situation is unsafe? What steps, if any, has she taken to deal with her drinking? Does her doctor know how much she's drinking? Most important--how are you doing?
There are people on this forum who have dealt with drinking spouses, and people who have been the drinking spouse. You're not alone. Let us know what kind of info you'd find useful.
Take care,
Don S
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