Terrible three weeks ahead…
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Terrible three weeks ahead…
Tomorrow night at twelve, South Africa goes into an official Lock-down for three weeks. Only essential stores and service-providers may be open. NOT liquor stores. So today my dad and stepmom went shopping and bought two boxes of brandy (24 x 750mlbottles) and lots of Coke. One a day and a bit to spare…
To add to an already bad situation, my stepbrother and his wife – who lives in another of the three houses on the property - will also be home for the three week period, which may very well be extended, and they will also be stocking up on their liquor tomorrow before the sirens go. They will all visit between houses, all on the same stand. Drunk, noisy, loud, ugly…
Three weeks minimum of one big drunken booze-up ahead. It’s going to be hard to stay sober – or sane for that matter…
To add to an already bad situation, my stepbrother and his wife – who lives in another of the three houses on the property - will also be home for the three week period, which may very well be extended, and they will also be stocking up on their liquor tomorrow before the sirens go. They will all visit between houses, all on the same stand. Drunk, noisy, loud, ugly…
Three weeks minimum of one big drunken booze-up ahead. It’s going to be hard to stay sober – or sane for that matter…
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Originally Posted by Rockbottom1964 
Tomorrow night at twelve, South Africa goes into an official Lock-down for three weeks. Only essential stores and service-providers may be open. NOT liquor stores. So today my dad and stepmom went shopping and bought two boxes of brandy (24 x 750mlbottles) and lots of Coke. One a day and a bit to spare…
To add to an already bad situation, my stepbrother and his wife – who lives in another of the three houses on the property - will also be home for the three week period, which may very well be extended, and they will also be stocking up on their liquor tomorrow before the sirens go. They will all visit between houses, all on the same stand. Drunk, noisy, loud, ugly…
Three weeks minimum of one big drunken booze-up ahead. It’s going to be hard to stay sober – or sane for that matter…
To add to an already bad situation, my stepbrother and his wife – who lives in another of the three houses on the property - will also be home for the three week period, which may very well be extended, and they will also be stocking up on their liquor tomorrow before the sirens go. They will all visit between houses, all on the same stand. Drunk, noisy, loud, ugly…
Three weeks minimum of one big drunken booze-up ahead. It’s going to be hard to stay sober – or sane for that matter…
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Originally Posted by doggonecarl
Hope you get through this unscathed. I didn't know you were from South Africa. Makes me want to listen to Die Antwoord.
Right now how to survive both of these sicknesses - Corona and Addict. Addict being the worst of the two by a long shot, as far as I'm concerned...
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Originally Posted by Sohard
Oh god. You are the lucky one to be not drinking throughout all this. Do not let the situation convince you to drink. Don’t use that as excuse. You’d only drink bc you’re an addict, not bc of the situation. For me, 11 months sober, your situation makes me NOT want to drink. It would make it sooooo much harder to deal with. You can do this. When you make it over this mountain, all the next mountains will seem smaller. Give yourself this gift!
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Hey RB
I'm so sorry you have to put up with a batch of obnoxious / sometimes angry drunks.
How far is it between houses in your compound? Is there any land attached you can get out for a bit during the day--I know you said it is unsafe at night.
Do you have earplugs, or can you get some? When I have to deal with drunk spouse singing or playing music loud, I put in earplugs and check out with a novel or get on SR.
I'm so sorry you have to put up with a batch of obnoxious / sometimes angry drunks.
How far is it between houses in your compound? Is there any land attached you can get out for a bit during the day--I know you said it is unsafe at night.
Do you have earplugs, or can you get some? When I have to deal with drunk spouse singing or playing music loud, I put in earplugs and check out with a novel or get on SR.
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Who knows?... watching the one big drunken booze-up unfold might just strengthen your resolve to stay sober and not return to that life style. Could be a great learning experience. As it unfolds, take a good long look in the mirror of self reflection...what your life was like...what your life is like now...what you want your life to be like in the future. You can do this. You can come out the other side stronger. To thine own self be true.
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That sounds truly horrifying. Not your place in it all, but theirs. They're at the mercy of their illness. You're completely free from it. Enjoy that freedom. You can enjoy the sun and the weather and the beautiful things God offers us everyday without having this monkey on your back.
Need a break? Take a nap. I love catching up on sleep and it's a good "off" button for awhile to recharge. I'm betting they envy your choices and changes whether they will admit it or not.
Need a break? Take a nap. I love catching up on sleep and it's a good "off" button for awhile to recharge. I'm betting they envy your choices and changes whether they will admit it or not.
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Originally Posted by Hawkeye13
Hey RB
I'm so sorry you have to put up with a batch of obnoxious / sometimes angry drunks.
How far is it between houses in your compound? Is there any land attached you can get out for a bit during the day--I know you said it is unsafe at night.
Do you have earplugs, or can you get some? When I have to deal with drunk spouse singing or playing music loud, I put in earplugs and check out with a novel or get on SR.
I'm so sorry you have to put up with a batch of obnoxious / sometimes angry drunks.
How far is it between houses in your compound? Is there any land attached you can get out for a bit during the day--I know you said it is unsafe at night.
Do you have earplugs, or can you get some? When I have to deal with drunk spouse singing or playing music loud, I put in earplugs and check out with a novel or get on SR.
Thanks for caring and best wishes...
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Hi, Rockbottom,
Have you read Alexandra Fuller's memoirs? As you tell us about your life and challenges, it mirrors her experience almost exactly. Try them. Cocktail Hour under the Tree of Forgetfulness and Don't Let's Go to the Dogs Tonight. Basically about growing up in Africa surrounded by a family and community of alcoholics. Beautiful writing.
Have you read Alexandra Fuller's memoirs? As you tell us about your life and challenges, it mirrors her experience almost exactly. Try them. Cocktail Hour under the Tree of Forgetfulness and Don't Let's Go to the Dogs Tonight. Basically about growing up in Africa surrounded by a family and community of alcoholics. Beautiful writing.
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Originally Posted by Rockbottom1964
Thanks, Sohard. I'll make it, I'm sure. It's not seeing them drink that will make me crave a drink myself, but the fact that it will provide escape - even temporary - from a really bad situation/place. But "temporary" is the key-word here, as we both know, and I'm not going there. Thanks for your supportive words.
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Originally Posted by FindingMyNext
Hi, Rockbottom,
Have you read Alexandra Fuller's memoirs? As you tell us about your life and challenges, it mirrors her experience almost exactly. Try them. Cocktail Hour under the Tree of Forgetfulness and Don't Let's Go to the Dogs Tonight. Basically about growing up in Africa surrounded by a family and community of alcoholics. Beautiful writing.
Have you read Alexandra Fuller's memoirs? As you tell us about your life and challenges, it mirrors her experience almost exactly. Try them. Cocktail Hour under the Tree of Forgetfulness and Don't Let's Go to the Dogs Tonight. Basically about growing up in Africa surrounded by a family and community of alcoholics. Beautiful writing.
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Originally Posted by Zebra1275
You are going to be a witness to a lot of hangovers. That should help you stay sober.
Maybe you should start a 7:00 a.m. exercise routine and encourage them to join you.
Maybe you should start a 7:00 a.m. exercise routine and encourage them to join you.
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Originally Posted by Briansy
Wow rockbottom it's difficult to imagine how rough this will be. We should set up a fund to get you out of there!!
Thanks for caring.
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