COVID lockdown is making me drink like a fish
Controlling Reactions
The book "The Four Agreements" really tripped my trigger this go-round. Don't do a web search and just walk away with the nutshell version. It really needs to be read to be understood. Anyhow, the concept I'm thinking of now is "be impeccable with your word." I love this sentence on so many levels, but had to read the book to absorb that this directive applies to your (my) self-talk. And that there is a very sound reason for how we got to be this way. Pretty much most of what we judge about ourselves or others is based on our socialization, which is &^*%d up.
Another common theme is that drinking is a decision. At times however, it doesn't feel like that. There have been times when I've white-knuckled it through the evenings and found the experience to be UTTER HELL, sometimes worse than being hungover the next day. Those evenings have felt like a long drawn out torture chamber. I wish I had the stamina, willpower & shear OOMPH & pain tolerance (these are typical thoughts I have when I buckle). This has been a major factor motivating my decision to drink
It doesn't help living with people who are drinking & enabling. May I also add my mother sometimes sends me to the shop to get her drink because she's too embarrassed (it's nigh-impossible to resist when drinking thoughts are on my mind).
Man, I gottta say... I knew this thing was serious. But I had abso-freakin no idea how hard I'd need to work to get myself cured. Actually, I think I did, but my goal was to get back to previous status quo miserable state. Somewhere along the line, things have changed, and that's just not a good enough aspiration anymore. So climbing out and staying out of the vortex, I have to work as hard at this as I have ever worked at anything in my life. And for me, that means changing my entire perspective, viewing things in a different way, physically demonstrating my commitment by literally doing the right things, and being extremely cautious about judging just about any situation I may face.
Not sure if any of that rings true for you, but I wanted to share in case it might.
Shoot, my proof-reading was inadequate. I meant, of course, that I need to do everything in my power NOT to get to White Knuckle Point.
And also, I didn't intend to "highlight" that entire sentence, but I like that I did. It conveys how dead serious I am and what a truly dangerous thing it is to let anything slide. Not in an OCD way, but in a way where I decide what I will do each and every day, and then DO it. I don't make it every day, but I make the majority of my very small and achievable list every day and I keep on trying. I think it's the only way. For me. For the foreseeable future.
O
And also, I didn't intend to "highlight" that entire sentence, but I like that I did. It conveys how dead serious I am and what a truly dangerous thing it is to let anything slide. Not in an OCD way, but in a way where I decide what I will do each and every day, and then DO it. I don't make it every day, but I make the majority of my very small and achievable list every day and I keep on trying. I think it's the only way. For me. For the foreseeable future.
O
it's nigh-impossible to resist when drinking thoughts are on my mind
For me the key turning points were finding support and using it, and accepting that I was in a very bad toxic relationship with alcohol that would never and could never change.
I often felt as if I had no choice either. I felt the imperative to drink.
But support and acceptance- along with a large dollop of fear that I was going to die - gave me back my awareness of my power of choice.
I firmly believe there is always another choice and another road to take.
D
Currently Active Users Viewing this Thread: 1 (0 members and 1 guests)