Don't know what to do with myself
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Join Date: Oct 2020
Posts: 69
Wow this hits home. I can stop but feel like a day is a month lol. However when I watch a movie on Netflix or play a game on the Xbox I lose track of time. Really need to deal with those long days of sobriety. Best of luck!
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Join Date: Jun 2013
Location: New York, NY
Posts: 4,677
Hi HB
It takes a long time to detach enough from an entire and extreme style of life that spans years, and often decades, to build something from the little we often leave ourselves with.
I'm with Dee on the idea that getting sober is not about strength. It is not a battle. It is not a war. Fighting metaphors were never of any help to me while I was struggling to get sober.
A good friend of mine died in 2008 at the age of forty-two from complications related to diabetes. He did not die because he was not strong enough to overcome his serious medical condition and associated symptoms or because he lost a battle.
Almost everything I did in the beginning was about healing, about getting sober. Outpatient treatment, AA, psychotherapy, changing little things, like my toothbrush, reading a lot, and getting enough rest. Eating well. A lot of regular exercise. Struggling to work through my tendency to isolate when I drank or when I was depressed.
I wasn't in any hurry to get anywhere else. I slowed my life down enough so that I could begin to learn again. That wasn't the plan, but it happened anyway.
It takes a long time to detach enough from an entire and extreme style of life that spans years, and often decades, to build something from the little we often leave ourselves with.
I'm with Dee on the idea that getting sober is not about strength. It is not a battle. It is not a war. Fighting metaphors were never of any help to me while I was struggling to get sober.
A good friend of mine died in 2008 at the age of forty-two from complications related to diabetes. He did not die because he was not strong enough to overcome his serious medical condition and associated symptoms or because he lost a battle.
Almost everything I did in the beginning was about healing, about getting sober. Outpatient treatment, AA, psychotherapy, changing little things, like my toothbrush, reading a lot, and getting enough rest. Eating well. A lot of regular exercise. Struggling to work through my tendency to isolate when I drank or when I was depressed.
I wasn't in any hurry to get anywhere else. I slowed my life down enough so that I could begin to learn again. That wasn't the plan, but it happened anyway.
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Join Date: Sep 2015
Posts: 3,163
I agree with all that has been said, and I would just add one point.
You said you were not physically addicted, nor was I. Nor were a lot of us.
Unlike many addictions, alcohol is mainly in the head.
For me, that made it more of a challenge, but I got there. And so will you.
You said you were not physically addicted, nor was I. Nor were a lot of us.
Unlike many addictions, alcohol is mainly in the head.
For me, that made it more of a challenge, but I got there. And so will you.
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