One More Day Part 3
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Originally Posted by Obladi 
So good to hear you are on or about 3 months, Tyne. Where will you be going for your holiday?
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i got it, repeatedly, from getting very pissed off at myself. that would kickstart me into oomph.
anger has often been a good motivator for change for me.
( but ultimately the oomph didn't result in ongoing sobriety; the oft- mentioned surrender did. i only mention this in order to be truthful. oomph is needed to get out of the starting gate. by me, anyway)
anger has often been a good motivator for change for me.
( but ultimately the oomph didn't result in ongoing sobriety; the oft- mentioned surrender did. i only mention this in order to be truthful. oomph is needed to get out of the starting gate. by me, anyway)
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Originally Posted by Obladi
So fini, where did you get it?
Tyne, sounds great. What will the weather be like in Scotland?
Tyne, sounds great. What will the weather be like in Scotland?
Snazzy, I don't know anyone in Texas, perhaps I will visit one day. Wouldn't mind seeing The Alamo.
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Originally Posted by Obladi
I guess I wasn't clear about the wanting. I wish I had the desire (stronger desire? ) to get well. I mean obviously I have some desire because I'm here talking about it incessantly. But at the same time, it's not enough "want" to make it stick. Does that make sense?
Like I'm all talk no action and I wish it were different. But I've no oomph to get me there.
Like I'm all talk no action and I wish it were different. But I've no oomph to get me there.
Life isn't much different, except all the differences that came/come from no more booze. Wouldn't trade it for the world, hard to explain how that can be/seem so huge and small at the same time.
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Thanks, Drops. In general, I cringe at re-reading anything I've written more than something like 24-hours ago, but I can try to give it a go.
Broster, in my experience once I'm able to reduce something to so simple and so huge at the same time, I've come upon the right answer. So I get that. But it's a gut thing, isn't it? Like I can appreciate intellectually that the answer to not drinking is Not Drinking but somehow I can't feel it. It's frustrating in the extreme. Except for I remember seeing how remarkably simple it was when I was sober.
Yep. Frustrating.
Broster, in my experience once I'm able to reduce something to so simple and so huge at the same time, I've come upon the right answer. So I get that. But it's a gut thing, isn't it? Like I can appreciate intellectually that the answer to not drinking is Not Drinking but somehow I can't feel it. It's frustrating in the extreme. Except for I remember seeing how remarkably simple it was when I was sober.
Yep. Frustrating.
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Originally Posted by Dropsie
I really made drinking no longer an option, so whether I wanted to drink, change, stand on my head no longer mattered. Because wanting no longer mattered because it had been decided -- I dont drink.
Looking back did I really want to change, not sure.
But I could no longer live with the moral consequences of my behaviour or the impact on my friends and especially my children and partner. I am a nice person. I love my girls and my man and my dog and my friends. So I had no choice -- in the I-dont-kick-my-dog kinda way.
What I did not realize, I dont think anyone really does until they stop, is the enormous freedom sobriety gives.
Its why we all want to shake our friends who are struggling, like you O and our dear Cow, because it is so much better on the other side for reasons you can't even fathom until you get there.
Takes trust.
Trust me.
Looking back did I really want to change, not sure.
But I could no longer live with the moral consequences of my behaviour or the impact on my friends and especially my children and partner. I am a nice person. I love my girls and my man and my dog and my friends. So I had no choice -- in the I-dont-kick-my-dog kinda way.
What I did not realize, I dont think anyone really does until they stop, is the enormous freedom sobriety gives.
Its why we all want to shake our friends who are struggling, like you O and our dear Cow, because it is so much better on the other side for reasons you can't even fathom until you get there.
Takes trust.
Trust me.
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