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Originally Posted by msl999 
Yes it is the technique used in Rational Recovery.
Here is a thread that explains AVRT: https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...ined-long.html (AVRT Explained (long))
Here is a thread that explains AVRT: https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...ined-long.html (AVRT Explained (long))
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Originally Posted by Dee74
I'm sorry to hear that Eric.
The way forward has to be recovery - drinkings doing you and those you love no good.
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The way forward has to be recovery - drinkings doing you and those you love no good.
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I don't drink anymore.
It will destroy me if I do.
And everybody around me.
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I was away for a night with my teenage daughter and got back today.
We had a lovely time.
Fun on the drive, listening to music and chatting.
I'm so grateful to have such a cool kid.
We had a lovely time.
Fun on the drive, listening to music and chatting.
I'm so grateful to have such a cool kid.
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I can feel the self respect returning. Which is a sign that my guilt is lessening from my drinking episode.
I hold on to the guilt but won't let it consume me.
After a drinking episode, I worry that I can't look people in the eye, as I have done something shameful.
This feeling is diminishing.
I am determined to consider my addiction every day. If I don't, I become complacent and this leaves me vulnerable to when my AV tries it's ********.
I hold on to the guilt but won't let it consume me.
After a drinking episode, I worry that I can't look people in the eye, as I have done something shameful.
This feeling is diminishing.
I am determined to consider my addiction every day. If I don't, I become complacent and this leaves me vulnerable to when my AV tries it's ********.
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Some solid thoughts there Eric - especially regarding complacency. The sting/guilt/shame always fades and that's exactly the time that our addiction likes to jump back in and make those crazy suggestions.
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I'm remaining super-vigilant since I started this thread.
I've been trying to let stuff wash over me, rather than get angry at the world and I think it's working for me.
I've also been reading here and posting most days- nothing really significant but merrily joining the sober bus.
I think even that is helping, as it means I'm thinking about my addiction, which is something I have tended not to do.
Anyway- onward and upward!
I've been trying to let stuff wash over me, rather than get angry at the world and I think it's working for me.
I've also been reading here and posting most days- nothing really significant but merrily joining the sober bus.
I think even that is helping, as it means I'm thinking about my addiction, which is something I have tended not to do.
Anyway- onward and upward!
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What an honest post, glad you found the sober bus stop again.
i quit using AVRT Eventually, after many years of trying and relapsing and not trying.
cbt is also very useful for me, retraining the brain to think about things differently
using SR daily helped so much in the beginning and has still been a useful tool years later
i quit using AVRT Eventually, after many years of trying and relapsing and not trying.
cbt is also very useful for me, retraining the brain to think about things differently
using SR daily helped so much in the beginning and has still been a useful tool years later
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Originally Posted by CelticZebra
What an honest post, glad you found the sober bus stop again.
i quit using AVRT Eventually, after many years of trying and relapsing and not trying.
cbt is also very useful for me, retraining the brain to think about things differently
using SR daily helped so much in the beginning and has still been a useful tool years later
i quit using AVRT Eventually, after many years of trying and relapsing and not trying.
cbt is also very useful for me, retraining the brain to think about things differently
using SR daily helped so much in the beginning and has still been a useful tool years later
I agree that thinking about things differently is important.
I remember the first time I overcame a period of anxiety without resorting to alcohol.
I was so proud of myself and it really was a eureka moment - "I was wrong all this time. I CAN work through anxiety without booze".
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Good work Eric.As time goes on the gravitational 'pull' of booze diminishes.
I think I used to use anger at people and situations as an excuse to drink. The drinking certainly never helped alleviate my anger. It's a form of self harm isn't it?
I think I used to use anger at people and situations as an excuse to drink. The drinking certainly never helped alleviate my anger. It's a form of self harm isn't it?
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Originally Posted by saoutchik
Good work Eric.As time goes on the gravitational 'pull' of booze diminishes.
I think I used to use anger at people and situations as an excuse to drink. The drinking certainly never helped alleviate my anger. It's a form of self harm isn't it?
I think I used to use anger at people and situations as an excuse to drink. The drinking certainly never helped alleviate my anger. It's a form of self harm isn't it?
It's low tolerance at things that I don't agree with or make me uncomfortable.
Learning to accept that I sometimes will feel uncomfortable is key.
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It's like allowing the emotions without the numbing.
My Anxiety (& depression) have always been easier to cope with when I don't drink and I take my medication as directed.
doing things to work through the difficult times without taking a drink becomes easier over time and dealing with life sober makes it easier to deal with life sober.
in my experience, of course.
thanks for the thread
My Anxiety (& depression) have always been easier to cope with when I don't drink and I take my medication as directed.
doing things to work through the difficult times without taking a drink becomes easier over time and dealing with life sober makes it easier to deal with life sober.
in my experience, of course.
thanks for the thread
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