August252015

I quoted this because, well, I'm pretty sure it was not meant out of any sense of righteousness. I'd say it was a cut to the chase answer- to yes, a more complicated and wily situation....that each of us here knows too well.

I hope you will join us sober and share. It is incredibly hard to start opening up about this stuff.

Some answers struck me SO wrong when I first quit. And, truly, that was what I had to do in order to sort thru exactly the things you share.

We are glad you are here- you can quit- and that can be the beginning of a beautiful, real, clear life.

Stayingsassy

Oh my goodness, no. This is not a place just for people who have already found what you are looking for: this is a place where people come to live life on life’s terms and the struggle that entails, it’s a place people come to for years but never actually quit drinking so all we can offer is sympathy and understanding, it’s a place for people who struggle with drugs, or eating problems, or live with people who are addicts. This forum is far more multilayered than you realize.

And here’s the real problem: Bimini is right. It’s as simple as stopping. But stopping is only the beginning. When you quit drinking, day one is the beginning of your journey, and you can come here for support, you can go to lifering for support, you can go to AA for support....because all any of us can really do is try to support one another as alcoholics...but there is, sadly, no magic answer. Nothing will make the early cravings go away. We were all pummeled with thoughts and cravings all the time for months in the beginning. They don’t go away completely but they do stop beating you up between year one and year two. There is only the way through, not around, not above, not a trick, not a pill, not a quick fix. This is alcoholism, it is a deadly, serious and mostly fatal disease. It is a bear to heal from it. It is terribly difficult to get away from. To escape is a miracle. 78% of us will die yellow, swollen and bleeding; or in a bad accident, way before our time. So we latch onto our sobriety with grateful, relieved hands, and we rely on each other: other alcoholics, to get through this very long, very dark tunnel to the light.

Blessings and I hope you can grasp onto a quit for dear life. We will be here for you. That, I promise.

Dee74

Hi Demijohn

Rest assured that SR is for people who are wanting to stop drinking.
Sometimes that means that people who are still drinking join up - that's expected and welcomed.

We all want to help share with you what worked for us - we offer a lot more than JUST QUIT - we will try and persuade you to quit tho

Hope to see you again

D

Hevyn

Yes, I really hope Demijohn comes back to read all the thoughtful & helpful posts.