Is all this real?
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Is all this real?
I've been off the site for almost a week now. I've been traveling and there were some challenging times of wanting to drink because I truly was the only one there not drinking. I stayed true and drank my water. 
This is the first time I logged on for almost a week and it's strange how it seems the world just continues to go on without me. It's like when you have a close person to you die and you are looking around and can't understand how the world has not stopped to acknowledge your sadness. I don't know what I expected .... maybe a message or two asking where I was and if I was ok?
I was thinking about this before I left for my trip. Since this is anonymous and we just know each others screen name if someone all of a sudden stops posting we don't know... are they drinking again, did they die, did something aweful happen? Weird thoughts, I know. Well, it's good to be back and I know I couldn't do this without SR, I am now 136 days sober. <3
This is the first time I logged on for almost a week and it's strange how it seems the world just continues to go on without me. It's like when you have a close person to you die and you are looking around and can't understand how the world has not stopped to acknowledge your sadness. I don't know what I expected .... maybe a message or two asking where I was and if I was ok?
I was thinking about this before I left for my trip. Since this is anonymous and we just know each others screen name if someone all of a sudden stops posting we don't know... are they drinking again, did they die, did something aweful happen? Weird thoughts, I know. Well, it's good to be back and I know I couldn't do this without SR, I am now 136 days sober. <3
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i don't think these are weird thoughts, LB...i have them, too, so how can they be weird????
seriously, though...yes, the wondering about folks when they disappear.
and yes, i wonder and then usually move on. unless i have developed a much closer relationship with that person. but that's me.
good to see you back.
seriously, though...yes, the wondering about folks when they disappear.
and yes, i wonder and then usually move on. unless i have developed a much closer relationship with that person. but that's me.
good to see you back.
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After several years here at SR, people come and go all the time. The ones that I'm closest to know my real name and how to get in touch with me if I suddenly go missing and vice versa. The rest will remain anonymous to me, but I can still learn from what they post. And it's nice to see you back!
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use that train of thought about your drinking as well......
its your fight , not anyone else's
the drunks will keep drinking without you.
your co workers will keep drinking without you.
no cares about you not drinking its in your (ours) head.....
Obviously for us that post or regularly read on here we want you to succeed Miss LadyBug!!!!!
Good Luck...
its your fight , not anyone else's
the drunks will keep drinking without you.
your co workers will keep drinking without you.
no cares about you not drinking its in your (ours) head.....
Obviously for us that post or regularly read on here we want you to succeed Miss LadyBug!!!!!
Good Luck...
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Originally Posted by NulaMeansZero 
use that train of thought about your drinking as well......
its your fight , not anyone else's
the drunks will keep drinking without you.
your co workers will keep drinking without you.
no cares about you not drinking its in your (ours) head.....
Obviously for us that post or regularly read on here we want you to succeed Miss LadyBug!!!!!
Good Luck...
its your fight , not anyone else's
the drunks will keep drinking without you.
your co workers will keep drinking without you.
no cares about you not drinking its in your (ours) head.....
Obviously for us that post or regularly read on here we want you to succeed Miss LadyBug!!!!!
Good Luck...
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Originally Posted by FormerBeerLover
After several years here at SR, people come and go all the time. The ones that I'm closest to know my real name and how to get in touch with me if I suddenly go missing and vice versa. The rest will remain anonymous to me, but I can still learn from what they post. And it's nice to see you back!
I do learn so much from reading others posts for sure!
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Welcome back LB, not that you were gone for long. I'm often struck by the dichotomy of SR - how supportive and close the community feels and yet how we are true strangers to each other and how often people, including myself, have come and gone.
Here's to sobriety.
Here's to sobriety.
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Welcome back Ladybug and congrats on 136 days. Like many have said, the sheer volume of people coming and going here on SR is pretty huge, and there is also the anonymity factor. New threads start and old ones get bumped down the page, such is time and life. If you happen to be looking for a smaller/more close knit group here on SR check out the monthly threds in newcomers. Many people joint the group that matches up with the month of their quit date and use it as a "home base" of sorts.
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Originally Posted by lessgravity
Welcome back LB, not that you were gone for long. I'm often struck by the dichotomy of SR - how supportive and close the community feels and yet how we are true strangers to each other and how often people, including myself, have come and gone.
Here's to sobriety.
Here's to sobriety.
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Originally Posted by LadyBug66
I'm glad I'm not the only one who has been pondering this.
Maybe they just quit and didn't need to check in again.
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Ladybug I rarely start my own thread but I am committed to posting every day without fail to the 24 hour thread and every few days to the Class of May 2016.
I find that finding a "home" on here is where I feel the most safe, comfortable and connected to other users who, after many months of posting, do indeed feel like genuine friends.
It is likely that I will never meet any of them.
I know the actual real names of a dozen or so
I have exchanged numbers with a few and we support one another that way
I suppose I am trying to say that SR is a big part of my life. The sense of community helps me feel less alone as I navigate this thing called life without the perceived crutch of alcohol.
Of course it is personal choice but if you do indeed feel like you would feel better with a more personal connection to users I wold recommend finding your "home" here too.
136 days is pretty magnificent by the way and I'm so glad you got through your travels safely with your sobriety intact
I find that finding a "home" on here is where I feel the most safe, comfortable and connected to other users who, after many months of posting, do indeed feel like genuine friends.
It is likely that I will never meet any of them.
I know the actual real names of a dozen or so
I have exchanged numbers with a few and we support one another that way
I suppose I am trying to say that SR is a big part of my life. The sense of community helps me feel less alone as I navigate this thing called life without the perceived crutch of alcohol.
Of course it is personal choice but if you do indeed feel like you would feel better with a more personal connection to users I wold recommend finding your "home" here too.
136 days is pretty magnificent by the way and I'm so glad you got through your travels safely with your sobriety intact
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There are quite a few people I've wondered about, just wasn't sure about calling them out. I think out of all the people who supported me in the first day of my quit, only about half are still here. People flow in and out, usually because of drinking, but not always.
I was a chronic relapser on WQD for years and years, and the tide would certainly change with groups flowing in and out, with maybe a handful of hardcore regulars.
I was a chronic relapser on WQD for years and years, and the tide would certainly change with groups flowing in and out, with maybe a handful of hardcore regulars.
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LadyBug, don't know if you do FaceBook, but there are a couple of really great "private" recovery groups on there. It's still just cyberspace, but it's not as anonymous as SR. It's another outlet for support and I've met some amazing people there too.
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Ladybug!
Believe it or not, I was indeed thinking about you just yesterday noticing I hadn’t seen you around chat.
Yes it’s very real. In fact it’s important to remember the power AND limitations of this place. Glad you’re doing well ��
Believe it or not, I was indeed thinking about you just yesterday noticing I hadn’t seen you around chat.
Yes it’s very real. In fact it’s important to remember the power AND limitations of this place. Glad you’re doing well ��
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