Details of a trigger and activating event
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Details of a trigger and activating event
Hello there all,
Last night I had a heavy drinking session and am pretty hungover today. Fortunately I've been keeping a diary of things that trigger my drinking, my thoughts, emotions, how I respond to them.
Last night, my dad was drinking wine, was determined I wasn't going to drink. So I decided to take a bike ride down to the beach. Unfortunately, what I saw down there triggered me; it rubbed-in my loneliness. I've been using cognitive behavioural therapy tools to record. Today I want to share it.
ACTIVATING EVENT
-Being down the beach on my own on a warm evening and seeing large groups of people and happy couples socialiising, having barbecues, swimming, walking together (main trigger)
-dad drinking at home
THOUGHTS; WHAT WAS ON MY MIND?
-I have no social life
-I have no friends
-No one wants to meet up with me
-I have no-one who's interested in doing those things together
-The friends I do have only ever want to meet to go to the pub, they suck
-Everyone else is doing much better socially than me
-I'll never have that sort of social life
-This town is crap for meeting people
-I miss the Couchsurfing meets and having that sort of social life
EMOTIONS
Frustrated, angry, sad, jealous, envious, LONELY
BEHAVIOUR
-Initially FORCED myself not to drink, had a bath, tried to distract myself
-Rang a friend of mine to have a natter about how the media has been misleading to justify lockdown/house arrest/imprisonment*
SHORT TERM CONSEQUENCES
-couldn't stop thinking about drinking
-Felt MISERABLE and deprived
-Felt OVERWHELEMED by the amount of time in the evening and the thought of tossing and turning
BEHAVIOUR
caved in and had a session
*Phoning my friend, when talking about the enjoying the weather, he mentioned that he's 'enjoying a few beers most nights & getting pissed'.
Last night I had a heavy drinking session and am pretty hungover today. Fortunately I've been keeping a diary of things that trigger my drinking, my thoughts, emotions, how I respond to them.
Last night, my dad was drinking wine, was determined I wasn't going to drink. So I decided to take a bike ride down to the beach. Unfortunately, what I saw down there triggered me; it rubbed-in my loneliness. I've been using cognitive behavioural therapy tools to record. Today I want to share it.
ACTIVATING EVENT
-Being down the beach on my own on a warm evening and seeing large groups of people and happy couples socialiising, having barbecues, swimming, walking together (main trigger)
-dad drinking at home
THOUGHTS; WHAT WAS ON MY MIND?
-I have no social life
-I have no friends
-No one wants to meet up with me
-I have no-one who's interested in doing those things together
-The friends I do have only ever want to meet to go to the pub, they suck
-Everyone else is doing much better socially than me
-I'll never have that sort of social life
-This town is crap for meeting people
-I miss the Couchsurfing meets and having that sort of social life
EMOTIONS
Frustrated, angry, sad, jealous, envious, LONELY
BEHAVIOUR
-Initially FORCED myself not to drink, had a bath, tried to distract myself
-Rang a friend of mine to have a natter about how the media has been misleading to justify lockdown/house arrest/imprisonment*
SHORT TERM CONSEQUENCES
-couldn't stop thinking about drinking
-Felt MISERABLE and deprived
-Felt OVERWHELEMED by the amount of time in the evening and the thought of tossing and turning
BEHAVIOUR
caved in and had a session
*Phoning my friend, when talking about the enjoying the weather, he mentioned that he's 'enjoying a few beers most nights & getting pissed'.
hi vulcan,
not sure i remember CBT accurately, but isn't the big part to counter all those "never, always, everyone else..." thoughts with rational counter-evidence? to get to a more balanced picture?
not sure i remember CBT accurately, but isn't the big part to counter all those "never, always, everyone else..." thoughts with rational counter-evidence? to get to a more balanced picture?
- Be aware
- Challenge you thoughts
- Look for evidence
- Search for alternative explanations
- Put thoughts into perspective
- What is the more positive/helpful thought?
Thanks for the openness in the orginal post.
I would have made the same points as Carl and Fini.
For me, I really had to DECIDE that I do not drink no matter what and then those tools like CBT became assets. But the stop came first.
I would have made the same points as Carl and Fini.
For me, I really had to DECIDE that I do not drink no matter what and then those tools like CBT became assets. But the stop came first.
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You need to decide if you want to quit drinking or quit wanting to.
Making a self commitment to never again consume alcohol is 100 % achievable, it’s guaranteed a do-able human possibility.
No guarantee on never wanting to, understanding and becoming comfortable with that realization actually makes quitting the comfortable choice.
Making a self commitment to never again consume alcohol is 100 % achievable, it’s guaranteed a do-able human possibility.
No guarantee on never wanting to, understanding and becoming comfortable with that realization actually makes quitting the comfortable choice.
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