Lpg

So I have still resisted any urges for alcohol. Today at work the guys are going to drinks after work. I don't know if to go and have a soft drink or decline and go straight home. I have thought about having a wine alot over the last 2 days but keeping strong. A close friend also asked me to go out Sunday buy I was upfront and said I'm needing to cut it out and she didn't press on further. Am I best just being completely honest about the situation? My family are avoiding me like the paluge which is also killing me.
Hope everyone is having a good weekend.

Carpathia

Hi Lpg.

Going out and having a soda while your buddies are drinking? What does your inner voice say about that? Good idea, or not such a good idea?

I tried that too in early sobriety. For me it was very difficult seeing the alcohol all around me in a place I used to drink, and people with who I used to drink. People, places and things that remind us of our drinking days may cause us to slip up.

When you tell people you aren't drinking anymore, you may get different responses, some of which may not be helpful to your sobriety. It was suggested to me that I hold off telling people for a little while, just to wait until I had a handle on what it takes not drinking in 24 hour increments.

ScottFromWI

Being honest is always the best choice in my estimation. I thin kskipping the bar with your coworkers would be the best choice too. Notice that your friend who you declined the in invite from "didn't press you further" - that is the norm more than the exception really. We ( alcoholics ) are the only ones who obsess about whether we are drinking or not. Most other people don't care or even notice.

What do you think would happen if you went to the bar this early in your sobriety? Especially with a group of people who's sole purpose for being there is drinking?

Doug39

Yes be honest.

I know how you feel. I am going to a get together tomorrow and will see people that I haven't seen in 15 years - they all remember me as the hard partying boozer and I am sure many of them are still hard drinkers. I don't what to go but I don't want to let my wife down.

We will all be faced with situations that will test our sobriety. Just stay strong.

MarkTwain

Are you sure you aren't setting yourself up, preparing for your next drink?

Just think....to fit in with the guys at work, to avoid awkward situations with close friends, and to be welcomed back into the open arms of your family, all you have to do is start drinking again.

Are you involved with a group of people who know how to stay away from a drink? I think that would be a better plan than trying to resist urges to drink some wine.

Take care of yourself.

stargazer016

I definitely tried to avoid drinking situations until I had a little time to develop some sober tools in my toolbox. Going toe to toe with your AV this early on is not really a fair fight.

thomas11

I would politely decline the invitation tonight. The early days are hard enough all by themselves, no need to tempt fate. If you really want to remain sober, there are sacrifices that will need to be made. I wish you the best.

Lpg

Hey guys

I came home declining the invite. I didn't elaborate on why I just said If I had one I would want more so it's a no for me as I'm having a quiet weekend. I'm my pyjamas about to eat myself into a food coma rather than alcohol one. I'm pleased with myself for sticking to my guns. I know if I'd of went I prob wouldnt have opted for the soft drink. It's not worth everything I could loose to get drunk, my boyfriend would throw me out also as I don't think he has one more of my benders left in him to bare.
Hope everyone is having a nice weekend. It's crazy how a liquid in a glass can change life so dramatically. Hope you are all having a nice weekend.

Verona

Great to hear Lpg! Tomorrow you'll wake up with a clear head, you won't regret it! Stay strong!

Ariesagain

Bravo!

Every time you make that right decision you make it a little easier to make the right one next time. You start to believe in yourself and trust your own judgment...it's really quite wonderful.

You can do this.

Lpg

Thanks guys. I'm excited for a fresh Sunday I can't remember what it feels like, usually still awake looking for the next party. Small victory for today

SteveAlex

Perhaps hit up a meeting?

August252015

Good job!!! Enjoy a good wake up and make tomorrow another sober day. At the start, that was more than enough victory for me each day!! You can do this.

Lpg

I'm so nervous about going to a meeting I can't seem to go something stops me.

SteveAlex

Try an online one to get a feel. There's multiple daily. You can simply watch and listen. Intherooms.com My username is the same as here if anyone wants to add me as a friend

Dee74

How are you doing lpg?

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