How many day one
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How many day one
I binge drinking for three days i dont know why i cant hold a longer days of sobriety i dont have reasons to drink i dont need to drink i dont like to drink and yet i found my self with a beer in my hand...been sober here and there but never stay longer than a month.
another day one for me i keep trying for 6yrs to stay sober on my own but it didnt work so ill try this new way reaching out to people who can guide and help me into sobriety so hard to admit im an alcoholic but i know i am and i need help.
Thank you for having me here
another day one for me i keep trying for 6yrs to stay sober on my own but it didnt work so ill try this new way reaching out to people who can guide and help me into sobriety so hard to admit im an alcoholic but i know i am and i need help.
Thank you for having me here
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We are glad you are here. I know that feeling- like "when is this going to end?" When am I finally going to stop?" And you, being here, is one step closer to ending the madness for good.
Don't lose faith, don't lose hope- come here as often as you need and ask for help just like you are doing. Recovery is not linear- it won't happen overnight- it may not happen like you want or imagine. But if you keep trying with every ounce of your being to stop drinking, you will stop.
Sometimes for me, counting the days makes things more stressful. So I just focus on each day. Today. That's all we have, this moment. Just get through this moment and one day you will look back and the time will have passed.
Don't lose faith, don't lose hope- come here as often as you need and ask for help just like you are doing. Recovery is not linear- it won't happen overnight- it may not happen like you want or imagine. But if you keep trying with every ounce of your being to stop drinking, you will stop.
Sometimes for me, counting the days makes things more stressful. So I just focus on each day. Today. That's all we have, this moment. Just get through this moment and one day you will look back and the time will have passed.
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Originally Posted by Sunflowerlife 
We are glad you are here. I know that feeling- like "when is this going to end?" When am I finally going to stop?" And you, being here, is one step closer to ending the madness for good.
Don't lose faith, don't lose hope- come here as often as you need and ask for help just like you are doing. Recovery is not linear- it won't happen overnight- it may not happen like you want or imagine. But if you keep trying with every ounce of your being to stop drinking, you will stop.
Sometimes for me, counting the days makes things more stressful. So I just focus on each day. Today. That's all we have, this moment. Just get through this moment and one day you will look back and the time will have passed.
Don't lose faith, don't lose hope- come here as often as you need and ask for help just like you are doing. Recovery is not linear- it won't happen overnight- it may not happen like you want or imagine. But if you keep trying with every ounce of your being to stop drinking, you will stop.
Sometimes for me, counting the days makes things more stressful. So I just focus on each day. Today. That's all we have, this moment. Just get through this moment and one day you will look back and the time will have passed.
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Welcome to SR! The key for me was surrender. I drank for nearly 30 years, the final 10 years I drank beer every single day. It took a trip to the ER to finally convince me that I could not drink again. Just one more beer could've been my last. When we make that decision to quit for good and begin to work on recovery, that's when miracles begin to happen.
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It is a One Time Decision.
After I quit drinking, there was no reason to drink again. No excuse or "trigger."
It's the first drink that gets you. Don't take the first drink and there will be no 13th drink, right?
In the beginning I truly focused on one day at a time. I read here every day and posted in my Class of March thread. Here is the one for June 2018 - why not take a look and say, "Hi!"
Link:
https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...-part-2-a.html
After I quit drinking, there was no reason to drink again. No excuse or "trigger."
It's the first drink that gets you. Don't take the first drink and there will be no 13th drink, right?
In the beginning I truly focused on one day at a time. I read here every day and posted in my Class of March thread. Here is the one for June 2018 - why not take a look and say, "Hi!"
Link:
https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...-part-2-a.html
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[QUOTE=FormerBeerLover;6935971]Welcome to SR! The key for me was surrender. I drank for nearly 30 years, the final 10 years I drank beer every single day. It took a trip to the ER to finally convince me that I could not drink again. Just one more beer could've been my last. When we make that decision to quit for good and begin to work on recovery, that's when miracles begin to happen.[/QUOTE
Im hoping that miracle happened to me too but i trying to do it by my self didnt work thank you for ur understanding.
Im hoping that miracle happened to me too but i trying to do it by my self didnt work thank you for ur understanding.
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[QUOTE=biminiblue;6935976]It is a One Time Decision.
After I quit drinking, there was no reason to drink again. No excuse or "trigger."
It's the first drink that gets you. Don't take the first drink and there will be no 13th drink, right?
In the beginning I truly focused on one day at a time. I read here every day and posted in my Class of March thread. Here is the one for June 2018 - why not take a look and say, "Hi!"
Thank you for the great insight im glad im not alone now first time ever in my life i talk to people like me..for sure ill go to that link right now
After I quit drinking, there was no reason to drink again. No excuse or "trigger."
It's the first drink that gets you. Don't take the first drink and there will be no 13th drink, right?
In the beginning I truly focused on one day at a time. I read here every day and posted in my Class of March thread. Here is the one for June 2018 - why not take a look and say, "Hi!"
Thank you for the great insight im glad im not alone now first time ever in my life i talk to people like me..for sure ill go to that link right now
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Glad to have you here on SR, Jjb! SR helped me quit drinking, it can help you too if you use it. Help you get back on the right track, the one with zero alcohol, and help you transform your life into something you can be proud of.
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Glad to have you here on SR, Jjb! SR helped me quit drinking, it can help you too if you use it. Help you get back on the right track, the one with zero alcohol, and help you transform your life into something you can be proud of
Hi how exactly SR gonna help me can u pls guide me what exactly to do i use to try it my own but never had an experience doing it with other people..pls tell me in most basic way how. i really want to live a sober life.i can be sober in a period of time but staying sober is my greatest challenge.
Hi how exactly SR gonna help me can u pls guide me what exactly to do i use to try it my own but never had an experience doing it with other people..pls tell me in most basic way how. i really want to live a sober life.i can be sober in a period of time but staying sober is my greatest challenge.
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found that in order to stay sober, I had to want to be sober more than I wanted to drink. 
Not easy, but simple. You can do this! :hug
Thank you for ur support i can be sober but staying sober is different story.. i really need to stay sober.im glad im here
Not easy, but simple. You can do this! :hugThank you for ur support i can be sober but staying sober is different story.. i really need to stay sober.im glad im here
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Originally Posted by Jjb2018
so ill try this new way
If you are doing this to "try" to quit, you are setting yourself up for failure.
Two very wise (and fictional) mentors have some odd - but useful quotes.
"Do. Or do not. There is no try. "
and
"You, Karate yes? OK. You, Karate, no? OK. You, Karate "guess so" - SQUISH! Just like grape!"
Bonus points if you can name either!
Point is - the moment I allow myself to believe that I am merely trying to quit and stop believing that I have quit, I open up that possibility that I might fail.
You've quit. Believe that. Once you do, any thoughts of buying and drinking alcohol become silly.
You can do this.
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Originally Posted by BobLobLaw
If you are doing this to "try" to quit, you are setting yourself up for failure.
Two very wise (and fictional) mentors have some odd - but useful quotes.
"Do. Or do not. There is no try. "
and
"You, Karate yes? OK. You, Karate, no? OK. You, Karate "guess so" - SQUISH! Just like grape!"
Bonus points if you can name either!
Point is - the moment I allow myself to believe that I am merely trying to quit and stop believing that I have quit, I open up that possibility that I might fail.
You've quit. Believe that. Once you do, any thoughts of buying and drinking alcohol become silly.
You can do this.
Two very wise (and fictional) mentors have some odd - but useful quotes.
"Do. Or do not. There is no try. "
and
"You, Karate yes? OK. You, Karate, no? OK. You, Karate "guess so" - SQUISH! Just like grape!"
Bonus points if you can name either!
Point is - the moment I allow myself to believe that I am merely trying to quit and stop believing that I have quit, I open up that possibility that I might fail.
You've quit. Believe that. Once you do, any thoughts of buying and drinking alcohol become silly.
You can do this.
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Originally Posted by BobLobLaw
If you are doing this to "try" to quit, you are setting yourself up for failure.
Two very wise (and fictional) mentors have some odd - but useful quotes.
"Do. Or do not. There is no try. "
and
"You, Karate yes? OK. You, Karate, no? OK. You, Karate "guess so" - SQUISH! Just like grape!"
Bonus points if you can name either!
Point is - the moment I allow myself to believe that I am merely trying to quit and stop believing that I have quit, I open up that possibility that I might fail.
You've quit. Believe that. Once you do, any thoughts of buying and drinking alcohol become silly.
You can do this.
Two very wise (and fictional) mentors have some odd - but useful quotes.
"Do. Or do not. There is no try. "
and
"You, Karate yes? OK. You, Karate, no? OK. You, Karate "guess so" - SQUISH! Just like grape!"
Bonus points if you can name either!
Point is - the moment I allow myself to believe that I am merely trying to quit and stop believing that I have quit, I open up that possibility that I might fail.
You've quit. Believe that. Once you do, any thoughts of buying and drinking alcohol become silly.
You can do this.
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Are you sober today jib?
Have you reached out to others in your community like AA?
Do you have a plan to Quit?
Are you serious about quitting? Because if you are, we're here for you.
Hi I'm Wayne.
Have you reached out to others in your community like AA?
Do you have a plan to Quit?
Are you serious about quitting? Because if you are, we're here for you.
Hi I'm Wayne.
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how many day one?
a gazillion for me.
just like you, i tried to do it myself. when i finally quit and stayed that wy, it was with support from others. support i received and gave, later, by participating on a forum and going to a weekly meeting of a secular, non-step recovery organization (Lifering.org).
later again, i came to realize that in order to stay comfortably sober i had to make a lot of changes, internal overhaul, and the stepwork in AA was the vehicle, so to speak.
glad you're here and that you know doing it by yourself has not worked. then you are now in a good spot to do it differently.
a gazillion for me.
just like you, i tried to do it myself. when i finally quit and stayed that wy, it was with support from others. support i received and gave, later, by participating on a forum and going to a weekly meeting of a secular, non-step recovery organization (Lifering.org).
later again, i came to realize that in order to stay comfortably sober i had to make a lot of changes, internal overhaul, and the stepwork in AA was the vehicle, so to speak.
glad you're here and that you know doing it by yourself has not worked. then you are now in a good spot to do it differently.
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Originally Posted by BobLobLaw
If you are doing this to "try" to quit, you are setting yourself up for failure.
Two very wise (and fictional) mentors have some odd - but useful quotes.
"Do. Or do not. There is no try. "
and
"You, Karate yes? OK. You, Karate, no? OK. You, Karate "guess so" - SQUISH! Just like grape!"
Bonus points if you can name either!
Point is - the moment I allow myself to believe that I am merely trying to quit and stop believing that I have quit, I open up that possibility that I might fail.
You've quit. Believe that. Once you do, any thoughts of buying and drinking alcohol become silly.
You can do this.
Two very wise (and fictional) mentors have some odd - but useful quotes.
"Do. Or do not. There is no try. "
and
"You, Karate yes? OK. You, Karate, no? OK. You, Karate "guess so" - SQUISH! Just like grape!"
Bonus points if you can name either!
Point is - the moment I allow myself to believe that I am merely trying to quit and stop believing that I have quit, I open up that possibility that I might fail.
You've quit. Believe that. Once you do, any thoughts of buying and drinking alcohol become silly.
You can do this.
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Originally Posted by waynetheking
Are you sober today jib?
Have you reached out to others in your community like AA?
Do you have a plan to Quit?
Are you serious about quitting? Because if you are, we're here for you.
Hi I'm Wayne.
Have you reached out to others in your community like AA?
Do you have a plan to Quit?
Are you serious about quitting? Because if you are, we're here for you.
Hi I'm Wayne.
Im more active in newcomers thread.
Thanks for asking.what kinds of people are here by the way seems mostly are agressive and pushy... is this seniors group? For now ill just stay at newcomers i found more people that i can follow thru at my stage and i enjoy it..i need more understanding on how this things work slowly but surely this time i dont want to pretend that i know what im doing cause im not all i want is to stay sober..
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Originally Posted by fini
how many day one?
a gazillion for me.
just like you, i tried to do it myself. when i finally quit and stayed that wy, it was with support from others. support i received and gave, later, by participating on a forum and going to a weekly meeting of a secular, non-step recovery organization (Lifering.org).
later again, i came to realize that in order to stay comfortably sober i had to make a lot of changes, internal overhaul, and the stepwork in AA was the vehicle, so to speak.
glad you're here and that you know doing it by yourself has not worked. then you are now in a good spot to do it differently.
a gazillion for me.
just like you, i tried to do it myself. when i finally quit and stayed that wy, it was with support from others. support i received and gave, later, by participating on a forum and going to a weekly meeting of a secular, non-step recovery organization (Lifering.org).
later again, i came to realize that in order to stay comfortably sober i had to make a lot of changes, internal overhaul, and the stepwork in AA was the vehicle, so to speak.
glad you're here and that you know doing it by yourself has not worked. then you are now in a good spot to do it differently.
This is very true i can be sober if i want but staying is a different story.
I read alot here but its actually different when u are active in this group more support for me personally im glad that im not the only one experiencing alcoholism and struggling..nice feeling and its actually my first time posting here
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Originally Posted by Stayingsassy
Anyone who uses the word try I see drinking again. Those who say I'm done, get to be done.
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