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Old 03-09-2018, 10:56 AM
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Mom just passed away

I haven't been posting much lately as she had terminal cancer and my sister and I were honoring her wishes to spend her final days at home instead of in a hospital. I'm so grateful that I am sober and was able to be there holding her hand at the end as well as make her final days more comfortable. There's no way I could have done that if I was still drinking.

Also my deepest gratitude goes out to Hospice and the great caregivers that helped us through this difficult time.
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Old 03-09-2018, 11:08 AM
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Very sorry for your loss Grungehead. I am absolutely positive your presence there was felt and made a difference to her, and being sober was important in making that happen. My best wishes to you and your family for healing and peace.
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Old 03-09-2018, 11:09 AM
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I'm so sorry for your loss, Grungehead. I'm glad you were able to be sober and present.
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Old 03-09-2018, 11:09 AM
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I'm very sorry for the loss of your mother, Grungehead. It's wonderful that you were fully present with your family at this difficult time.
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Old 03-09-2018, 11:12 AM
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grunge, condolences to you and your family and a shoutout to hospice. they were amazing with my mother,too.
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Old 03-09-2018, 11:16 AM
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I'm sorry for the loss of your mother.
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Old 03-09-2018, 11:18 AM
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I am so sorry for your loss. How wonderful that you and your sister were able to honour her wishes to spend her final days in her home, with her children.

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Old 03-09-2018, 11:24 AM
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So sorry for your loss. I lost my sister to cancer and all her suffering is over. She, too, is in a better place. Glad you got to be by your mom's side. Hope you find peace.
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Old 03-09-2018, 11:50 AM
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I am so very sorry, Grungehead.
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Old 03-09-2018, 12:13 PM
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You have my sympathy. And my admiration for remaining sober. My mom's terminal illness and passing away put me on the skids. I regret not being clean and sober for my mother in those last days.
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Old 03-09-2018, 12:57 PM
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Sorry for your loss, Grunge. I went thru much the same with my Dad a few years ago. Allow yourself some time to grieve. Such experiences can strengthen our resolve to stay sober.
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Old 03-09-2018, 01:05 PM
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Sending up prayers for you & your family, Grunge. I'm so proud of you for staying sober & keeping a clear head through it all.
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Old 03-09-2018, 02:04 PM
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My condolences. One of the gifts of hospice, that family can carry with them all their lives the time and care they put in before death. It helps shift the grieving process in a healthier direction and I know it meant the world to your mom. Take care of yourself here for awhile, treat yourself gently.
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Old 03-09-2018, 03:43 PM
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Grunge,sorry to hear of your loss.A great present to her was you,sober
she was probally very proud of you.
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Old 03-09-2018, 05:32 PM
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My condolences Grunge in the loss of your mother. It is good you were able to be with her during her final days. Both of my parents had hospice, so I join you in the shout out of support. ((GRUNGE))
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Old 03-09-2018, 05:48 PM
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I'm sorry for your loss Grungehead.

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Old 03-09-2018, 06:53 PM
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Grunge, yes, what a burden lifted, to be soberly here for these huge transitions, and being able to show up and do our part with attention and care.
my condolences to you.
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Old 03-09-2018, 06:56 PM
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Grunge,

Sending my prayers and condolences to you and your family during this difficult time..

Take care of yourself and the family..
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Old 03-09-2018, 08:11 PM
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I am very sorry for your loss Grungehead, and I am very grateful for the example you set of what you and God can accomplish together.
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Old 03-09-2018, 08:40 PM
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I am so sorry for your loss Grungehead
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