You know what I hate?
yes, it's annoying but think about it from the other side for a minute. How many times did you lie about it in the past? How do you it think that it made others feel? It takes a long time to regain that trust that we lost.
I got a lot of....why are you not drinking? People only knew me as Wayne the alcoholic. It was sad. Thank God them days are over.
I guess it takes awhile for people close to you to begin trust. They will figure it out. Just keep going Anarock. It's all going to be fine. Just don't drink.
I guess it takes awhile for people close to you to begin trust. They will figure it out. Just keep going Anarock. It's all going to be fine. Just don't drink.
It took some time for the people I had lied to for years and let down for years to recover from the harm I had done to them. Being open and honest with them helped speed the process as did making amends (and amends are much more than saying "I'm sorry" - it's offering to do and actually DOING what they ask to repair the damage I did).
Just like I was asking them to forgive me for hurting them, I found a lot of relief in forgiving them for asking questions I didn't like. Recognizing that it was my actions that created and led to their mistrust helps me let them off the hook faster.
Just like I was asking them to forgive me for hurting them, I found a lot of relief in forgiving them for asking questions I didn't like. Recognizing that it was my actions that created and led to their mistrust helps me let them off the hook faster.
Sometimes when I appear upset or out of sorts, a family member may discretely ask "You haven't been drinking, have you?" (out of worry -- not as an accusation) and that is frustrating.
But I came to terms with the fact that I sort of forfeited my right to get upset about that, at least in the short term, through the worry I put my family through when I was drinking. I'm coming up on two years sober...which I think is a great start, but still within the window where I don't think it's unreasonable for a close family member to worry about the possibility of me relapsing
I ended a friendship over someone always asking me if i had slipped. After about the 12th time, i told him...
"obviously you have no faith in me or my commitment to my life. my new way of living says if you're not good for me, you're bad for me and if you're bad for me you have to go."
I told him to get lost. I haven't talked to him in almost 2 years. It is what it is.
"obviously you have no faith in me or my commitment to my life. my new way of living says if you're not good for me, you're bad for me and if you're bad for me you have to go."
I told him to get lost. I haven't talked to him in almost 2 years. It is what it is.
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I ended a friendship over someone always asking me if i had slipped. After about the 12th time, i told him...
"obviously you have no faith in me or my commitment to my life. my new way of living says if you're not good for me, you're bad for me and if you're bad for me you have to go."
I told him to get lost. I haven't talked to him in almost 2 years. It is what it is.
"obviously you have no faith in me or my commitment to my life. my new way of living says if you're not good for me, you're bad for me and if you're bad for me you have to go."
I told him to get lost. I haven't talked to him in almost 2 years. It is what it is.
Yet, he continued doing so anyway.
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Then I went to AA.
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