New perspective for me on socialising sober
Member
Thread Starter
Join Date: Oct 2016
Posts: 6
New perspective for me on socialising sober
I have always been a bit anxious socially unless I'm slightly (or very) drunk, but since I gave up drinking for good (day 46 today) I have had some interesting revelations.
1) I have realised that I am not 'boring' when sober - I just have less tolerance for situations that aren't interesting me!
2) I prefer people who are sober - I used to think we had such great fun all chatting rubbish while drinking, but seeing it through a sober lens shows the 'end of night' conversations for what they are, repetitive, slurry and dull - and forgotten by most people the next day so what's the point!
3) I can handle being around people drinking; it's drunk people that I would rather not hang around with.
4) Several people have said to me 'you're just as much fun sober' - this is a MASSIVE thing for me, as every time I have started drinking again after a period of sobriety, it's been because I felt I didn't fit in any more - turns out it was all in my head.
5) People have started to ask my advice on things a lot more - they respect me!
Feeling GOOD today!
1) I have realised that I am not 'boring' when sober - I just have less tolerance for situations that aren't interesting me!
2) I prefer people who are sober - I used to think we had such great fun all chatting rubbish while drinking, but seeing it through a sober lens shows the 'end of night' conversations for what they are, repetitive, slurry and dull - and forgotten by most people the next day so what's the point!
3) I can handle being around people drinking; it's drunk people that I would rather not hang around with.
4) Several people have said to me 'you're just as much fun sober' - this is a MASSIVE thing for me, as every time I have started drinking again after a period of sobriety, it's been because I felt I didn't fit in any more - turns out it was all in my head.
5) People have started to ask my advice on things a lot more - they respect me!
Feeling GOOD today!
Forum Leader
Join Date: May 2012
Location: Wisconsin, USA
Posts: 16,945
It is pretty amazing what happens when we realize that alcohol is not the center of our existence anymore. And what is at the center is a lot better anyway ;-) Glad to see that you are gaining so much positive experience and congrats on 46 days!
Community Greeter
Join Date: Aug 2007
Location: Upstate New York
Posts: 51,531
Those are great, Catherine. I was so afraid to face social situations sober - but in reality I was much more boring when foggy & numb. As you said, not even remembering what was talked about is just a sad waste of time. Good to know you're making such wonderful progress. 
Keep going, it gets better. Member
Join Date: May 2017
Posts: 82
Originally Posted by CatherineA 
4) Several people have said to me 'you're just as much fun sober' - this is a MASSIVE thing for me
Turns out it hasn't, I am still the same person...for good or ill
Guest
Join Date: Aug 2015
Location: Atlanta
Posts: 8,674
Way to go Catherine! And I love your points about what sobriety is like. The respect you mention- realizing that we are actually (truly!) fun - all of it - so true!
Keep going. It keeps getting better!
Keep going. It keeps getting better!
Currently Active Users Viewing this Thread: 1 (0 members and 1 guests)
