Self Care and Sobriety
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Self Care and Sobriety
I'm tired. emotional. Going through a lot. Really feeling the crushing weight of my lack of self esteem. Working through some serious trauma in therapy. My work's holiday party is tonight. I have been sober for 2.5 years now. I don't have any thoughts of drinking. However, I am in a terrible state of mind. I work with a lot of heavy drinkers and recreational drug users. I decided, after counsel with a friend who has been sober over 30 years, that I would not go to my work's holiday party this evening. She gently reminded me what the big book says, that if we feel squirrely we should stay away. I paid for my ticket last week and I told people I was going. So, initially, I thought "shoot I am stuck!" However, I am learning to care for myself. I need to take a walk, breathe some air, eat a good dinner, get some rest. I do not owe anyone an explanation other than "I'm sorry, I won't be able to make it after all." My sobriety comes first in my life. I am not selfish or weak for changing my mind and caring for myself. In reality, those choices are the ways of strength and maturity.
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Originally Posted by Bunny211 
I'm tired. emotional. Going through a lot. Really feeling the crushing weight of my lack of self esteem. Working through some serious trauma in therapy. My work's holiday party is tonight. I have been sober for 2.5 years now. I don't have any thoughts of drinking. However, I am in a terrible state of mind. I work with a lot of heavy drinkers and recreational drug users. I decided, after counsel with a friend who has been sober over 30 years, that I would not go to my work's holiday party this evening. She gently reminded me what the big book says, that if we feel squirrely we should stay away. I paid for my ticket last week and I told people I was going. So, initially, I thought "shoot I am stuck!" However, I am learning to care for myself. I need to take a walk, breathe some air, eat a good dinner, get some rest. I do not owe anyone an explanation other than "I'm sorry, I won't be able to make it after all." My sobriety comes first in my life. I am not selfish or weak for changing my mind and caring for myself. In reality, those choices are the ways of strength and maturity.
About the party, meh. Go or don’t go. Just wanted you to know you deserve a higher esteem of yourself, you have accomplished amazing things.
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Bunny,
sorry you have been struggling lately. I remember another recent post from you about being tired of church basements. You are so strong, and you are wise to protect your sobriety. Those office things aren’t always that much fun anyway. Treat yourself to something special Bunny.
sorry you have been struggling lately. I remember another recent post from you about being tired of church basements. You are so strong, and you are wise to protect your sobriety. Those office things aren’t always that much fun anyway. Treat yourself to something special Bunny.
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Yep, your sobriety comes first. You just spoke for everyone here. We all need to hear this more often. Especially this time of year. THANK you for posting your thoughts with us. It's a blessing.
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Originally Posted by MissPerfumado
Don't know anyone who's ever woken up the day after their work Christmas party and thought ... I really should've gone to that party, it would've done wonders for my career!
My coworker came into my office this morning and said "I don't remember how I got home last night."
Glad that is NO longer me.
Yes, we must protect our sobriety at all costs.
Love to all. In a dark place but working on getting myself out. Contented sobriety is a process I am learning.
XOXO,
Bunny
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Originally Posted by Maudcat
Uck. Office parties.
Whoever thought they are fun?
Whoever thought they are fun?
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I think you made the right choice. It does seem kind of irrational to have alcohol served at work parties. I friend of mine got drunk at one, behaved very badly, and wound up getting fired for it. They're encouraging nonprofessional behavior amongst people that are expected to be professionals with one another every other day. Oh, I like your new avatar pic, btw!
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