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Originally Posted by Berrybean 
That's a shame.
I remember, when I was still drinking, that I felt like a lie to tell someone what they 'needed' to hear wasn't really a lie, but being kind and protecting them. Of course, I know that ain't so nowadays, but I suspect it's pretty common thinking for alcoholics who are still drinking.
Another possibility is that, as you have suspected, there may be some dementia there. Thing is, until he gets sober you're not gonna know which if is.
Have you considered going to some AlAnon meetings yourself. You're definitely one of those double-winners after all.
Hugs to ya.
BB
I remember, when I was still drinking, that I felt like a lie to tell someone what they 'needed' to hear wasn't really a lie, but being kind and protecting them. Of course, I know that ain't so nowadays, but I suspect it's pretty common thinking for alcoholics who are still drinking.
Another possibility is that, as you have suspected, there may be some dementia there. Thing is, until he gets sober you're not gonna know which if is.
Have you considered going to some AlAnon meetings yourself. You're definitely one of those double-winners after all.
Hugs to ya.
BB
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I agree with Berrybean. I lied often. I never thought I was clever for getting over on some one. I never feeling disrespect for anyone. I wanted people to stop worrying about me. In the end, the lying & deceiving was one of the reasons I wanted to get sober - I was so exhausted from trying to keep my stories straight. It sounds like he's ready to do this - but is having a rough time taking the big step. I can relate.
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