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04-06-2019, 05:27 PM

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SgtYapyap

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İ need an advice

Hello, im sober. My gf blocked me by watsapp yesterday. İ did nothing but drink at home thats the reason. Now im not drinking and im serious about that. What is best move to do? İ mean ok im not deinking but what else i should do? Not calling her at the moment, i dont want to push her more, but please can someone advice me how to act to regain her? Please dont say stop drinking as i do already.

04-06-2019, 05:35 PM

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suki44883

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Please dont say stop drinking as i do already.

The best thing for you to do is to continue not drinking and get into some kind of recovery program. There is no guarantee you will get her back, but if she sees you have some long-term sobriety (several months or better yet, a year), she may be willing to talk.

Good luck.

04-06-2019, 05:40 PM

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SgtYapyap

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İ hawe to give her a bit time right? No calling, no texting?

04-06-2019, 05:42 PM

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suki44883

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Correct. If she blocked you, that means she doesn't want to talk to you. Respect her decision and work on yourself.

04-06-2019, 05:50 PM

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SgtYapyap

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İ hawe to change myself first. You are right. İll use that time to change myself. But i really want her back. Other advices are welcome.

04-06-2019, 06:09 PM

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ScottFromWI

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Welcome to SR Sgt. I’m glad you’ve decided to quit drinking, almost all of my drinking was at home too - but it still caused a lot of problems for me and those around me.

As others have mentioned the best thing you can do is work on improving yourself and stay sober. You also need to be patient, it takes a lot of time to regain the trust that our drinking destroyed.