The lies we told ourselves when drinking....
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The lies we told ourselves when drinking....
I was reflecting last night about my brother who is the last person to know he is an alcoholic. He actually looks down on people who get drunk even though he is drunk every single night of the week and is essentially the 'village drunk'.
Funnily enough I recognise a lot of my own denial and refusal to admit that I am 'one of those'. Here's a few of my own silly moments...
...I often volunteer myself to be designated driver (reality...I prefer drinking alone because I don't want to be judged)
...I can go days without drinking (reality..but then binge drink at the weekend)
...My house is emaculate and my children well-turned out (..until my teenage daughter told me she was worried about my drinking)
...I 'only' drink a bottle of wine a day (as if that is somehow not harmful for my body)
...I only drink 'good' wine (hahaha)
...I have an off button (which doesn't actually kick in until I open the second bottle of wine)
...my husband doesn't mind me drinking (actually he has ishoos of his own and is probably co-dependant)
...I don't drink until after 9pm (apart from the times I have a little drink whilst cooking to warm me up, or the sun is shining, or there is a game on tv, or I'm particularly stressed....you get the picture)
...I don't get hangovers (recently dawned on me that isn't a good sign as I probably have built up a resistence)
Anyway feel free to add to my list as it may help others who have the same justifications for staying drunk.
Ps hope you lovely people are all having a great day!
Funnily enough I recognise a lot of my own denial and refusal to admit that I am 'one of those'. Here's a few of my own silly moments...
...I often volunteer myself to be designated driver (reality...I prefer drinking alone because I don't want to be judged)
...I can go days without drinking (reality..but then binge drink at the weekend)
...My house is emaculate and my children well-turned out (..until my teenage daughter told me she was worried about my drinking)
...I 'only' drink a bottle of wine a day (as if that is somehow not harmful for my body)
...I only drink 'good' wine (hahaha)
...I have an off button (which doesn't actually kick in until I open the second bottle of wine)
...my husband doesn't mind me drinking (actually he has ishoos of his own and is probably co-dependant)
...I don't drink until after 9pm (apart from the times I have a little drink whilst cooking to warm me up, or the sun is shining, or there is a game on tv, or I'm particularly stressed....you get the picture)
...I don't get hangovers (recently dawned on me that isn't a good sign as I probably have built up a resistence)
Anyway feel free to add to my list as it may help others who have the same justifications for staying drunk.
Ps hope you lovely people are all having a great day!
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Those sound like the lies we tell ourselves when not drinking..... in an attempt to justify that next first drink.
I get that it might just sound like semantics but once I clued-into the notion that my alcoholism effects me all the time, drinking or not, it led to a major shift in how I approached recovery.
I get that it might just sound like semantics but once I clued-into the notion that my alcoholism effects me all the time, drinking or not, it led to a major shift in how I approached recovery.
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Originally Posted by boots45 
I was reflecting last night about my brother who is the last person to know he is an alcoholic. He actually looks down on people who get drunk even though he is drunk every single night of the week and is essentially the 'village drunk'.
Funnily enough I recognise a lot of my own denial and refusal to admit that I am 'one of those'. Here's a few of my own silly moments...
...I often volunteer myself to be designated driver (reality...I prefer drinking alone because I don't want to be judged)
...I can go days without drinking (reality..but then binge drink at the weekend)
...My house is emaculate and my children well-turned out (..until my teenage daughter told me she was worried about my drinking)
...I 'only' drink a bottle of wine a day (as if that is somehow not harmful for my body)
...I only drink 'good' wine (hahaha)
...I have an off button (which doesn't actually kick in until I open the second bottle of wine)
...my husband doesn't mind me drinking (actually he has ishoos of his own and is probably co-dependant)
...I don't drink until after 9pm (apart from the times I have a little drink whilst cooking to warm me up, or the sun is shining, or there is a game on tv, or I'm particularly stressed....you get the picture)
...I don't get hangovers (recently dawned on me that isn't a good sign as I probably have built up a resistence)
Anyway feel free to add to my list as it may help others who have the same justifications for staying drunk.
Ps hope you lovely people are all having a great day!
Funnily enough I recognise a lot of my own denial and refusal to admit that I am 'one of those'. Here's a few of my own silly moments...
...I often volunteer myself to be designated driver (reality...I prefer drinking alone because I don't want to be judged)
...I can go days without drinking (reality..but then binge drink at the weekend)
...My house is emaculate and my children well-turned out (..until my teenage daughter told me she was worried about my drinking)
...I 'only' drink a bottle of wine a day (as if that is somehow not harmful for my body)
...I only drink 'good' wine (hahaha)
...I have an off button (which doesn't actually kick in until I open the second bottle of wine)
...my husband doesn't mind me drinking (actually he has ishoos of his own and is probably co-dependant)
...I don't drink until after 9pm (apart from the times I have a little drink whilst cooking to warm me up, or the sun is shining, or there is a game on tv, or I'm particularly stressed....you get the picture)
...I don't get hangovers (recently dawned on me that isn't a good sign as I probably have built up a resistence)
Anyway feel free to add to my list as it may help others who have the same justifications for staying drunk.
Ps hope you lovely people are all having a great day!
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Originally Posted by DayTrader
Those sound like the lies we tell ourselves when not drinking..... in an attempt to justify that next first drink.
I get that it might just sound like semantics but once I clued-into the notion that my alcoholism effects me all the time, drinking or not, it led to a major shift in how I approached recovery.
I get that it might just sound like semantics but once I clued-into the notion that my alcoholism effects me all the time, drinking or not, it led to a major shift in how I approached recovery.
Thank you!!
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I'm not an alcoholic, I just drink too much.
This is the last night for a while.
I went all last week without, I'm fine (In truth, I couldn't afford any, as soon as I could though, straight to the shop).
Life is boring without alcohol. What else am I supposed to do during the day.
This is the last night for a while.
I went all last week without, I'm fine (In truth, I couldn't afford any, as soon as I could though, straight to the shop).
Life is boring without alcohol. What else am I supposed to do during the day.
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Originally Posted by DayTrader
Those sound like the lies we tell ourselves when not drinking..... in an attempt to justify that next first drink.
I get that it might just sound like semantics but once I clued-into the notion that my alcoholism effects me all the time, drinking or not, it led to a major shift in how I approached recovery.
I get that it might just sound like semantics but once I clued-into the notion that my alcoholism effects me all the time, drinking or not, it led to a major shift in how I approached recovery.
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I won't stop to buy beer on the way home from work tomorrow.
I don't have a drinking problem. I'm one of the best drinkers the world has ever produced, I can handle my booze better than most people. In fact, I'm such an experienced drinker I no longer get hangovers.
No one knows I'm a secret drinker. Except the recycling truck crew they have to send out every week to pick up my mountain of empties. And the neighbors who see the massive beer bottle pile outside my house every week.
I don't have a drinking problem. I'm one of the best drinkers the world has ever produced, I can handle my booze better than most people. In fact, I'm such an experienced drinker I no longer get hangovers.
No one knows I'm a secret drinker. Except the recycling truck crew they have to send out every week to pick up my mountain of empties. And the neighbors who see the massive beer bottle pile outside my house every week.
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This is the only way to live.
And, what DT said. It might sound far-fetched to some, but I absolutely believe that if I had never had a drink, I'd still be an alcoholic - just under a different diagnosis. So, recovery is the lifestyle I chose and keep choosing. Lies over, as long as I remember that.
And, what DT said. It might sound far-fetched to some, but I absolutely believe that if I had never had a drink, I'd still be an alcoholic - just under a different diagnosis. So, recovery is the lifestyle I chose and keep choosing. Lies over, as long as I remember that.
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